But what about us! We’re pissed! Are we supposed to let it go as well?
Oh. All right. Dammit. 
Oh, yes. There are people like that all around, unfortunately. A relative asked for a specific -and expensive - item owned by the late StormMother within a day of her death.
No, we still have no idea what possessed her to actually approach us at home and ask for it. Borrowing from the OP - “Uncouth Bitch” was told no as politely as possible while the others looked on incredulously. That she’d have the audacity to come over the day after StormMother’s death and ask to be given this item…“uncouth” fits the bill.
We haven’t had anything to do with her in many years.
SnakesCatLady, please accept my added condolences.
I have a feeling the stupid, greedy bitch will be puzzled at any cold shoulders she encounters. If she’s puzzled enough to ask, tell her. Otherwise, leave her to her puzzlement. She’s not worth having to choose up sides in you organization.
When my son died, his best friend was the manager of their apt building. He called my 20 minutes before the memorial service to ask when I was going to get the rest of the “crap” out of the apartment, so they could rent it again. My son’s wife was still alive, but unconscious, in ICU. Plus, their rent was paid for the month. The “friend” didn’t bother to come to the service either.
This was after we had given him art work and some other stuff he’d asked for the day we arrived.
We had to fly home, but were going to return in a week, but he hired “cleaners” to throw everything away.
He when to the hospital once my daughter-in-law was awake and forced her to sign a release to do so, by telling her he’d throw away her clothes if she didn’t.
Damn! It makes me mad all over, writing about it, seven years later!
SnakesCatLady, you have my sympathy. Seemingly normal people become the greediest of shits as soon as someone dies. When my parents died, two of my sisters went into Renta-Vac mode and attempted to suck every object not nailed down out of the estate (and they were partially successful). I don’t call them anymore and I know that the only reason they ever call me is because they want something.
As for burying your friend with the ring, who is to say Gollum wouldn’t have tried to palm it from the open casket at the viewing…?
(If she did, I’d vote for you to stuff the witch all the way into the casket, screwing down the lids to lock her in, and proceeding with an expedited burial service.)
Am I the only one that wonders what the relationship between the RingBitch and the friend really was? I’ve known women who had a very, very closeted relationship who may have behaved the same way. That ring may have been a whole lot more symbolic than you know.
When folks are deep, deep into the closet, they aren’t able to articulate or justify their actions to others - hell, they’d sell their own souls to keep from being found out. But, she may have needed some token just to let herself remember.
Just another idea…
One of my mom’s aunts had a stroke a few months back. She was in the hospital overnight being tended by her only daughter and died the following morning. When her daughter returned to the house to pick clothes for her mom to be buried in she found that the house had been ransacked. A cousin living nearby figured her aunt would not need these things and helped herself to whatever she wanted (she had a key) right after she found out of the deceased aunt’s passing.
My aunt was very old and she had long before bought the exact clothes she wanted to be buried in, “to be pretty when she met her husband”. The bitch didn’t even left those clothes and somebody had to run and buy something.
Needless to say she’s become a pariah in the family. None of us would pee on her if she burst in flames right in front of us.
There was also the case of one of my grandfather’s friends who when my grandfather was in his deathbed showed up in the hospital and told his kids that my grandfather had sold him some cattle and he’d be taking over. Unluckily for him my grandfather recovered pretty well. My grandpa made him regret that his whole life.
I can’t 100% rule this out, but knowing both of the parties I find it extremely unlikey. They didn’t spend very much time together (RingBitch lives with her husband, son, daughter in law and three grandkids) and L.'s close friends were surprised when I told them RingBitch had called L her “best friend”. Also, when L was taken to ICU she asked her sister to keep RingBitch out.
None of L’s friends even knew if RingBitch gave the ring to L. No one ever saw her wear it; it was in the bottom of a jewelry box.
God, I hate people. Sorry about this, SCL-what a classless individual.
My eldest and only surviving sister pulled something similar when our sister died 4 years ago. My youngest son was 5 and really not understanding all of this. We were attempting to clean out Leigh’s condo. She had lots of foreign coins from her world travels (she went to Europe at least once a year). My sister would not let my #2 son poke through the coins (I wanted to give him a distraction)–she bent over those coins like a miser, searching for Euros. :rolleyes: She got 'em all–I know this because she announced it to all of us. I quietly pulled #2 son aside and showed him the cool francs, pounds, marks etc–she had Norwegian coins, Chinese ones–very cool.
Did I mention I hate people?
