Hmm… why don’t you meet at the guy at a neutral location to see if he’s truly creeptastic or not?
Or not. I found mine on OKCupid fwiw.
He also had horrible punctuation.
You know, maybe I will look around at OKCupid.
For the record FloatyGimpy, I fully support your endeavor to find a fuck buddy, and I think you should pursue the matter with great vigor. Under the right circumstances I’d be willing to help you out, but you know - I live in California, and I don’t think my girlfriend would approve.
Damn California, damn girlfriend…:mad:
Try the social networking sites, seriously. In most cases you’ll be able to see lots of pictures and read comments made by them and their friends. There are groups specifically geared towards pairing fuckbuddies. Or you can do what the miserable heathens like myself do; mass add people. For every five girls I add, one wants to drop me a message. 
OkCupid worked well for me. I never used it to find a fuckbuddy, but I met guys I wouldn’t have minded having such a relationship with had I been so inclined.
Wait a minute, surely one or all of these guys could be pressed into service!
Alas, those are hot-bodied 20 year olds and I am an out of shape 39 year old.
Just be careful. It’s generally not that hard to figure out which people are there for keeping up with friends, and which people are using it as a personals site. (Their friends are a great indication.) Also, absolutely do not link to personals, especially if they have pictures of you naked. That’s what the spammers claim to be, and they get shut down very regularly.
Oh, and, if you already have an account, make a new one for this purpose. Trust me.
Yea go for it! And screw what people say about craigslist. I love craigslist. The bad things about it are the flakes and weirdos. There’s a TON of flakes, but there’s only the standard deviation of weirdos one would find on any personals website.
I would help you out FloatyGimpy, as I’m also looking for a fuckbuddy, but I’m closer to the other Vancouver. I’ve had some mediocre luck looking on OKCupid too, seems like there’s higher quality of people there. They just won’t write me back, that’s all.
WHERE ARE THESE GROUPS? ahem where did you say these groups were again? For research, I mean.
Continue with your plan to go to the gym and/or weight watchers or some other activity. You will meet actual people there and maybe one of them will be interested in some physical fun? Really, it may be difficult to bring up the subject of fucking but you will have the opportunity to figure out if your potentual buddies are creeps, you’ll have a lot better idea what they look like and, who knows, you may have fun and get in better shape youself.
Always!
Absolutely. I don’t solicit girls for sex or anything. As I said, for every five or so I add, one messages me and very early on I let them know I’m not interested in anything serious. It’s worked for me so far.
I don’t even have an account on a personal site, so I think I’m safe in this department.
:smack: Why?
Just do a search on the site. I’ve found dating groups specific to the country, the state and even the city (Phoenix- but it might be harder to find groups for smaller cities). I’ve never actually used these groups, but they do exist.
If you just want a “fuck” buddy I would suggest you go with a site specifically geared for that sort of thing. Maybe something like adultfriendfinder.com, rather than Match - Find Singles with Match's Online Dating Personals Service. It seems to me like there would be less chance for misunderstanding / hurt feelings on a site geared towards casual sex rather than “dating”
AFF would be the like goldmining for a single woman … sift through lots and lots of crap to find a decent nugget or two. OKCupid would be my suggestion. One of the things you can say that you’re looking for is “casual sex” so it doesn’t get much clearer than that!
If you make your account look like a personal ad, it can look bad to people you do want to just be friends with. Plus, it lets you go as far as you want without having to worry about offending grandma or whoever.
I mean, I don’t know if it’s one hundred percent vital, but why invite possible trouble?
Oh, and I knew one girl who had job problems because one of her friends from work saw what she liked to do in her down time on Facebook, if you know what I mean. But maybe that’s more of a “Don’t add your friends from work” thing.
BTW, you may want to check out http://www.myyearbook.com/. While originally for kids, it has a somewhat large population of adults on there that just want to use the Secret Admirer function. I’ve met more people on there than Facebook and MySpace combined.
Not too worried about this.
This is a good point, though… hmm… I’ll consider it. But atm I’ve got so much communication going through my current profile that it seems like it would be a really big bother to transfer it over… =/ I’ll consider it.
I didn’t come out of my shell until after high school, so I don’t know many people from school, currently. I’m assuming that’s what it does, reconnects you with people from your old schools?
Never heard of that site, thank you. I’ll take a look for sure.
As long as you’re being a wee bit adventurous, make sure you maintain control of everything.
Two sites that I (and Mrs.) recommend are SLS and SDC dot com.
They are geared toward nothing more basic than couples and singles (or more) getting together for consensual behavior between adults.
Their profiles give you much more information than CL, you can verify with their “friends list” that they’re not creep-tacular, and you’ll be able to find a nice neutral place to meet, such as a club that caters to this lifestyle (where they brook no non-sense and you’ll be safe) or a house party with like-minded folks.
I know this may seem like throwing you into the deep end of “swingers world”, when all you wanted was a casual encounter, but we know many folks like yourself who just dabble their toes in now and then and are perfectly happy. It’s a lot safer that way.
Good Luck and have fun.
Big supporter of fuck buddies, not so much of craigslist, for reasons folks have already explained (primarily the 'sent a reply regarding something you specifically said you weren’t interested in).
Literotica has a personals section where I’ve met a lot of intelligent, articulate, sexy guys (admittedly haven’t had sex with any of them, but there are some I definitely wouldn’t kick out of bed!).
If, as ducati says, you’re feeling adventurous, there’s always FetLife. Breaks down by location if needed, so you can search as close to/far from home as you like.