I didn’t say anything judgemental or sanctimonious. It is a fact that extreme promiscuity and lack of ability to form long term relationships in females is very often (far more often than not) a symptom of sexual abuse. How is that judgemental? I don’t place any moral value on it, and it’s not their fault in any case.
That isn’t true. I listened to the show for years, and there were only certain kinds of cues that led him down that path. It wasn’t just “unusual sexual habits,” (that in itself did not set him off) but patterns like serial attractions to abusive men, lack of ability to maintain relationships, and the like. I don’t remember him ever being wrong either. They always said yes when he guessed that they’d been abused. he’d often even guess what age, what kind of abuse, guess that they’d had alcoholic or abandoning parents, etc. with uncanny accuracy. Humans are extremely predictable.
One interesting cue he often focused on was women who talked with a “little girl” voice. He said these were women who had emotionally arrested at the age of their first abuse, and he was able to guess what age they’d been molested by how old they sounded when they talked (he’d make them sing the alphabet to get a read). He did this even when the caller had not said anything about having been abused, but I never once heard him contradicted on it.
Did I mention you? No, but I suppose I might as well have, since you’ve just outed yourself as one of the very people I was talking about. Or are you just “my opinion is the only right one and everyone else is wrong and stupid” about every other subject in the world except, magically, this one?
Did I say that no one in real life would be judgmental about this? No, I did not. People damn well will. It just seems like they are even more so here.
I say posting too many polls would be a good reason to break up with someone.
And that numbers, as long as everyone is emotionally and physically healthy, shouldn’t matter.
Fine, I took my share plus the ones that one of the low number people weren’t using. It would’ve been a shame to waste those potential sexual liasions.
You’d be concerned with the zeroes? Concerned? As in "I think there may be something wrong with this person who couldn’t have sex?
I don’t know how some of you people are capable of having as much sex you do, or perhaps how you’re capable of lowering your standards so low that you’d be willing to fuck anything with a pulse, but I often times go months between even meeting a girl who might conceivably be attracted to me enough to get with me.
Oh, and ultimately they never are. And so I have wait another couple of months.
I’m very bisexual. Shoot, if I could marry a woman, have the house and kids and American Dream, I quite possibly wouldn’t be where I am now. I mean, if it were possible for me to have all of that with a woman, I may not have started seriously dating men. I still love women, find them very attractive, but I couldn’t have my dream family with them, so I went back to men. My fiancee and I just happen to get along great, I find him attractive, and I could see myself raising kids and spending forever with him. But he knows I’m still very into women as well.
Not like that! Just would want to know what happened in those four years. Did you come off a serious breakup, and didn’t want to, or did you just not have luck - or did you join a religious cult for four years and abstain from all sex?
Then again I’d be a little :dubious: about the 42 number, too, after years of abstinence. 42 does seem like a lot for a year! That’s what, a new girl every 8 days?
I don’t know. Too much of anything is usually an indication of some kind of issue. it doesn’t have to be sexual abuse, but I always wonder about people (men or women) who seem outrageously permiscuous. On the one hand, it’s like what’s the big deal? It’s just sex. But on the other hand, it is just sex so why does this person seem to need it 24-7? With women it seems to be about filling some sort of emotional void and with men it seems to be about overcompensating for some perceived shortcoming.
Ultimately the “too many” question is unanswerable. Because whatever your ideal number, anyone whose ideal number is less is a prude and anyone whose number is more is a slut.
