Have you ever seen The Venture Bros?
Treat her like the Grand Galactic Inquisitor, who goes around yelling (very loudly) "IGNORE ME!"
Do not react to anything she says. Like don’t even look at her when she says anything unpleasant or yells. Just go about your business like she isn’t even there.
The only real solution is to burn the place down and move to Mars.
yes because passive aggressive behavior won’t trigger an emotional response from a crazy person.
Not to mention that the crazy person is on drugs.
My advice is for the OP to start prioritizing her safety over her convenience, and get out, ideally, by moving somewhere else, since the crazy person - once evicted - still knows her address, and may just want a little revenge for having been thrown out.
andrea_green, are you hanging in? (Are you able to reply?)
I can’t say if this is a Whoosh. (If it is, wouldn’t one of you have found the really crappy and shaky GoPro footage?)
All I really know is that we did everything short of reaching through the monitors to yank her out of that Hell Hole.
I Really hope she listened.
might be a good time to suggest a password protected computer.
Sounds like precisely what would trigger her berserk mode.
Invite a friend over to stay there with you for the next 6 weeks. Lock yourself in your bedroom and let your friend deal with the crazy roommate.
Better yet, advertise in AirBnB “quaint apartment villa with panoramic bay view and quirky roommate situation in heart of San Francisco”.
Well, the roses in the backyard are exceptional this year.
Leave. Tell the landlord that you have been verbally abused, denied access to shared spaces, and are afraid it will escalate; he may or may not return some money – but probably not.
As others have said, couch surf for six weeks or find somewhere to crash. YWCA? Hostel? San Francisco has a lot of these types of places; check out Oakland and surrounding suburbs that are a bit less expensive than the city.
Don’t engage with Teh Krazy, just go. Starting a legal hullaballoo won’t get you anywhere and will just tie you closer to a nutjob who may well retaliate for a very long time!
Guess what? You do not have to take this crap from a drug addicted control freak.
Go get a protective order now.
andrea_green?
You OK?
Her account profile shows activity from today, so we at least know her computer accessed this site recently.
There should be a law that if someone goes to a forum and posts that they’re in a dangerous situation, they have to post regularly until the situation is cleared up.
I’m so sorry I didn’t realize anyone had bumped up this thread to ask about my well-being. Bosda Di’Chi of Tricor and filmore I sincerely appreciate your concern!
So things really came to a boil when nice-guy landlord was in town for a few days and suggested the three of us go out for lunch. Unsurprisingly, the crazy-roommate was unable to contain herself/be-civilized for even a few hours in public and she became quite hostile during the meal (mostly directed at nice-guy landlord).
In light of the lunch fiasco, as of today, I have great news to report. The unstable/menacing roommate is being kicked out at the end of the month (her sublease was expiring anyway but because of her horrible behavior the nice-guy landlord chose to ask her to move out) and I am now able to stay in this very nice apartment as long as I want. I even saw the certified letter sent to her today containing a ‘notice to vacate’.
Meanwhile, things have settled-down for the most part. I followed a lot of the advice her regarding keeping contact/conversation to an absolute minimum. While she has been rude/unpleasant on a couple of subsequent occasions there have been no more major incidents like before. I also decided not to make any attempt to record the crazy-roommate on a regular basis because I agree it would probably just make things worse and not solve anything. If she gets completely out of line however I won’t hesitate to record her for my own protection.
The one weirdest thing was she invited me to join some fancy friends of her on some yacht to watch 4th of July Fireworks. Totally bizarre. I came up with a polite excuse and that was the end of that.
Just twenty-one days left of this situation and then the nice-guy landlord is going to move-in! Only question remaining is if the room-mate will cooperate with the notice to vacate or if she’ll put up any kind of fight, so far she’s being pretty weird/quiet about it but I’ll keep you all updates, and thank you all so very much for all the support and advice during this very difficult situation!
Get yourself some renter’s insurance, in case she does break something of yours that is expensive to replace, but that you can’t lock up or store off-site. Take pictures of things she breaks that are yours, because even mugs from Wal-Mart add up.
Take other people’s advice on locking things up, to the extent that you can. Put important papers in a safe deposit box, which is a good place for them anyway.
VERY IMPORTANT: Because of the possibility that a drug raid by the police could end up in getting your drugs as well as hers removed, make sure that every drug you have, both prescription and OTC, are in correctly labeled bottles. You can be fined, and have the confiscated drugs not returned if you have drugs, even antibiotics, in say, a Tylenol bottle, along with some OTC cold medicine, and a single codeine cough pill. I learned this the hard way.
If cooking is your favorite hobby, you won’t like my next suggestion, but get a cheap microwave, and a dorm-sized refrigerator for your room. You can cook just a couple of times a week, maybe when she isn’t there, and make prepared plated that you put in the refrigerator, and then heat up. Some food lends itself to thing and some doesn’t, so there are something you may no get to have much of, but from what I’ve been told they are expensive meats. I’m a vegetarian, and this works well with vegetarian food.
You can get a really cheap microwave for about $40, and maybe cheaper if you try Goodwill. The fridges are spendier, but sometimes you luck out and get one at a pawn shop. When my fridge broke in my house, and It was going to take me about five weeks to get the cash together for a new one, I lucked into a $25 fridge at a pawn shop.
IANAL, and I am not in position to lend you a really interesting sum of money, so all I can offer are stop-gap measures that the the roommate get away with her bad behavior.
I hope she is seeing a doctor, and they are in the process of switching meds, for her bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder, or intermittent-explosive disorder, and she doesn’t kill her next roommate.
You know why she invited you don’t you?
To “accidentally” knock me off the side of the boat? To try and smooth things over with me (and by extension the landlord?).
Because she’s crazy?
