Have you ever been in a Turkish prison?
She mentioned taking the private course again for a couple of reasons: 1). To let you know that she doesnt dislike you, as a student, and 2). To re-establish the professional relationship between the two of you. Someone earlier in the thread talked about the delicate tight rope a teacher must walk when they know a student has a crush (even more so for a younger teacher). This is exactly what the teacher here is trying to do.
She is not and never will be a ‘date’ to you. The sooner you embrace this truth, the better.
This.
I have an inkling you were a wee bit obvious. She’s probably used to student crushes.
Indeed. Not been to Turkey yet myself, but I’ve known quite a few who have traveled there, and every one of them without exception loved the place.
Have you tried sending her a picture of your weiner?
Sometimes guys have to take those chances. I’m not saying they have to declare their love to someone they barely know, and I’m not saying to keep pushing until she gives in. Getting shot down sucks and could be potentially awkward, but never taking the chance is worse.
Agreed. What held me back for a long time from acquiring the experience and social awareness I lacked, was a desire not to embarrass others, or make others feel awkward or whatever.
I think guys can’t afford to think like that. Get the experience, and learn from it.
You will become better at casually flirting in such a way that you can initiate relationships where possible, but no-one loses face and you don’t break friendships or whatever in the cases where it is not.
Schnitzel.
I think you handled it pretty well. I would have recommended something ambiguous like you chose, too, as that makes things less awkward. And, yes, you interpreted it correctly. She does not want to date you, but would be okay with tutoring you again.
Yeah, picking a sport she wouldn’t be interested in might not be the best, but you got your answer anyways. And, if she had said yes, it would be much more obvious that she wanted to hang out with you rather than her being interested in game. And, if she didn’t want to watch soccer but wanted to hang with you, she would have likely recommended something else.
I’ve had a few people I’ve wondered about, but chose not to do anything about, only to find out that they were interested, but only after it was too late. (Heck, it sorta happened last night. Someone drunk Facebooked me.)
She’s not interested, but it’s okay. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Also, it’s possible that there is a financial incentive to her getting you to sign up for further tutelage.
There’s a bit of racial tension about Turkish immigrants in Germany right now, and a lot of negative stereotypes. At least, in Bavaria. It can cause issues sometimes, and I’d daresay it’s certainly enough to make the odd person worry about their race being an issue in relationships. Racism sucks. 
Awkward is kinda in the direction of “peinlich” (the way it’s sometimes used in a weird situation where someone was perhaps a little onbeholfen) - not quite the same, and related to embarrassing but also like uncomfortable. Does that help?
Now, you’re right that telling someone you have feelings for them can be a nice thing, it can sometimes be a compliment. But it’s also a little more complex than that, and you need some social awareness here.
You have indicated to us that you feel that you developed those feelings towards her because she was nice to you and she smiled at you. I know you don’t mean to put “blame” on her for inciting feelings in you, but it is coming a little close.
For a woman and a teacher, and I speak as both, it is really awkward to have students declaring their love for you. And if you tell her that, and especially if you indicate that it is because of anything she did, this is upsetting. She will wonder if she should stop smiling at people, and if she should stop saying really normal things like “you have nice hobbies”. Does that make sense to you? That it isn’t always a compliment to bother her with your personal feelings in this way?
So yes, in a certain way it’s a compliment and it is nice to know that other people like you and find you attractive. But for women, and teachers especially, it can sometimes be different. If you are not trying to do anything to attract people in that way, it makes you question what you have done for this to happen. We live in a society that easily assigns blame to women for smiling and leading men on, while at the same time condemning women who don’t smile enough. You could potentially contribute to this problem for your teacher by revealing your feelings. It doesn’t make you a terrible person, and it doesn’t mean you should never tell people how you feel. It just means that you need to consider that before you speak.
This is a pretty complicated issue, I think. I hope I explained it just a little.
Well said, Gracer. 
Well, that worked out better than I expected. No stalking arrests were made. No investigations into the disappearance of a tutor. No suicide by a forlorn college student. Just a gentle shutdown that you recognized for what it was. Frankly, it was a bit disappointing. 
Kid, we laugh because we’ve all been there, many of us repeatedly. Edited to add: And some of us long after when we should know better.
I would not be so certain.
Just like in the video game “Diablo 3”, the angel of Death, Malthael, said:
“Death will release you from pain, Nephalem. In death, there is peace.”
For the reasons you’ve said, I actually think it was quite a good choice. Even if she wasn’t interested in the sport, if she was interested in him, it would have been a safe place to hang out and get to know each other and ascertain if there was more than just friendly interest. Since she said no, he knows her feelings on that matter.
He should have tried weiner pictures. Still not too late.
That is very inappropriate thing to do. Please stop that joke. Thanks 
Maybe he could offer to pay her for the date. Heh.
Something like this?
You misspelled “Wiener”.
Well, he did and he didn’t.
