I did one of these once. It, or perhaps I, was a total disaster. You were supposed to rate your…er…opponents(?), and they matched up people who had a certain mutual level of interest. We were guranteed to get at least three “prospects” out of it. I know I marked a few “very interested” and many “somewhat interested”, more out of form than genuine interest. (There seemed to be a large contingent of women who were, as my grandfather would say, a meal ticket; a lot of very pointed and even brazen questions about income and possessions.) Anyway, I apparently didn’t meet the minimum critieria for any of the women I indicated interest in. So I was ‘guaranteed’ the right to go back and subject myself to more Iron Maiden treatment. (Yeah, I kissed that $60 goodbye.)
And the whole experience…well, I’m not especially good at meeting people anyway, and particuarly not under that kind of pressure to put on my Happy Face. At least I didn’t have to endure, or be endured, for the obligatory social minimum of 30 minutes required by traditional dating. I’m guessing this is the major appeal of this thing.
So you should probably take my recommendations the way you’d take advice on integrity from Joe Isuzu, but for what it’s worth:[ul]
[li]Don’t talk about money; not what you make, not what he makes, nada.[/li][li]Have a prepared set of questions; this is basically an interview, even more so than a typical date, and you don’t have time to fumble around (like I do) trying to make some kind of conversation. They’ll probably give you a list of suggested questions.[/li][li]If you have any dealbreakers (no smoking, no kids, no chemical dependencies, et cetera), you might as well state them (in a nonagressive manner) now. Ditto for absoute requirements (want to have kids, has to go to church, et cetera). No point wasting time.[/li][li]Don’t give out any specific identifying information (where you work, phone number, et cetera). I recall a couple of strange blokes at the dating thing I went to, so they didn’t really seem to screen people out very well. (The women, even the goldbrickers, were all quite pleasent, even when they were clearly not interested. At least that’s an improvement over the typical thing.)[/li][li]Don’t set your expectations too high. I had an acquaintance–female, and not too picky–who quite enjoyed this sort of thing, and was actually responsible for enrolling me in this. She never got any solid relationships out of it, but quite a few dates and seeme to like it.[/li][/ul]
So don’t take my muffishness on the topic to mean that it doesn’t work or can’t be fun. Personally, though, I’d rather stick my hand in a vat of molten lead while lying on a bed of nails, though. Then at least I’d have the opportunity to show up that wiseacre Jearl Walker, or die trying in the name of science.
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