I can’t believe this woman. We were going to get married. We were engaged for a year. We bought a house together. She told me that I never had anything to worry about as far as the relationship was concerned, that we’d never break up over little things.
And then she broke up with me, saying “it was lots of little things”!
Actually, she went to her high school reunion, met up with her old boyfriend, and decided to ditch me for him, but she wouldn’t tell me that till I checked out her email on her computer to see what was really going on. I trusted her and she betrayed me, that bitch!
To make it worse, she was my best friend and almost my only friend. And then she betrays me like this, saying that she still wants to be friends! As if!
So sorry to hear that. But at least you found out now. If her focus was going to be so easily changed, for whatever reason, much, much better to find out now than after more of your time is invested in the relationship and their are possibly kids involved.
I know that doesn’t help much, but it’s really the case.
IANAL but I’m pretty sure I’ve heard of cases where the gifted ring (ie, it wasn’t a heirloom from her side) legally had to be returned. cite for now …
SimonMoon5, sorry it worked out this way. At least you found out now.
FWIW, Judge Judy on her program always requires engagement rings to be returned if the wedding doesn’t go through. She explains it as a contract - the ring is given contingent on the marriage, and if the contract isn’t completed the ring must go to the party who paid for it. I don’t know whether this is general practice or just Judge Judy’s idea.
SimonMoon5, I feel for you, both for the loss and for the way it happened. One thing that concerns me is your statement that she was almost your only friend. This isn’t healthy - you might consider trying to develop more friendships. It’s not good to be too emotionally dependent on any one person, either for you or the other person.
You have no idea the grief you have just been rescued from. A rotten significant other who won’t leave is SO. MUCH. WORSE than a rotten significant other who leaves. You should be smiling from ear to ear.
After you get ditched, if you’re smart, you realize it doesn’t really *matter *why. There’s nothing on that computer or in that wallet that’s going to make you feel better. Also, the whole “You hurt my feelings, so now I get to be an asshole, and blame it on you.” mentality is a pet peeve of mine.
The relationship is dead, and dead things are best buried, since keeping them around and poking at them makes for a toxic environment.
Fuck her sister and her mom! and sell it as amateur pron.
Kidding!
You have dodged a bullet.
Anyone who tells you that you will never have to worry about X with them, X is precisely what they will use to stab you in the back. YMMV.
Just bustin’ your balls, man. There are lots of fish in the sea, and all that.