I dunno. I’m a hetero female, and I read your post thinking “damn, a few years ago I could have written all that”.
Heh. I wonder what “talent” that might be!
Just to clarify my previous post. I have no problem with casual sex. It’s usually not as good as the relationship kind, but what can you do?
But I personnaly find the regular sex with a friend minus love the problematic one. That does not work for me and I have seen it go wrong so many times. I’m not saying it can’t work -and if it does for you then enjoy it- just that that road seems a bit dangerous.
IMO the ideal sex without relationship situation is the fling with someone far away. This is an attractive-ish someone who might have ended up your friend had they lived in your neighbourhood but instead you meet them whilst staying in a place you don’t visit more than once or twice a year. That way you can have your cake and eat it, having sex with someone who is actually pleasant, without the risk of either of you getting in deeper than they can handle.
Yes please.