Well, normally one would use the dungeon, but I’m guessing the sub will be rather interested in that.
Oh, and sleestak, good on ya. Though I might worry that a woman sending me NSFW pics after only a couple dates might also be totally psycho (the fact that she’s really hot only raises my suspicions). But since I like to see people in happy, adventurous relationships, I’ll give it the benefit of the doubt and assume she’s just sane, but frisky.
How did it come up?
Was she just like “Well, let me tell a little bit about myself, I’m an Aries, which means I am passionate and love animals. I work in Public relations. I am really into Celine Dion music. I love italian food, though I am trying to watch my weight. My favorite movie is Notting Hill, My favorite TV show is CSI Miami and anything on the home improvement network. I also enjoy being ordered around and beaten. How about you?”
For those of us who are not quite in the know about it, how does a dom/sub relationship work? Do you downplay it while in public then ramp it up when in the bedroom? How much does it differ from say the whips/chains/chips & dips thing one sees in TV or movies?
I disagree. I perceive two schools of capitalization in the BDSM world: those who use capitals to indicate dominance and submissive, as you mentioned (including submissives who don’t capitalize the pronoun I when speaking of themselves); and those who follow traditional English grammar without regard to BDSM hierarchy. Personally, I fall into the latter category, and find the former to be a bit silly.
That’s kind of where I am too. Like people who spell women “womyn”, it just smacks of “trying too hard.” If you feel a particular way is normal and natural for you to behave, ie submissive or dominant, then you tend to talk about it the normal and natural way you talk about everything else. Affecting a new style of writing seems to emphasize the “otherness” of the behavior, as if you’re putting on a facade. There’s nothing wrong with it, but, as I said, it always makes me think “well, look who’s trying to draw attention to their peccadilloes.” As someone who is very much a live and let live kind of person, I don’t care what you do in your bedroom(or living room, or dungeon, whatever), and having a distinctive writing style that throws it up in my face just makes me think you need external validation or are getting your jollies from semi-exhibitionist behavior. Meh to both motives, IMHO.
I figured I’d give you all an update on my girlie.
We spent Thursday night through this evening together (Saturday). We had a wonderful time. She met my parents today, I had to run over to my parents house to help my Dad out with some things. She seemed to like them quite a bit.
Wow. Are you going collar shopping as in, she needs something to wear when you play, or collar shopping as in she wants you to collar her? The second one is a pretty significant commitment for most people.
The second one. It is a big commitment, and it is sort of fast but it seems right. She is very different and I totally dig the woman. She appears to be on the exact same page. We’ve been on the edge of the big L word.