I thought I’d submit this little predictament to the Dopers :).
See, there’s a girl that I’m rather attracted to, and I’m getting to the point that I want to find out whether things will happen, or maybe just have her know. That’s the problem… I’ve been advised not to ask her out for a number of reasons, one being a mutual friend (of me and her) that is sort of obsessed with her. He’s been rather in her face about the whole thing, so we all suspect that she’s probably a bit boy OD’d. That being said, I don’t really want to ask her out as yet, per se. However, I’m tired of worrying about this thing, so I think I want to inform her. I’m not sure if this is a good idea, though. For one thing, there is little to indicate mutual interest. It’s just not terribly likely, I don’t think. For another, there’s what I’ve mentioned. I don’t want to make things “weird.” On my side in that area is the indication that that won’t be a problem, since she’s still good friends with the mutual friend, and they get along fine despite the tension of him being so crazy over her. Also, I will not be (and haven’t been) nearly so in her face and obvious about the whole thing. It should continue to be a non-issue if she isn’t interested.
So, the sum is, I want to tell her, but am afraid of freaking her out. I mean, what does she have to do, beat us off with a stick!? I’m afraid that she probably won’t be interested in me, and would almost certainly not want to start something right now (which is why I don’t intend to actually ask her out). I think I want her to know, however.It’ll ease my mind, no matter what… right? Dopers, what is your experience with this thing? Is it “safe” to bring it up, in general? Or should I stay silent? If I tell her, what’s the best way to do it? Obviously, I don’t want to say something like “I love you more than I love the very ground I walk on,” or similar “YIKES!” material.
Thoughts, ideas, suggestions? Thanks y’all :).