I’d like to find some songs that have lyrics that I honestly agree with.
i.e. it’s ok if they talk about long-lasting love and affection - and if they say that she’s all I’ve ever needed. But not that she’s all I’ve ever wanted. A lot of her is attractive from my point of view though there are some aspects of her appearance that really repulse me.
I’m sure many of you will want me to just give up on her but that’s not going to happen.
My current favorite is:
Starship - Nothing’s Gonna Stop Us Now
LOL, great thread.
The “realistic” love song is a strangely untapped market.
In the interests of contributing more than just LOL, off the top of my head “Never going to give you up” doesn’t imply that Rick Astley finds the object of the song attractive.
But JohnClay, are you still rambling on about your girlfriend of a few years ago? The one where you focus pretty much entirely on her lack of physical desirability and her superior prowess in bed?
Geezus, aren’t you over this yet?
Y’know, most people in this world are of pretty average looks…some might tweak a bit above, but many are homely. I include myself in the latter btw. You claim to love your girlfriend (hey, you want to dedicate a song to her for goodness sakes) but again you’re emphasising the bits you don’t particularly like (“find repulsive”).
People are packages JohnClay. What we might lack in the good looks department, we might make up for with a sense of humour or intellect. We might be firebrands in bed. We might just be sweet and understanding. We might be none of those. We might just be really ordinary people.
But your continual referencing to your girlfriend according to her lack of attractiveness is really weird. I know you claim to have a mental illness (BPD and social anxiety) but you sound intelligent and articulate enough to understand that PEOPLE DON’T NECESSARILY PICK PARTNERS ACCORDING TO THEIR LOOKS, and that once a partnership has developed, the physical traits of our partners become pretty irrelevant.
Unless your girlfriend picks her snot and eats it, unless she takes out her false teeth and licks them clean after eating, unless she pulls her false eye out as a party trick, I imagine your girlfriend is pretty much like the rest of us…maybe not drop dead gorgeous, but not Witchy-Poo either.
kambuckta:
I could go on about her many good points (e.g. she’s very financially responsible) to try and give a balanced view of her but I want to focus on what I usually can’t mention much in real life…
Anyway what made me focus on her looks again was this:
I’d be happy to just ignore the issue of looks altogether but according to that website I should be thinking of it - BTW our wedding day is in about a month.
You’re not reading my posts very carefully…
My opening post said “A lot of her is attractive from my point of view”
I’m pointing out that there simultaneously exist some repulsive parts to her. And I’m not exaggerating. She looks pregnant - her waist is 42 inches and her belly really hangs down over her pants - she’d look better if she had been a typical pregnant woman with a non-sagging belly. I know I could have avoided pointing that out but you seem to think that she’s just average in looks and I’m nit-picking.
JohnClay, definitely ignore that website. As I mentioned, most of us are not beautiful. We might have fat bellies, big arses, cellulite, saggy tits, hairy chins, wonky noses, less-than-perfect skin, yet none of these are important at a wedding ceremony.
On your wedding day (congratulations btw) all you need to do is thank her dad for allowing you to marry his daughter. It’s you who needs approval, you don’t need to wax lyrical about the virtues of the bride: traditionally, he is giving her to your custody, believing that you will love and care for her in perpetuity. In his passing his daughter to your care, you have met with his ‘approval’…ain’t nothing needed about the inherent beauty of his child.
Is your fiancee’s belly weight to do with psych medications? Some of them are renowned for being responsible for fluid retention issues, especially around the waist. In which case, it isn’t her fault she has a sagging tummy. It might be worthwhile to investigate whether there might be some remedies…perhaps ask your GP or shrink. You never know.
But anyway, congrats again, I wish you both well. Mazel Tov.
Gaining weight is a very common side-effect of her medication. Her doctor said that it is better for her to be overweight and well than thin and sick. BTW when she was younger she said her nickname was “the body”.
Well in a message to me today she wrote “U r perfect for me, and i will love you forever”. She has also told me that out of all of her boyfriends, I am her favorite.
One Ugly Child, by The Downliners’ Sect.
“You’re one ugly child,
Who can your mama be?
Said you’re one ugly child,
Who can your mama be?
If I was your dady,
I’d go and jump into the sea.”
Real Ugly Woman, by Jimmy Witherspoon (written by Leiber & Stoller)
"Well, she’s got great big teeth,
Yes, and they are way out of line,
She’s 300lbs of meat,
And she’s my female Frankenstein,
“Yes I love that woman,
Yes and she’s as ugly as can be,
Yes I love that woman,
And I know my baby loves me.”
Yeah well I did say "I want to focus on what I usually can’t mention much in real life… " (in the past I’ve told her she’s “pretty pretty” and another time I said she’s not as beautiful as she could be)
