Well, the science does say that married men live longer than single men …
But aside from all of that, this could all be said for single women as well. Far better to be “without a man” if the one you have is abusive.
True story. I was at my ex-wife’s parent’s house in the Virgin Islands with just her and my daughter. I couldn’t stand being yelled out anymore so I went into the bathroom and she wasn’t having any of it because it meant that I wasn’t listening to her rant anymore. She tried to force the door open so I just closed it again so I could have any space. She claimed that I hurt her wrist even though I did no such thing and she called the police.
Two very Caribbean, black police officers came over and interviewed us. My ex-wife wanted me thrown in jail for a non-offense but they understood the situation perfectly. After lots of paperwork for nothing, they pulled me aside and told me that they sympathized with me and to do whatever I needed to when we got back home. Wife on husband abuse isn’t commonly talked about but it is universally recognized among those that have experienced it.
Caribbean Police Officers don’t have a lot of sympathy for rich white girls that want to beat their husbands and then have them thrown in jail just because they want to be left alone for a while.
There’s certainly nothing wrong with being single, but I think billfish has demonstrated why his ex wife probably kicked him to the curb, instead of the other way around.
It takes two to make a marriage work. It has been my experience that when someone only blames the other party, without doing any “soul searching” & does not to figure out how they were partially responsible for the failure of that relationship, they tend to make the same mistakes over and over.
…and now I’m a feminist.
Thanks guys.
Oh she “ended it”. At least technically speaking. But I suspect her post break up supper bitchyness burn all the bridges possible in the process (while I’m being the polite, considerate, just let me get my stuff and get out) just because she could is that I finally did say “fuck it…your right…you are ALSO not worth the grief”…and she wasn’t having that either.
She could have had a civil break up. But she wasn’t having it. Now, she can die alone in the hospital or spend years with alzhiemers in the nursing home…and the best she’ll probably get from me NOW is mehhh…
Would you like a story of two of random butt fucking retarded shit she got mad about?
I’d love to see a defense of a few of them.
And we will skip the irony of me not being allowed to complain about one thing ever.
You’re free to spill your guts if you like. Personally, I think her side of the story would be much more interesting.
I am not billfish but I can certainly sympathize with his viewpoint. I don’t think incidental accusations about who did what are very helpful. I can promise you there are plenty of abusive wives out there.
I am possibly even more extreme than that. I don’t believe in marriage at least for myself (I couldn’t care less about what other people do). I already have kids, money and everything else that I need. This isn’t Little House on the Prairie. If I want to go to a strip club in Las Vegas or fishing in Montana next week, that is what I am doing - no “permission” needed.
Most of the lives of my married friends and coworkers are pathetic. They don’t like it and I don’t think their wives do either yet they do it because of tradition, expectations or some other bullshit. They don’t realize there is no law that you have to play the game that way.
Sorry you had to go through that.
She was NEVER violent. Nor was I for that matter. But, like your wife apparently, if she wanted to have an argument…she was GOD damn fucking well having one whether you wanted to or not (the fact it was most often about stupid shit didn’t make it any better). Go to the other room…she’s coming too…go outside…she coming too…go to the bathroom…she’ll continue when your done…fight not finished to her satisfaction?..she’ll bring it up again next week/month/year.
And I’ve known a couple of what I’d and what most other people would consider reasonable women and they have hinted at the ole “well, if shit goes south and I don’t get my way…well, maybe he threatened me bullshit”. And I have little doubt if push came to shove she’d do the same thing.
And they did NOT like my response which was 1: You even think of pulling that and you’ll never see or hear from me again and 2: Congratulations…you have now just fucked up and if this goes to court…I’ll be calling the lawyer for the other side to testify about what you just told me.
So basically, you are gonna pussy out and not defend random shit you have an inking you can’t defend.
Probably a good move on your part.
I was going to say the same thing about Hillary supporters, but I had the class to not do it.
No, you didn’t.
Man-hating feminist? Hardly. I LOVE men. I adore them, particularly Mr. Helena. There are some wonderful men in my real life and here on the board. Men who respect women, listen to us, don’t patronize or marginalize us. Masculine guys who aren’t afraid to show their tender sides, or admit when they’re wrong. Who don’t have to hate women to feel like men. Those are true men.
I also respect those qualities in women and get angry when women treat men badly. Like that guy in IMHO whose wife was mad because the $300 mixer he got her was the wrong color. Come on!
The feminist part, yup, guilty:
Note that nowhere does it say feminists hate men.
The ones screaming Lock! Her! Up! ITA.
It’s just that when you talk about your ex, you sound like a disgruntled employee. I think I’ve heard enough.
Then why even come up with a separate name for it if you already have a phrase for patronizing asshole?
I’ll ask again, do you have a cite where I say I am a patronizing asshole to everyone?
Why distinguish between poodles and all other dogs. What makes poodles so special that we needed a special word for them but just call all other dogs “dogs”?
See the word “some” Maybe that’s weasel word to you. It a qualifier to me.
No, that’s pretty much what I was saying.
I think you meant to say “sexist much dude?”
Assertive I don’t have a problem with. My wife is assertive. My sisters are assertive. These women think they are being assertive but they are jumping the shark by miles and have landed squarely in the middle of bitch territory.
What is your definition of assertive?