Since when are SDMB posters qualified therapists?

The BBQ Pit
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{“Maybe this board should have a section for fluff, and a section for people like me who want to discuss real issues.”
Hmmm. Call me goofy, but I thought this big wad of message boards was intended to be about TSD and Unca’ Cecil. I kind of expected the discussions contained herein to be somewhat centered around the column, rather than IRC-like chat.}

This is why we divided the forums. General Questions, Comments about Cecil’s Column, and Mailbag Comments are all centered around The Straight Dope. I’m not sure where the Great Debates forum would fit.

HOWEVER, we started on AOL, and built up a community of weirdos-errrr, interesting folks. This is why there’s a lot of “fluff” postings. MPSIMS was INTENDED to be pure fluff, sort of like cotton candy, there’s no substance but it’s pretty and tastes good. It’s a part of our community and tradition now.

My suggestion to everyone is to read the threads/forums they like, and ignore the ones they DON’T like. If you don’t want to read flames, stay out of the pit. You don’t want to read fluff? Stay out of MPSIMS. Cecil will still love you even if you don’t read every post in the MPSIMS forum.

Lynn/SDStaff Lynn
For the Straight Dope

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Thanks, Lynn. And that’s why I avoid MPSIMS like the plague.

But I just thought I’d jump into the Pit to burn off a little frustration at the folks who post “fluff” in the middle of the “non-fluff” boards. To add just a bit more flame, and clarify my position on the Comments message board:

I DON’T GIVE A RAT’S ASS if you’re a paranoid schizophrenic, or a double amputee, or if WalMart doesn’t have stretch pants on sale. I DON’T CARE if your husband/wife/s.o. beats you or if the government is late with your welfare check . . .

Unless it’s valid to the discussion and lends some support to an argument. And even then, christ, don’t whine about it.

/rant

-andros-

There’s always a bigger fish.

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Andros,
That wasnt actually supposed to be condescending, I thought you made a point and I tried to respond politely to it.I apologise if it sounded condescending.

When I first started lurking here, I thought MPSIMS was a word.

for more on this phenomenon,see "How stupid am I…Shut up Satan!"in MPSIMS.

Lynn, I agree.

Now that I have agreed with Lynn, and made nice with Diane, I am signing off to go boil my eyes.

Thank you and have a (twitch) nice day.

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Andros - For someone who only registered last Wednesday, why don’t you shut the hell up! If you don’t like the MPSIMS, stay the hell out of the forum. Nobody is forcing you to read anything. You say that you don’t give a rat’s ass about what these people think? Hey, guess what? They probably don’t give a rat’s ass about what you think, either. God knows, I don’t.

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kellibelli wrote:

You could tell him you haven’t dated any other guys for at least the last 8 hours. :slight_smile:

Personally, I can’t imagine something even of that magnitude would put me off “oral snacking”. I really enjoy performing cunnilingus when I get the opportunity, and right now it’s one of the things I really miss.

I’m not flying fast, just orbiting low.

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Wanna go steady?

:wink:

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Kelli: no offense meant and none taken. My apologies, and I’m glad you have asbestos pj’s on.

Devil: Mmmm . . . thought that’d get the ol’ BBQ fired up. Let’s see.

“Andros - For someone who only registered last Wednesday, why don’t you shut the hell up!”

oooh, you’re cool. You can find out how long ago I registered under this name. I’m so proud of you.

“If you don’t like the MPSIMS, stay the hell out of the forum. Nobody is forcing you to read anything.”

I think I made that point already. I DON’T go into MPSIMS. As I said, I don’t think it is appropriate for the Straight Dope website. As near as I can tell (and I’ve been reading Cecil for a while) the SD is about eliminating ignorance, not personal politics or solving Springer-esque problems.

But that’s my opinion, and I didn’t make you read it.

“You say that you don’t give a rat’s ass about what these people think? Hey, guess what? They probably don’t give a rat’s ass about what you think, either.”

Works for me. What’s the problem? They get to whine, I get to vent. I don’t care much what other people think of me either.

“God knows, I don’t.”

Oh, damn. And here I was pining away for you.
Look, Devil . . . if what I say didn’t bother you, why’d you respond? And so very vitriolically? Not that I mind. After all, this is a flame pit. But I wonder if there’s a reason my posts got under your skin so badly?

There’s always a bigger fish.

