It sounds like you need some friends and interests to entertain yourself when your husband isn’t in the mood to talk. Perhaps if you go to lunch with a friend, or do something else interesting during the day you won’t be so put off when your husband doesn’t want to be bothered. And if you aren’t always complaining or “needing to talk” about him being quiet, he might find himself in the mood to talk with you more. He can probably sense when you are annoyed/upset about his lack of talking, and that in turn makes him even quieter than he would have been.
This is such a true thing, i did not realize this at all, though now coming to think of it, it is true.