I have one huge grudge from years ago. The poster was just totally, irrationally bitchy in an exchange with me. To this day, whenever I see posts by the person, I think, “What a freaking asshole.” Doesn’t matter what they’re saying. I take solace in the fact, though, that this poster is generally an asshole to everyone…I’ve even seen them make posts in innocuous CS threads that annoyed me. I don’t have them on ignore, I just roll my eyes at every post.
There’s one other person that I don’t hold a grudge against exactly, but a past exchange with them has definitely colored my opinion of all their other posts.
I can’t do the ignore thing, though. I’m hoping one day someone who pisses me off will get banned in spectacular fashion and I’ll witness it all. I also like to see other posters do the smackdown that I could never muster myself.
I’ve had heated arguments – heated to the point of flaming – with a couple of posters here. I still respect 'em and would be glad of the opportunity to raise a glass with them if we weren’t separated by vast geographic distances.
There’s only one grudge I’m holding and it’s over something very, very minor. But I tend to hold grudges over small things and let the big things slide off my back. I’m weird that way.
Absolutely. At this point, there are 668 Dopers whom I flat-out detest, 349 I loathe, 196 I resent, 502 that rub me the wrong way, and another two to three thousand that I’m actively conspiring against. To any of the above: be careful starting your lawnmower Saturday.
I tend not to notice names. There are one or two people I consider to be absolute fartknockers, but that’s because they said something stupid or mean enough to really stand out. I won’t avoid threads by them.
There’s one poster that, when responding to my posts, has ALWAYS seemed offended by whatever I wrote, going so far as to call me racist a few times. If they posta wonderful treatise on urban planning and the built environment, or any other topic that interests me, I’d stay silent. They never have anything nivce to say to me, so …
A few of the folks here annoy me, a few seriously bore me, but I’m pretty sure I fit both categories for some of them, as well. So, bygones. I’ve never put anyone on ‘Ignore’ and don’t expect I ever will.
Yeah, a few people chap my tits, and yes, I hold a little bit of a grudge, but not enough to ever use my ignore list. Ususally, I just tell myself to go outside and get some sunshine.
Well, it’s like this. IRL I do hold grudges, often in such a way that the object of the grudge doesn’t know it. But I figure I have enough crap going on in my life with people I actually see day to day that I don’t need to get that upset over people that I will likely never meet. That said, there are a few Dopers of whom I cherish no good opinion, based on what I have seen of them here. However, I have never seen a need to get into anything with them. I kinda need to spend my energy elsewhere.
I hold one greatbighuge giant enormous grudge on this board. I hate this one poster with a fiery passion. I wish him a long and painful death (not by me, of course, I’m not a killer.) Ooooh, how I hate him.
But I can’t remember his name.
Does it still count as a grudge if you don’t know who it’s against?
I don’t use the ignore function, and I don’t let the fact that I totally fucking hate someone color my views of their non-contentious posts…much. I’m more inclined to let the innocent posts re-humanize a poster I’ve decided is a demon than the other way 'round.
Some folks I enjoy hating so much it’s pretty much liking them, and I know it. Anyone I engage in hot combat is likely to be on this list. I generally respect them, though sometimes it’s because I think they’re entertaining.
Some folks I want to like, except they seem to be doing everything in their power to stop me. These are the ones whose positions I agree with, but whose articulation thereof leaves much to be desired. Their motivations may also be suspect to me.
And then there are those people whose posts I just skim, looking hopefully forward to the refutations I know will follow, because it’s just better for me that way. Reading their ignorant bile makes me want to respond, but there’s only one forum I can do so in because I’m not grown-up and calm enough to be all smart about it. It gives me so much pleasure to see other people more successfully tackling them that I could never complete ignore them. But as human beings…if they were on fire, even if I just drank a Big Gulp-sized tankard of Sapporo, I might have to think a minute before putting them out. Even if they’re not really that way, the fact that they’ve ever acted that way anywhere is enough to make me dislike them.
I like many more people here than not. But that’s how the ones I dislike tend to get ranked.
Most of those who I disliked are now gone via either banning or expired membership.
I have no grudges. I have never engaged in any heated exchanges on the board; that is, in part, because I don’t post often. I do, however, read the SDMB often…almost daily. There are still a handul of members for whom I have little or no respect; I have never had a single exchange with nearly all of them.
I only hold grudges against those who seem to hold a grudge against me. Does that make sense?
I am probably the milkiest of the milktoasts, but there are a couple of posters whom I think I rubbed the wrong way and who might have me on ignore. I’ve made comments in threads of theirs and crickets would chirp. Later, someone would make the exact same comment or suggestion and it would get oooh, brilliant!! for a response. I can only assume they’re ignoring me, but I can’t imagine why they’d bother.
The only thing that permanently puts me off is when I catch someone deliberately making stuff up. You can’t have children one year and be childless two years later and never bat an eye. And you can’t be born in South Africa one year and then in New Jersey another year. After a while, a pattern emerges.
And don’t tell me you majored in english and Speach at Harvert.
But a little name-calling and sassiness doesn’t permanently put me off – not if you have integrity.
Everywhere else online I go by siglines and avatars, can’t do that here tho’… this board is so anonymous and so populous it’s hardly worth trying to hold a grudge
I try to limit it by forum. I hate people in the Pit and GD, but outside those fora I try to forgive and forget.
There are some assholes whose assholery transcends those boundaries, but I don’t use the ignore list.
Although, come to think of it, there are folks who, if they start a thread, I don’t open it unless someone interesting is listed as “last posted by”. Not so much out of a grudge, I just assume the person has nothing interesting to say. I check once in a while, but I am not usually wrong.
Nope, I can’t say as I do. I’ve disagreed strongly with posters, particularly in the “Are You A Cheap Tipper?” thread, but it hasn’t caused me to dislike anyone or bear any grudges. Rather, it has taught me to avoid “tipping” threads like the plague, inasmuch as I know I will get worked up.
Thing is, like others have said, I find those people I disagree with in some threads are kindred spirits in others.
I can’t be bothered. My limit seems to be 3 posts of argument and then I give up. It has only happened a few times with well known exponents. I express an opinion, they express the opposite opinion and point out how wrong I am, I correct some assumption they have made about my post, they reword my post make new assumptions about what I am saying and berate me further. Just like in real life I can’t be bothered wasting time/energy and go on to something else.
