Okay, it’s truly a first-world problem that I’m somewhat lucky to have, but certainly others have shared my plight.
My lady loves being spooned at night as we sleep. And I’m cool w/ it as I sleep deeply w/ her in my arms. However, we just traded our pillow-top mattress for something without the extra plushness. That’s fine in-itself, but now my damn arm falls asleep as it’s nestled under her pillow during a spoon-sleep. It’s starting to be troublesome, so I’m not spooning as much. And Mrs. Piker is feeling the lack-of-love and providing feedback to that extent.
How have you guys solved this problem? Any commercial products out there? I’m going to use a modified pool noodle as my first plan of attack, but wanted to see what’s on your mind.
I welcome any humorous comments/wise-cracks too, but hope there is someone out there who feels my pain.
Life is change. So you move sometimes… so will she. If she’s willing to have you stay all night, its usually a good sign that she’s willing to accept you for your flaws.
That said, “My Lady”? Really…? Please, never say that anywhere near her unless you are both in costume & heading to a party. Its for your own good. Please?
well, we got rid of the other mattress because of time. You know it’s full of 25 pounds of mites and skin cells, right? I kiid, i kiid.
It was worn-out and ultra soft and shapey. We wanted something flat again and went all the way with the non-topper. We also felt that the pillow top was suffocating us a little bit in the sense of making us hotter at night. It was like the top was working as an insulator as we “sank” into it. I like the new mattress alright, really.
I’m starting to warm to the after-market pillow-top idea, though. Or at least a segment for the head.
Actually… I ain’t into that. It just makes me physically (not emotionally) uncomfortable.
“That’s like a metaphor for our whole relationship” Ha, thanks for sharing that. I’ll send it to the old lady (that any better Count?:p).
If your wife isn’t fine with 10 minutes of spooning and then you two retreating to a more comfortable position, she sounds like she may be a little insecure. Which is something you two may want to address.
I’m curious as to what the ratio is of couples that spoon all night, to those that do it for just a little while then separate?
I know with me, it’s always been 10 or so minutes and separate. And that’s always seemed to be the mutual preference between me and my past partners.
You should tell her what the issue is. I love to spoon, but I don’t expect him to have his arm die and fall off either. So a spoon is nice, but it is time limited. I want him to get rest too.
Yep, there’s spoon-time, then I kiss on the arm that’s under me which signals him to pull it back, and then it’s get comfy to sleep time. Either he’s done too, or if he wants more cuddle he’s welcome to whatever he can reach once I’m in my comfy sleeping position, but there’s definitely a time limit on how long I can spoon.
Oh, I’ll sleep like that 4-5 hours a night. It’s comfortable for us both. I’m not snugged butt-up to her the entire time, but I sleep on my side anyway and this just works for us. Especially the “arm under the pillows” part.
So for a guy that wants to spoon all night, what home-remedies do you propose to keep my arm from falling asleep? I’ve liked kanic’s -and others’- pillow-top idea (though I may just try a section). Oh, and Randall Monroe was reading my mind. But I’m still curious if you guys have thoughts on how to make our nights spoon-ier.
