Straight man here. How often do I think about sex, or have thoughts of a sexual nature? You really don’t want to know.
Every time I see a moderately (or more) attractive girl, pretty much. Even if I saw her earlier in the day. I have no idea why- I’m not even really all that interested in sex these days. My libido has definitely come way way down over the last 4-6 years.
Why is there this assumption that men thinking about sex is wrong?
I have a related question…
A lot of you guys admit to being turned on by women you come across that are hot or dressed provocatively. Understood. That kind of muddies the poll for me, tho.
Say you’re at work and there are no women around. You’re not seeing any images of women on the Internet. Basically, nothing is around that can visually turn your thoughts to sex. How much do you think about sex THEN?
Occasionally I’ll see a guy that makes me trail off rudely to whoever I’m speaking with, in person or on the phone. I don’t really take it beyond just appreciating his hotness, though, even in my mind. After all, the clothes make the man. And I just know my cynical mind would make the fantasy man crap in bed or something.
A lot.
Sex tends to be one of the chief default settings for the unfocused male mind.
Precisely. It’s not a matter of turning a mans thoughts to sex. It’s getting us to think about something else that requires outside stimuli.
What if he doesn’t want to?
Wait, I think I misunderstood that…
It’s sure a hell of a lot worse than eating crackers.
Unless our attention is wholly occupied by something else (work, finances, fantasy football draft), just as much.
Not often in my case, but that’s because I have to actually concentrate to do much of my work. In fact, I was doing pretty good until I got home and opened this thread.
Now, it happens there are two not-unattractive women that work in my office. I cannot say that whenever I see that I’m thinking about actual sexual acts with them, but there does seem to be a sort of mental pgieonholing that goes on unbidden, taking their images and dropping them in a slot marked “acceptable for coupling”. That’s something that appears to be hard-wired and would happen whether I consciously thought about it or not.
For the record, I am daydreaming about an orgy with Cat Fight, Maia’s Well and ZipperJJ right now. Also Antinor, just for variety.
Heh. My wife has accused me of having a one track mind, but I claim it’s two track… one for sex and one for everything else. And people say guys can’t multi-task. 
Straight female here.
I think about sex A LOT. When I meet new guys, my first thoughts are “would I or wouldn’t I?” If I would, then every time I see them I’m going to be thinking about what we could do together. When I have a few minutes to daydream, the daydreams quickly get explicit. I find myself distracted at work, etc. because of sexual thoughts.
[Paris]That’s hawt.[/Paris]
Seconded.
Also, “grrrrrrrrrr…yow!”
Reminds me of my wild youth.
Humph. Maybe for the two of you, but how is the gay guy supposed to enjoy that scene? At least invite someone for me to play with. 
Can you repeat the question? I was thinking about sex…
It’s not as if I think about it constantly, mainly because I have to get work done at work and despite the ADD I’m able to concentrate on it and get it done. But if a stimulus is introduced into the thoughtstream- say, I sit in on a meeting and there are female coworkers there- there’s no doubt that at least some portion of the meeting will be taken up with thoughts of a sexual nature. That will be true even if the women in the meeting are not attractive, or at least not in the way that I would want them to be if I were to actually have a physical relationship with them. For instance, we have a weekly meeting with a couple different departments. There’s a woman who I don’t find attractive- facially, physically, etc. But she has a very nice chest (not necessarily large-busted or anything, just nicely shaped) and I do fantasize about it during every meeting. I don’t leer, gawk, stare, drool, or give any indication to anyone watching me that that’s what is on my mind, nor would I ever hit on her or act on it physically. But it was a stimulus that made my sexual mind active.
Once I’m back in my office, I forget about it and get back to work.
If I see a random woman during my daily travels, it’s likely that there will be something about her that my sexual brain will latch onto as a stimulus to develop a little mental video of her, which will carry me until the next woman. And so on.
Does that make me a pig? I don’t think so. Nothing about my behavior or appearance would belie the thoughts that I’m having. I’ll always act respectfully and politely. But yes, I am thinking about them sexually. And unless I’m focused on my work, those sexual thoughts will occur automatically, mainly as a result of some external trigger.
I hope that no one minds me adding a paraphiliac’s point-of-view to this thread, but my sex substitute – “superheroine-in-peril” scenarios – is pretty much constantly in the back of my mind. It jumps to the forefront when I see an attractive woman, and I then concoct a little mini-scenario, where she is wearing a nice, colorful, skimpy outfit, gets KOed and captured by a villain, etc. – this occurs within the blink of an eye, and then I get on with whatever I was doing, and I can generally do this with a minimum of gawking.
Now, the people I work with everyday, while female, simply do not register with me in that way at all. Now, it has been a while since I have had an attractive female work in my immediate office environment – but when this has occurred in the past, I found that I could appreciate their beauty in an aesthetic fashion without incorporating them into one of my superheroine fantasies.
When I take a stroll on campus, however, I have a ton of fun enjoying the many beautiful girls that I see. They usually are not dressed in any type of clothing that most people would consider provocative, but it is fairly evident that many of them have very nice figures (they are young, vibrant college students, after all), and that alone will trigger my imagination to start rolling along, churning out my odd fantasies! Fortunately, all this can be accomplished without any overt leering/drooling/etc. on my part.