I’ll go with you. 
What a coincidence, Watermelon Man.
I, too, had a boyfriend once who was a broad for awhile.
Does Tequila Mockingbird look a lot like Little Sis from Diesel Sweeties http://www.dieselsweeties.com
As for 3somes… my wife always seems to get in these crazy situations when I’m not around (like stripping in a car while driving, and ending up making out with a guy and his girlfriend, or ending up on stage naked with several other people at a nightclub), which get her aroused but unfulfilled… until the two of us are alone together 
Cheer up Cyndar. We can still get in on this. You, me and Eutychus55. What do you say? Three birds, one stone.
Does having TWO magazines out count? Does it?!? Could it count?!?!
Damn
Put me with the insanely jelous crowd.
Well thanks y’all!!!
Actually, (and I hate to burst everyone’s bubble) Mr. Duhnym is the one that usually comes up with all this weird stuff and convinces me to try it…took him about six months to convince me on the swing club shenanigans.
So I guess I’m really the lucky one.
I’ve had several multiples-experiences (three, four and more). The most was a 40th BD for an ex-boyfriend - 100 guys in a loft, mandatory clothing check (except underwear) for the first two hours - then at 11 pm the check boys came around with baskets to collect our shorts, and the fun began. (Interestingly, everyone kept to oral sex, although condoms were provided for those who wanted…more.)
Three-ways have ranged from fantastic to awful. Most have involved going home with a couple, i.e. being the meat in a manwich. The key is to make sure (a) you’re equally attracted to both members…uh… men… uh… and (b) they’re equally attracted to you. The biggest mistake I made was in going home with a cute guy to meet his boyfriend… who turned out to look like Dr. Bunsen Honeydew minus the lab coat.
Now, the fantasy-of-fantasies for me is to have a boy-boy-girl threeway. I don’t think I’d ever have a one-on-one with a woman (I don’t need reassurance that I am, in fact a Big Homo) but god, with a cute guy involved it’d be HOT…
It was absolutely fantastic, until we all double-bogeyed the thirteenth hole (one out-of-bounds, the other two in the water) and then it all went downhill from there. But for a while the putts were just rolling in all OVER the greens!
Actually, last night was great, thanks for asking.
I’m firmly convinced that love no longer sucks donkeys…
Funny enough but anytime we got close to doing such a thing, it was the guy who backed out of the threesome. Tne other girl and I just ended up getting very drunk and passing out on the couch.
I went through a period of about 3 years when it would be me, my girlfriend at the time, and her friend from work. The friend pretty much became a girlfriend to both of us. She’d hang out with my girlfriend at times, and at other times the friend and I would hook up.
Of course, the best times were when all 3 of us hopped in the sack. As a guy, I must say that one of the most sensual things I’ve ever done is, um, co-cunnilingus - where myself and the friend would be doing my GF at the same time. Just thinking about our tongues slapping around together is starting to make my sweatpants move.
Ah, memories.
Years ago Mrs Chance and I did some foursomes and sixsomes (never a threesome as that always struck me as unfair somehow). It was good but not all the guys were non-jerks afterwards, if you know what I mean. We kinda got turned off on the concept, Mrs Chance especially.
My problem now is this: it’s been about 12 years since we last tried anything like this and I’m still kinda interested. (I suppose I can blame this thread for that!)
But how do I go about bringing it back up to Mrs Chance? For all I know she’ll be all for it but what if I guess wrong? And where would we go? Given our past experiences I’d be more comfortable meeting strangers than bringing a pal in. If there are really clubs for this sort of thing how does one join?
Really, I’d be too embarassed to start a thread over this. Hopefully, hiding a request for advice way down here is safer.
Just talk about it. Communication is the biggest part of having extra partners, especially in a marriage. Without it, you will experience more trouble that you can ever imagine.
Bring it up during foreplay, or when you are talking about your fantasies. Don’t push, just ask if she would be interested in doing that again.
Look in your local alternative newspapers or magazines. There are usually ‘freak clubs’ in every major cities that cater to that sort of thing.
