Ok. Dang. This is all you need to remember to know why you should change your email/phone number/address/name and any other pertinent information. Seriously, look, I know I skirt some dangerous shit, talking to my exes and being friends with weird chicks who make me nervous because I think they might slip me some roofies (oh, I haven’t told that story yet, have I? Remind me sometime, it’s a funny one), but she tried to kill you? And you think she might have killed her husband?
Honestly, Tuckerfan, words fail me here. If you really think she might have offed her old man, that’s beyond messed up. If I were in your shoes, I would make a call to the local (her local) police department and ask about the family. Just tell them that you had heard some bad things happened and wanted to find out the real story. It is public record once the police are involved – and they would have to be if it were a suicide. Just be prepared to provide copies of the emails, the ex-gf might just be on the lam.
Calm down. First of all, I don’t think that it’s likely she killed her husband. Possible, yes, but to have actually done it and gotten away with it, or even being on the lam? Nope.
As for her attempt to kill me, well, I must admit that I did kind of deserve it and that under the circumstances lots of other “normal” people would have reacted the same way. Her thyroid was all messed up and as anyone who’s had thyroid problems can tell you, uncontrollable anger can be a side effect (especially when the medication you’re on isn’t working properly). Add to that during sex the guy you’re romantically involved with says something along the lines, “How’s come you’re a ‘spitter’? The other girl I’m screwing swallows, why can’t you?” and I think that a case for justifiable homicide could be made. (Yes, I’ll admit it, I’ve been an asshole, and no, I’m not proud.)
Even if she were a homicidal maniac, she’d have a tough time finding me. She only knows the town in which I live in, and it’d be pretty hard for her track me down, unless one of our mutual friends gave her that info (which he’d check with me first before he did so).
Uh, no. You don’t deserve it. Don’t buy into the current feminist schtick about men “deserving” whatever punishment women decide to dole out, just because Men Are Jerks. Be a man, dude.
I guess I take a more prosaic view of the situation than anyone else here does. I don’t think Tuckerfan is in danger of losing his life, liberty, fortune or sacred honor. Sometimes an email relationship is just that. Why should we think his ex is psychotic or a schemer, and not just someone who’s had a rough go of it and wants a friendly ear? It’s not like she’s asked him for anything yet, and it’s been a while at this point.
Specifically, jerkishness by you does not excuse attempted homicide by her, unless you want to appear in your local paper under a headline like “Abused Woman Driven To Kill”.