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{Now that I have agreed with Lynn, and made nice with Diane, I am signing off to go boil my eyes.}Kellibelli

Cripes. I think the Pit just froze over. Satan? Are you experiencing an unexpected cool spell?

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Go bite a rock, Satan! I know damn well that these people aren’t professional therapists, and I’ll still ask them advise about my new son whenever I damn well please! Just ignore the thread for Christsake!

The advise of people like ChrisCTP and Kellibelli has been more precious than gold to me- they know better than the “experts”! A little moral support never hurts, either. :slight_smile:

Prairie Rose

If you’re not part of the solution you’re just scumming up the bottom of the beaker.

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[list=1][li]How do you know I’m not a therapist?  (Besides the fact I’m not collecting any fees for any of the advice I give?)[/li]
[li]According to those in the psych biz, therapy couldn’t happen here on the board even if you wanted it to. Therapy is treatment for a diagnosed mental illness. A few posts back and forth could not establish a diagnosis, nor establish any means of therapy.[/li]
[li]Talking about problems and getting advice about problems (i.e., counseling)[/li]can certainly happen here on the board. In many states, you don’t need no stinking credentials to be a counselor (though the courts will certainly hold you to the ethical standards of a counselor-client relationship
if you make yourself out to be one).  Venting, or discussing problems, even when there is no solution proferred or found, can itself be helpful
for coping with the problem.

[li]If you need therapy, get it. You know when you need it.  Let your venting here give you the courage to seek the therapy you need and not be a replacement for the therapy.[/li]
[li]Don’t read the vents if you don’t want to read vents.[/li]
[li]And finally, Satan, consider this: The venting that people do makes us feel superior.  And when they are given terribly bad advice for their problems, then we get to flame those idiots. ;)[/list=1][/li]</dl>
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Uhhmmm…how many minutes after the last date? I’m not sure I would cop to knowing what it was. I might go, “Whoa!! What is that?” But I doubt I’d go, "Hey!! I just got a mouthful of some other guys sperm!! It would be between me and my therapist…or this board?

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Actually Satan, thou protesteth too much. I asumed in your OP that you were actually making fun of yourself. You know, your picture, Heatherlee, falling down, etc. Kelli apparently did so too. So I was wrong. Based on you ONLY responding to Kelli, and ignoring the rest I have to assume you have it out for Kelli, and only Kelli. This thread was just a way for you to get some sort of vicarious thrill out of flaming Kelli. But, you would kind of expect that from someone whose most prized possession (over heath, liberty, or family) is his music collection.

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Hee hee - weirdos. . . . :smiley:

HEY! Wait a minute! I started on AOL! :frowning:

>^,^<
KITTEN

Coarse and violent nudity. Occasional language.

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Mr Thin Skin:

Nah, this wasn’t set out directly for her. She is just the worst offender, and she also has the most posts in this thread, before her name ever came up. Do the math.

I think there’s a distinction between answering questions and being revealing of your personal life and constantly posting stuff about “My life sucks - Help me!” Help yourself, okay?

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Think that’s bad? I started on AOL - before it was AOL! (Got dropped just as often, though)

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Another Q-Linker? I gave it up when I just couldn’t pay the premium rates, and I couldn’t stay out of the chat rooms. Which were far more interesting in those days. :wink:

Lynn the Packrat

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A therapist is to a friend as a prostitute is to a lover. True, they may be more experienced, but is that really what you’re looking for? Besides, they cost more.

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The pussy you pay for is a hell of a lot cheaper than the stuff you get for free.

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kellibelli?
Your boyfriend is lying. I know it hurts to hear it like this but it’s true. Take it from a guy (me), he’s only saying this because it worked on some other girl and she was happy to give and not receive so…
please tell him ‘thanks’ from all us guys. We appreciate the idea.
Seriously, he is lying. You should tell him that your friend lost an eye pleasing her husband, and now you can’t ‘perform’ for him. And then suggest that if you both helped each other, maybe you could work through it.
He’ll know you’ve figured it out, and come ‘round to your way of thinkin’.
Good Luck! :slight_smile:

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Ummmm… didn’t get any tranqs when you decided to stop smoking did you? no patch? No Nicorett gum?

By the way, as much as none of you will believe it – I’m trained/educated in psychology and nursing, one on one therapy, group, and so on and so forth.

Surprise, huh?

CAREFUL! We don’t want to learn from this!(Calvin and Hobbs)