My wife talks about how attractive women are to her friends and sometimes to me. She says that she has average looks (not that I was asking her opinion).
The plot thickens…
Who’s talking about numbers? I was asking about what is “socially appropriate”…
Well sometimes I’m exploring boundaries to learn things for myself. But like you said that was in earlier threads. Now I see my wife as mostly attractive. BTW when I look at another woman I usually soon find what I consider a flaw. That makes me feel good because in a way they’re equivalent to my wife - they have some flaws. That probably didn’t come out right.
What…did… I…Just…look …at?
That doesn’t explain her finger pointing to her chin.
If my memory serves me correctly, JohnClay lives in a part of our fine country where seeing people as depicted in the photo in the OP is not likely to be necessarily all that unusual. (Have I used enough qualifiers there??) 
JohnClay seems to lack the filter process that most psychologically and socially healthy folk possess. I’m sure we all remember as wee kids blurting out something horribly inappropriate to embarrass our parents…“Mummy, LOOK AT THE PREGNANT LADY?” (for the obese lady). “Mummy, WHY IS THAT MAN SO DIRTY?” (for the gentleman with darker skin). JohnClay appears to have missed a few developmental milestones along the way and is inclined to post stuff here on the board that most of us outgrew by the time we were 7 or 8 yrs old. We learned the niceties of social interaction (either by our mum/dad giving us the ‘LOOK OF DEATH’, or even a goodly slap on the arse for our rudeness).
So, giving him the benefit of the doubt (that he’s not just a creepy troll) it’s up to us to educate JohnClay in the ways of the world. He claims he’s exploring boundaries…I suggest we slap him silly every time he breaches them.
Actually it is unusual where I live to see a belly like that. That’s why I am shocked by it.
More soon…
Mate…it’s unusual ANYWHERE to see a belly as extreme as that, except on the internet.
(Oh, fuck, can we please have the old smilies back…y’know, the :: rolleyes :: one?)
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I have noticed (or was informed before hand) of some females who have taken to me favorably. Some of them had unfortunate aspects. But I find it complementing all the same, and I treat all of them the best way I can in payment.
I filter things I say on this board under the assumption that it is anonymous far less than my regular speech.
Well I was raised to be nice. I still have quite a hard time saying swear words. Lately I’ve started to say them jokingly to my wife. (I think she started it though) As far as the “look of death” goes, I only learnt about body language when I was a late teenager I think, from a book. Before that I didn’t used to give people eye contact - unless I was staring at them. One girl gave me the middle finger when I stared at her too much on a bus (when I was starting high school). BTW at school I’d do things that people told me to do without thinking. Even highly inappropriate things. I did that once at university too. BTW at high school I considered myself a day-dreamer. Then in university I wished I could relive school so that I could get girls, etc.
Well in university I strongly identified with Radiohead’s song “Creep” (“I’m a creep - I’m a weirdo - what the hell am I doing here…”)
BTW I never really got seriously teased or criticised until I was in university. About a year ago a girl from school said “sorry we used to say those things about you in school”. I said “what things?” and on facebook I asked again - I really wanted to know - but then she unfriended me. BTW when I was in university I was interested in a girl who had started high school. My dad said that her father said something about it but I said that the girl never seemed to express anything negative to me. It gets worse than that too. Then on the other hand a guy was harshly teased for dating a girl about two girls younger than him.
My earliest memory of rejection was when I was about 5 and I asked to play with a boy and he said no. From then on I didn’t initiate things much. I never really thought deeply into things relating to social situations - on the other hand now I can discuss the nuances about things for a long time.
I’ve figured most of it out now I think.
BTW I used to just listen to people’s words - I was oblivious to all other forms of communication unless they were extreme. Then I learnt that a girl giving excuses about why she can’t meet doesn’t necessarily mean it… she is just trying to avoid a confrontation or something. But I’d just try and find a way past the excuses and assuming that they were being completely open and honest about those alledged issues.
I didn’t think you were right but it turns out you are about her prospects for surgery:
BTW when I’ve been unwell I’ve sometimes used what I’ve learnt about body language and acted like I was super-confident (taking up huge amounts of space, etc)
BTW I once read a book that said that life is like a stage show and you should adopt your role but that you are actually a perfect observer. That caused me to become more detached and I also questioned it - I thought I’d just adopt whatever role I feel like at the time. So rather than copying how other people acted (though I’d never really done that) I’d think up new approaches to things. Now if I find a bit of humor I like, etc, I’d remember it and use it on my wife, etc.
I’ve had a long history of not conforming. When I began a new school at about the age of 6 or 7 I’d have a book and for a while I’d write lots of consecutive numbers in it. I was terrified of school excursions for a while and when the class was away on a camp I’d sometimes kick a large stone around during recess. In high school I made friends with the weirdos (not that anyone called them that). At church I’d always leave soon after it was finished and I visit the pastor’s son and we’d play on the computer. I haven’t thought very deeply about a lot of that.
Easy.
Your mama so ugly, her parents had to tie a pork chop on her neck so the dog would play with her.
Now, substitute “That bitch” for “Your mama”, and you’re good to go.
You’re welcome.
So, JC, do you see any irony in your reaction to a mentally ill person, given that others may be similarly reacting to you? Are you “better” than the woman in the picture?
So kayaker do you see any irony in your reaction to another poster, given that I am similarly reacting to you? Are you “better” than JC?
No, I don’t think I’m subjectively “better” than JohnClay. He is so open about his mental illness, I’m just curious about whether or not he has empathy in situations like this. Now you, I think are better than me,but just a little.
If I may interject a personal observation, I actually do feel I am “better” than just about everyone who posts here. This comes with being a pompous, pretentious and condescending person.
My goodness. As a “big” girl myself (but not that big) I would feel kind of sorry for her.
I saw a lady on the bus today with a motorized cart sort of thing. She must have been 500lb. While I did wonder how she got to be so big, I also felt bad for her.
Unless you’re someone’s doctor/friend/family member, you never know WHY they’re overweight, so you shouldn’t be judgmental.
However, if you don’t find truly obese people attractive, that’s your preference. Don’t expect me to agree with your opinion or pat you on the back for it however. 
I think a good response if you were romantically approached by someone who you found unattractive would be “I’m flattered by your interest, but I’m not really interested in a relationship/I’m too busy for a relationship right now. But thanks. Really.”
Most people with any amount of social skills will realize you’re trying to gently brush them off and let it go. There’s no need to be all “No way! You are fat and disgusting and WTF is wrong with you? How dare you contact me???”
No sense in being mean to someone without a good reason. We’re all flawed to some degree or another.