Based on this thread, it seems that a large number of women think that men are constantly thinking about having sex with them.
OK, we probably are.
I guess it’s true that when I see an attractive woman, some part of me wonders what it would be like to have sex with her. But, that’s all it is - just a passing curiosity.
So, my question is - do women ever think the same thing? If they see an attractive guy, do they wonder what it would be like to sleep with them, or is this purely a guy thing?
I tend to imagine killing strangers, the annoying ones at least, more often than anything else and I am probably going to get flamed for this. Women are no less sexual than men, so yes on a level of pure fantasy, never to be indulged in because I am in a committed relationship and my husband trusts me, yes, women, or at least me, do sometimes imagine hooking up with guys they know nothing more about than that they look really sexy. We (all humans of either gender) are probably all wired that way by nature, but as Katherine Hepburn once said, “Nature is what we were put here to rise above.”
No. I might think “nice eyes” or “what a great smile”, but that’s about it. I am much more likely to feel a flash of attraction to a man who has impressed me in some way, by seeming smart/funny/confident. Then, I might notice something about his physicality and think “you know, this guy is pretty attractive”. Doesn’t really work the other way around, as I think it does more so for men (I know everyone is different and there must be many exceptions for both sexes).
No way, never have. I don’t even think about people sexually at all; it’s more of a romance thing with the sex as part of the affection and closeness. I have looked at strangers and thought they were attractive but it’s more like looking at a nice statue. I can appreciate it without wanting to hump it.
As a male respondent, this is pretty close to what I think. If I see some woman who catches my eye, my thoughts are about what it would be like to be in an intimate relationship with her, doing all the things that such a relationship would encompass.
For this reason, I was pretty much left adrift by the OP’s question, and I’m glad you elucidated it this way.
Firstly, love that term! OK, if I see a guy I find attractive, do I fantasize about having sex with him. Hmmm…Well, I would have to say it depends. Mostly on my mood at that particular moment because that can influence me tremendously. I think more than anything I tend to look at a man’s hands & forearms for some crazy reason! If the guy has fairly muscular forearms, they don’t have to be weightlifter kind of muscular but just have that look of strength, then I admit I then may think about his hands on my body, etc., & probably will then look at his face & lips & eyes & if all of that is check-check-check I might fantasize about him kissing me or kissing me & touching me - The list goes on & on!
Yes here, too. I wasn’t a stranger to occasional one night stands when I was between boyfriends, back in the 90’s. Once the 00’s hit, I became more sensible, but the thoughts are still there.
Yes. I don’t have one-night stands as it takes more than physical attraction to get me into bed, but if there’s an attractive man I’ll most likely wonder about having sex with him.
I do have an SO of 12 years so that puts a damper on one-night stands as well.
ditto. I admire a good-looking person (regardless of apparent sex) but it’s kind of the same way I admire a handsome horse or a nice piece of art.
Sexual attraction only gets going once you know someone.
I don’t usually answer threads addressed to “women” because I’m male-bodied, but I do identify as a woman genderwise… I tend to think the people asking these questions aren’t likely to be interested in what’s going on with me or people like me… but what the hell…
My attraction is such that to find someone visually attractive isn’t unusual, to the point that it’s sort of background noise almost. Yeah lots of deliciously cute specimens out there. Conscious thought is mostly limited to “Mmm, yummy nice!”. I don’t conjure up images of us going at it. I don’t need to conjure up images, I have a visual already available to me, ya know? I appreciate what I see when I see it.
wipetheclock refers to the spank bank. It’s sort of like that but more generic. I think it all gets filed away as additional evidence that those folks are way yummy and I want a chance to play with. Like bank deposits, it builds interest.
Well, yes. Yes, you probably are going to get flamed for this. You’ve got a much more deeply entrenched reputation on the board than I had even imagined, for your attitude that the act of any male offering to shake your hand is sexual assault – at least as far back as 2010 and as recently as just yesterday (June 23, 2016).
A quick Google search immediately turned up at least 10 threads in which you wrote to that effect, and/or it was mentioned by others.
Indeed, you have been flamed already, repeatedly. The top two Google hits were Pit threads: This one (see the third quote in the OP), and this one; both mention your aversion the the poisonous male handshake, among many other choice tidbits.
Even Jimmy Chitwood, famed feminist apologist on this board, has acknowledged that, even in the very act of flaming me for remarking on it myself.
