DUH!
Black and pink, of course. And wear the skirt that goes all the way down to the top of your hips.
I was having trouble putting in / getting accustomed to contact lenses. If a woman at work offers to help you learn to put in your lenses at her place and asks if you’re there if you can fix her computer… specifically when her boyfriend is not home, you should just avoid that whole situation. I didn’t, but it didn’t turn out as badly as you might expect. I took the invitation as simply an invitation to do the two tasks at hand. I accomplished them and then went on with my day. She never really treated me the same after that and it took me way too long to realize that she was probably “into me” and looking for an excuse to get out of her current relationship.
Had I realized and acted on it, it probably would’ve been really, really messy. Fortunately for me, I would’ve had the common sense to avoid the drama even if I did recognize her come-ons.
More practical advice? Ask your married friends. Shortly after I got married, I had to beat the women off with a stick; and I’m not a physically attractive (though not repulsive) guy. Once I was able to stand outside myself and see what was really happening to me, it was obvious. There was something about being young, confident and unavailable that was like a goddamned super-pheromone.
True enough. But see the mirror thread on why guys often miss the obvious signals that a woman is sending out. As I predicted, the answers were overwhelmingly “They were too subtle”, “I wasn’t looking for them”, and “I just assumed that she’s that way with everyone.”
Was condom girl flirting with me, or was she just providing good customer service? I’ll never know, but a cute girl told me she was single and unhappy about it, and she wanted to show me sex toys. I should have stuck around long to find out.
Condom girl is different - she was not going to be tipped for her services to you. At least not her retail services.
I never did give her the tip. Or the rest of it. Oh well.
The story hasn’t ended yet.
It probably has. I’m not likely going to go in there again, unless there is specifically something I want to buy. I thought condom girl was cute, but she really wasn’t my type.
Bookstore girl, though? God, I’m still kicking myself for missing the opportunity with her.
Italian guy. Cliched, but true at least for me. Many Mediterranean guys are just that bit more daring/persistent and more willing to run the risk of rejection if there’s a chance they might score.
:rolleyes: No, I mean a person who shows you minimal positive interest, such as occasionally laughing at your stupid jokes, shouldn’t then be stalked.
Hmm. Had lunch with one of the aforementioned girls today, and when we sat down she wrapped her leg round mine, put her hand on my thigh several times, then started rubbing my knee.
I still don’t know if she’s interested or not. 
I kid. Not even I’m that blind this time.
I have a friend who says he often doesn’t know if he’s on a date or not until he ends up in bed with the girl.
If she mounts you, perhaps THAT’S the time to ask. Before that it’s just too ambiguous.
So! I guess we studboys are supposed to understand what THAT means?!?!?!?! Like that’s supposed to be some kind of message?!?!?!?!?!Sheesh!
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Yeah man, we’re not freaking mind readers you know!
Sounds like you’re in like Flynn.
Ask her something like “Do you do this to all of your trainers?”
Maybe. I’ve been such an idiot, that whenever I have been hit on by subordinates, that I pull away, fearing sexual harassment.
What I didn’t realize at the time, responding would be more of a job requirement/perc rather than…
You get the idea.
Jobs are a dime a dozen, compared to 'the one chance."
Take it.
Best wishes,
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Yeah!! Yeah!! Mindreaders!!!We’re not!! Thanks, 1920s etc…!
Yeah!
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Which one?
BTW, if you’re with the one whose jugs you grabbed, next time she says “I have to go now.” MAKE her stay. I don’t mean make as in force, but, get semi-pushy, whatever that means, and is legal. She wants you to put up resistance to her leaving. Guess how I know this? Because, I didn’t. A month later, she straightened me out.
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Time to up the racy conversation and put it on a more sexual level, like ask her what color bra she is wearing.
Declan
HH,
What is the reason for this? Is it to boost her ego? Because she’s insecure about the man’s desire for her? Something else?
Did the woman who did that in your case realise she was putting you in a rather difficult position? I’ve read case-law where a man eventually allowed the woman to leave without having sex with her, never used violence or threats and was convicted of sexual assault.
Whatever happened to “no means no”? Isn’t being non-pushy when it comes to sex the non-assholish thing to do?
This thread has demonstrations?!