I dated this girl for 2 years, and broke it off in July. She is the world’s sweetest person, and I still love her, but I couldn’t date her anymore. There were several strains on our relationship, one of which was the fact that she didn’t have her shit together and was in constant financial nightmares due to years of poor decision-making.
She is so kind-hearted, positive, and fun, but we had a hard time relating on an intellectual level . . . our conversations lacked any sort of stimulation. I found myself picking up the “financial slack” in a lot of ways when she was in a bind, and slowly over time it was expected and I was slightly resentful. As our relationship progressed, I viewed her more as a younger sister than a girlfriend. Our sex life grew mundane and over time I lost interest in sex with her . . . things were going downhill.
Over time we isolated ourselves from most of our friends and just hung out together, so when we broke up, we were each on our own. It was very difficult for both of us. I made new friends, and she tried to resurrect forgotten friendships with limited success. Here we are 6 months later, and she’s now got a one-way ticket back to the East Coast where she’s from and she’s leaving on Friday.
I’m happy that she’s moving back, she’s got a lot of good family and friends back home that are waiting for her. She’s had her fill of Los Angeles.
But now that the time has come, I must say that it makes me very sad to see her go. I don’t know why, I never see her any more. I guess it’s the finality of the whole thing. I could very well never see this person I love ever again.
Breakups suck for all parties involved, obviously worse for the break-upee than the breakup-or, but it’s odd on this side of the fence as well. You love a person, and you decide that you can’t date them anymore despite the fact that you love them. You’re the once pushing them away, and then you watch that person suffer because of what you’ve done.
I’m going to have one last dinner with her this week. We’ll see how it goes.
I hate goodbyes!