I didn’t want to say “fuck” in the title so in case you aren’t sure what I mean, I mean fuck buddy.
I posted an add on Craigslist looking for a male or female work out buddy. I made it very clear I was not looking for anything else, just someone to go to the gym and weight watchers with. About a week after I placed the add I got a reply from a guy saying that sex helps with weight loss…wink wink. It got me thinking. It’s been quite some time since I’ve had any action so I replied and he also needs to lose weight but also wants to have a bit of fun. We’ve exchanged pictures and he looks like a pretty normal guy.
I would really love to do this but I’m pretty nervous about the whole thing. How does it work? How do I make sure I’m safe? Is it a bad/good idea? I need some others views on it.
It’s a bad idea to have sex with people from craigslist. The fact that you posted “I’m not looking for sex” and got a reply from someone looking for sex is kind of creepy.
That said, there’s nothing wrong with just having sex for fun. If you are a normal person without some goofy psychological condition or physical deformity or something, you probably won’t even have to try to hard to find someone for casual sex.
I probably wouldn’t choose this particular guy as your fuck buddy- fat guys really sweat a lot. But, in general, there’s nothing wrong with having one as long as you’re okay with it, and the other person’s okay with it. What could go wrong, right? (Don’t answer that.)
I too am going to discourage this guy as being a fuckbuddy. I’m getting a really skeeved out feeling from the simple fact you explicity stated that you weren’t looking for more and so what’s he do? He inquires about more than working out anyways.
If you’re gonna have a fuckbuddy at least make it with someone you know to some extent and not just some random perv who happened to be lucky enough to mention it when you’re in the middle of a dry spell.
My fat joke aside, the reason I wouldn’t with this guy is- you put one condition in your ad (not add!), and he couldn’t deal with that. This small gesture is very significant in that it tells you exactly what importance he will place on your wants and needs- none.
It’s a great way to find someone for that kind of relationship. You can make your expectations clear up front and women usually have tons of responses to choose from.
But I agree with everyone else. Fuckbuddies are excellent. But the guy who wrote the OP is a creep.
I agree about the particular guy the OP is writing about, as well as the general fact that a lot of people on craigslist are weirdos. But why categorically rule out meeting anyone there that you might have sex with? I mean, for someone who is not really outgoing, having some online interaction before meeting can really soothe your nerves about the face to face, and if you decide you just don’t want to go through with it it’s easy to blow them off.
I agree with the general spirit of what you’re saying—not every person on Craigslist looking for NSA sex is going to be unacceptable. But there are better places to look for this sort of thing, even online. The clientele you get at Craigslist is generally pretty shitty. I sold a car on there, but I wouldn’t try to get laid on there.
I think a place like OkCupid would probably be pretty decent for that kind of thing, though it seems more geared toward dating. I honestly don’t have any experience in the subject, though everything I’ve read suggests that Craigslist tends to be among the worst.
No matter where you find someone, though, always meet first in a public place and make sure a friend knows where you’re going and what you’re doing, and don’t be afraid of calling it off if your internal radar suggests something is amiss. Number one rule of meeting people off the tubes.
I answered an ad from somebody who wanted an editor, and it turned out he really wanted a fuckbuddy. Because he was writing erotica! He needed to know if that stuff could really be done!
I posted to Craigslist looking for a ride to the only theater in Kansas City playing Bollywood movies. The only responses were from guys who never wrote back after I informed them that I was also a guy. Who really, honestly loves Bollywood movies and was just looking for a ride to the theater.
By the way, I really want to find a ride from midtown Kansas City to the AMC 30 to watch Bollywood movies. And no, I’m not looking for sex. Just movies.
I am going to go with the very strong consensus and not hook up with this guy, because you’re all right, I placed the add in Platonic Only and made it very clear what I was looking for.
And yes, I tell the underage girls to take a hike. We’re not all pervs!