Ok, now I think I’m in love with Cheesesteak and sister J. That’s twice I’ve been smitten in one thread. I think it’s a record.
Snakes I’m glad you feel better. Sometimes a good rant is just what it takes. Well, that and Dopers offerin’ their suggestions for revenge. Hmmm… mabye I do need to make it up for a Snakes game this year. You could intro me to bitch from hell and I could make mention of Libby’s ring and ask as to what she did with it once she got it melted down. I could make it sound just like I knew Libby and had heard about her desire for the ring as a keepsake. Either that or we could both make fun of how she dresses. I’d be good either way. 
Was this some kind of Titanic ring that would be worth mounting an expedition to the sea floor two miles below to find?
I didn’t think so.
Bitch ho!
(emphasis added)
This seems to me to at least weakly confirm my suspicion. I think a lot more was going on between these two than anyone knew about.
-FrL-
To be honest, I don’t care if they were secretly married! I still think it was a totally rude and classless thing to do. Not asking for the ring, although that is bad enough, but doing it before L’s body was even cold. It was very hurtful to her sisters.
As do I, of course.
-FrL-
I’m so sorry about the loss of your friend, SnakesCat Lady.
The woman in question was indeed a fucktard. There, I’ve always wanted to use that word, but never felt the situation warranted it before. In this case, the word is too tame.
But now, about that melting … I’ve heard of people melting down jewelry for sentimental reasons. For example, mom and dad die together in a car crash leaving wills that say “don’t bother to bury me with any jewelry, the heirs can keep it.” So daughter melts the gold from the two rings and makes one piece of jewelry that she wears in commemoration of her parents.
It is difficult to imagine that the same person who would charge over to the house and demand the ring from grieving relatives would have such a sentimental attachment to the deceased that she had something like this in mind, but maybe …
Just to add my two cents as to the fate of The One Ring;
You either A) Hold it up for Ringbitch to confirm, and, when she does, unceremoniously drop it on the floor and boot-heel it into coruscating oblivion. If the Ringbitch expresses any disbelief or emotion whatsoever, you accost her with unflinching eyes and say, in a level tone, “Get the fuck out…of this house.” (She will hear the "or else’). This is probably what I would have done, but I am vindictive fuck. Or B) Toss it into a convenient pigpen and then follow **Cheesesteak’s ** advice about later inquiring about it at a public function. This way you get to recount not only the Ringbitch’s intial rudeness, but also how she went sieving through a half a foot of pig shit to regain her preciousss.
But seriously, SnakesCatLady I can’t imagine your shock and grief. My sincere condolences.
At least my aunts waited until after my Mom’s funeral to ask about some things of my great-Grandmothers.
Yes I have them, and keep them I will. Covetous people who have no respect of grief can go to hell. Rather quickly I should hope.
I’m sorry for your loss, SCL. That’s a very fast deterioration!
When my mother died, we had a lot more “warning”. We knew for at least six months that she was terminally ill, no hope of recovery. I, the youngest and still living at home, became her full-time care-giver. During her illness, my, mom, and my four sisters had conversations about what we wanted. It was all cool. Except for one sister, whom I’ll call S. For several years before mom died, S had given mom Hummel figurines for holidays, etc. When mom was sick, S let it be known that she wanted the Hummels back after mom died. No problem. But, the day mom died, S came over (after the body had been removed from the house), and announced she thought she’d better get the figurines now “before anything happened to them”. WTF? You couldn’t even wait until the body was cold? Did she think I was going to turn around and sell them to a collector or something??
Yeah, some people are just that fuckin’ clueless and classless. 
norinew, that was what bothered me about the whole thing. No one would have minded if she asked for the ring at a more appropriate time, it was the fact that she didn’t even give L’s sisters time to get some badly needed sleep before she came over and demanded it - and plopped her slimey butt down on the couch as if she wasn’t leaving until it was found. Which she didn’t - she sat there for several hours while the exhausted sisters found jewelry boxes and dug through them. And never expressed any grief over L’s death.
Greedy clueless ill-mannered cunt. I just wish I didn’t have to work with her this hockey season. I have seriously considered resigning but some other club members have just about talked me out of it.
Did you tell them (in confidence, of course) why you wanted to resign?
Yes. The people I spoke to had already heard the sordid tale from L’s sisters. Smeagol isn’t one of the most popular people in the club; the only reason she won the seat is because the only person who ran against her is even less popular. I was encouraged to keep my seat and simply have as little to do with her as possible, which is what I intend to do. Resigning wouldn’t feel right to me, because L is the one who talked me into running in the first place!