First off, I apologize if this should belong in MPSIPS, moderators. Seemed like enough of a polling question to belong here, I think.
Second, a short recap: on January 27, 1997, a friend of mine killed himself by jumping off a bridge into the Mississippi river. I was at college in Boston at the time, and was unable to attend the funeral, and didn’t return home until the summer, at which point everyone had dealt with it and it wasn’t the prominent topic at hand.
Third, the point: on Friday one of my roommates (“Bob”) tried to kill himself with an overdose of pills - about 100 assorted pills of Prozac, ibuprofen, welbutrin, and something else. My other roommate found him several hours later, and rushed him to the hospital. He’s conscious and coherent now, and will be held for observation for about a week, then has a month or more of outpatient treatment.
Just what the hell am I supposed to do?!
Yes, I know there’s the standard response of “Be a friend, don’t press any issue, etcetcetc”. But how am I supposed to feel? I’m moving from “Goddamnit, you IDIOT” to “Jesus, why didn’t I see this coming?” to “Christ, this really sucks” to “What the hell do I do?”
Yeah, I also know that it’s normal to feel this way, but this is the first time I’ve gone through this. And then there’s all the other things: rent is due. Neither I nor my other roommate have the cash on hand to cover Bob’s share this month. It’s not exactly right to go up to him and ask for a check while he’s in the hospital.
I got home from my grandmother’s on Sunday afternoon, found out from a voicemail where Bob was, and spent the rest of the day at the hospital. I came by to visit again tomorrow, and I’ll fight through traffic to see him today after work. I brought him some books and a deck of cards so he doesn’t spend all the time staring at the wall (which is what I remember doing when I was last in a hospital). He said he wants visitors, so I guess this is good.
Do I bring the subject up when he comes home? (But then, I don’t even know if he’ll be coming home- he may move back in with his parents, which would then necessitate finding another roommate or breaking the lease) Just what do I do?
And what’s morbidly funny is that after I got home from the hospital Sunday night, I was too tired and had too much of a headache to go out and do anything for New Year’s Eve. But there wasn’t any ibuprofen left. I can’t help but laugh exhaustedly at that.
And if there’s no advice forthcoming, since every situation is different, then I guess it’s just helpful for me to rant this out here.
Thanks, and stuff.