A friend of mine has a ‘fuck buddy’. He’s freshly out of a four-year relationship and was looking for some play. She’s a 20-year-old unwed mother who believes that she has no chance for a relationship because she his a child, so she’s just out to get some play. She has a roommate (whom I believe has a child, and who also seems to ‘have the itch’).
My friend is concerned about my celibacy, and wanted to ‘hook me up’ with the roommate. Okay, I’m a bloke. As such, I’m genetically predisposed not to turn down a chance of meaningless sex. But it just didn’t feel right. It felt too sleazy even for me. It felt as if I was being led to stud. Fortunately, my friend’s liason did not result in an invitation to come over. I don’t think I’d make a good ‘fuck buddy’ because I want to care about my partner.
Anyway, the roommate slit her wrists Wednesday night. As a compassionate person, I think there’s a chance that the roommate might not have done that if we had met. You never know. On the other hand, my sense of self-preservation (maybe that’s what the wrong feeling was) says that I’d do well to avoid women with emotional issues.
I feel bad for the roommate, that her emotional issues came to such a point; but I’m glad I didn’t get involved.
I don’t know, I have a hard time believing that meaningless sex would have improved her mental state enough to stop the event from occurring. My guess is that the alternate scenario has you feeling completely awful that someone you just got with tried to kill herself. She needs to sort herself out - be glad that you’re not caught in the middle.
I second Interface on this. Your meaningless hook-up probably wouldn’t have been meaningless to her, it may have put off the incident, but as soon as she realized it was nothing but a booty call, she probably would have done the same thing, and blamed you directly. Steer clear of this young lady, clearly she has some intense personal issues that a night of meaningless sex just won’t cure.
I agree with you both, that she would have eventually been right back where she was; but that now she’d have a villain.
I listened to my ‘inner voice’, and it was right.
Still, it’s sad when someone tries to kill one’s self. Death seems so counterproductive.
Johnny L.A., think of how much worse you would feel if you did sleep with her and she still tried to kill herself. I gotta think that is a sort of blow to the self confidence that is hard to overcome.
Most people who try to commit suicide have been thinking about it for a goodly amount of time. Whether or not you were there would not have made a lick of difference, if she did it than chances are she would have done it no matter what.
Just thank your lucky stars you didn’t go to her and get involved.
Well, it turns out it wasn’t as dramatic as I first thought. She didn’t try to commit suicide. Instead, she’s a ‘cutter’. I did hear ‘wrists’, and I did hear ‘paramedics’; but it now seems that she was watching TV and absentmindedly cutting her arms.
I’m glad I didn’t get involved.