If you don’t want to deal with that, go to a club or a bar. Talk to people, both you and Mrs. Chance. The women that I have had experiences with, have always liked the fact that they can have me and my wife knows about it (and joins in on occasion 
). Its just a matter of communication.
Include me in, please.
My one, ah, chance at a threesome happened about 10 years ago. I was approached by a petty officer first class who asked if I wanted to have a threesome with him and his girlfriend. There were some problems with this:
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The guy was, quite frankly, gross-looking. He was significantly overweight and looked like a fish. I am now sufficiently mature enough to look past those now, but at the time, it was a major turn-off (and in the wrong man, it still is).
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He was an E-6 and I was an E-3 at a time when sexual harrassment became a HUGE no-no. I didn’t need the grief if it turned ugly.
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As I said above, I was quite young (about 20 or 21) and while I’d had some experience with sex, I wasn’t sufficiently mature to handle something like that. I was uncomfortable with it, so I didn’t do it.
Which is not to say I wouldn’t try it now, but the conditions would have to be right.
Robin
What robgruver said. Just bring it up when you are just talking. If you guess wrong, you guessed wrong. Both of you can talk about what went wrong in previous times, and you should be able to figure out how to help prevent the jerks in the future. Where to go? I always enjoyed the better swing clubs as there are less games. Most everyone is on the same wavelength and don’t have hidden agendas. Joining them is usually pretty easy. Just show up, but the better ones will do a phone interview with both of you first to see if she is aware of what is happening, and if you both have a decent personality, are doing it for the right reasons, etc. Since moving here, where there are no good clubs, I just generally stick with yahoo personals, and we’ve had fairly good luck with those. Only advice I can give on those, is to require a pic from people before meeting, and always meet over dinner before making definite plans. It will give you a chance to back away if you don’t like them or get a bad vibe. Good bars can work too, but it takes some courage to approach a couple that may or may not be interested. Just go with what feels good! And if you meet up with a jerk, just don’t meet them again:)
Which one? We’ve been sometimes swingers for years and participated in a great many three- four- more-somes and they were about 95% great. It made up for the 5% of so-so ones.
Jonathan Chance,
Here are a couple links for you. Not sure if it will help, but you never know.
I’ve been in several situations where threesomes or group sex were imminent, but I have backed out of most of them.
I know others will disagree, but I consider sex to be something that I do with a woman (or more on occasion!) and not with other guys hanging around. I have some guy friends who are very into the group thing and always tried to get me to share my girlfriends, although their version of group sex tends to be one on one couples in the same bed or room, with occasional swapping.
My first threesome I was approached by a girl I was crazy about and with whom I had casual sex a week earlier, and she introduced me to her lesbian lover, who obviously started off seeing me as a competitor and was turning me on just by being pissed off at me. I was very excited but also very apprehensive about the possibility of having sex with two women. A few hours later the situation had improved considerably: I was in heaven and seriously worrying about death from sexual exhaustion! :eek:
My first time was my best time, probably due to the sexiness of the women involved and also because of–well, it’s the first time. I have never had a bad experience with threesomes (not that I have them regularly by any means) but that is because I only go ahead with it if I am absolutely sure A) I like the girls, B) the girls like me and are not just screwing around, and C) I can picture all of us in bed getting along (not just having sex, but also laughing, kidding around, and sleeping together).
I have to agree that a boy-girl-girl situation can be physically taxing, so be in shape and take your zinc and vitamins! However, in my experience, girls themselves don’t just lie there waiting for you, so I don’t think you have to worry about being a sex machine. In my experience the girls get very “involved” with each other as well as with me, and I have sat back and admired for 5-10 minutes to get my breath back before rejoining the fray.
As to how a threesome happens, in my case it involved nightclubs and spontaneity. I have never done it with buddies, close girlfriends, or people from swinger clubs/dating services/sex clubs. After the first time, it gets easier. My future wife is not that hot on the idea of another woman in bed and I don’t mind, in spite of the fact that I had great fun in the few threesomes I had. As much fun as a threesome is, nothing beats being in bed with the person I love (although if she weren’t a whore in the bedroom I would probably be dreaming of threesomes!)
This is just a really bad thread to have to read at work!
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