My internship for a big company has been doing WONDERS for my confidence and my abilities to socialize. All of the permanent employees are extremely nice and helpful, and they make me feel like I’m on a peer level with them, not just like I’m some kid there for six months. And there are lots of interns too. And quite a few really attractive young women.
One girl in particular I get along with really well. She’s two years my senior and is so amazingly beautiful, AND I find it so easy to talk to her. We flirt and joke often during the day, and it doesn’t feel awkward and I never feel nervous.
Now, I would ask this girl out in a heartbeat…if she were actually single. And that seems to be the big problem. All the female interns my age are in these super serious long term relationships. One girl is actually already married, and another is engaged. And it seems that any time I go out anywhere, any girls my eyes fall upon are walking beside some guy. Sometimes it feels like there was a big event where everyone my age all went to and got paired off, and somehow my invitation got lost in the mail.
So now that I seem to finally have the confidence to not be intimidated by women I find myself attracted to, where do I find the ones who are still single?
You just gotta ask. Its not like all the single women are hiding out in some secret bunker 4000 meters underneath the city or something. They’re all over the place, you just have to be friendly and assertive and not creepy and you’ll meet them.
I think its less that single women are so rare now (even though I was CONVINCED this was true a while ago) and more that they simply don’t advertise it as much as men do.
Not the college I went to. Unless I missed out on the mass wedding during orientation, because all the girls I know there either are engaged or married :eek:
It seems that when I was that age women iin general didn’t stay single long. In other words, when they broke up with somebody they had no qualms about jumping right into another realationship with out actually thinking about it first.
I don’t know, I guess they had a “fear” of being single.
I’ll probablyl get flamed for this.
But when I was your age I viewed ALL women as single unless they were actually married. Or they more or less told me to fuck off, which did happen from time to time.
All you have to do is be direct. When you meet a new girl, some of the first words out of your mouth should be, “Hey Babe, you single?”. Throw in a wink too if she is hot.
Sounds like you get on well with some of the women at work. To the extent you could socialise with them? If so you can start going along with them for drinks after work on Friday night, say; odds are they’ll be meeting their girlfriends or sisters, some of whom will be single.
Women are the way to other women… just don’t be too friendly… they might think your gay though!! Most girls I’ve dated or gone out with were “friends of female friends”. Women are (and correctly so) reluctant to date unknown men. Once another woman “vouches” for your not being a homicidal maniac… and being a normal decent guy its so much easier.
I will also support what Shakes said… having a boyfriend doesn’t mean a woman is unapproachable and impossible. Just be extra careful… her boyfriend might be a marine or a big guy.
I don’t know how old you are, but I’m 25 (26 in 10 days) and there don’t seem to be any single women in my area either. Seems every attractive woman said to themselves, “Hurry! Get married! Have kids! Before my biological clock stops ticking!”
I’ve pretty much resigned myself to waiting until the first crop of divorces starts. Then maybe I’ll have a chance.
Most girls I’ve dated or gone out with were “friends of female friends”. Women are (and correctly so) reluctant to date unknown men. Once another woman “vouches” for your not being a homicidal maniac… and being a normal decent guy its so much easier.