HUGS I wish I had better words, but I’m thinking of & praying for you guys!
Oh, my goodness, I just saw this thread and update. Hugs to you f/f and much strength.
I am so very sorry.
Thank you all. He’s still getting cards and reading comments on his Caring Bridge journal, if anyone is further interested in participating. So far, it seems like these things are grounding him and giving him some comfort. It’s truly been a blessing.
As promised, it’s in the mail. And thanks to the magic of moving the due date, I’m actually a day early instead of a week late!
Whichever Doper is from Nova Scotia… you have an amazingly beautiful way with words. Your comment to my husband will always be a treasure to me. Thank you.
The latest update is that they’re transferring him to hospice today. Life will never be the same.
Thanks for the updates, faithfool. Continuing to keep you and Jaceson in our thoughts. (((hugs)))
Faithfool said she was going to try to decorate Jaceson’s room with military stuff. And she may still do that. But since time appears to be rather short at this point, I’ve had an idea, and faithfool has given me permission to post it here. She’s still trying to deal with getting everything arranged.
Faithfool told me that Jaceson is a sports fan. He likes baseball (the Rangers) and football (UT.) I’m in Montgomery, AL, and we have a pro baseball team here called the Biscuits (yeah, I know…but they’re a good team, I swear.) I decided I’d send Jaceson a Biscuits team banner to put on the wall. Mostly to make him laugh when he looks at it. Because, the BISCUITS.
And then I thought it would be a neat idea for anyone else who might want to to send Jaceson a banner for their local team, too. It would be nice for him to have a collection of team banners from all over, maybe from all over the world. They could be any kind of team…baseball, football, a competitive basket weaving team. Anything that would catch his interest or make him laugh. Or even a pro team. I’d like to see if we could send enough to cover a wall with team banners. I think we could do it, and I think he’d get a kick out of it!
Also, if anyone has any connection to the Rangers or to UT, or knows anyone who does, perhaps these teams would send him some things since he’s such a big fan. You know, a shirt he can wear, maybe a hat, an autographed team ball, etc. Does anyone have a connection who could contact them?
I’m in South Florida. I have a few major universities, plus major league teams all the big sports. Faithfool, Any preference what I send? I could make just about anything happen in that area. I have a friend who used to work for the Marlins, but he’s not there any more.
…but I can drop him a note and see if he has any useful contacts. It’s a longshot, though.
Also…missed the edit window…
Sorry that he’s moved into hospice. Hospice people are angels, but I hate to see people learn that first hand. Please remember that they are there for you, as much as for him. I’ve seen them help friends of mine who were sole caregivers in difficult situations. Listen to them. Let them help. Let them take care of you a little bit.
Kemi,
Please PM the address to me. I know that my mom, sister and several friends would love to send him a card or letter…in addition to myself.
It’s the least we can do to take a few moments out of our busy days to show some compassion and support to you and your hubby! 
Just checking in to see how things are going. You guys are in my thoughts.
Yeah… I’ve been wondering if it’d bother him if someone said they were sending “Thoughts and Prayers”? It feels like I’m doing more if I cover the secular and the sacred.
Oh, and PM me!
(My thoughts and either prayers or crossed fingers are with you…)
PMs on the way!
The remainder of my reply didn’t want to post, so I’m trying again…
I’m so sorry for not checking in lately. He’s hit a snag with his pain medications and it’s slow going trying to get them adjusted where they actually help, yet don’t knock him out or leave him screaming for more. Then today, I’ve begun getting funeral arrangements started and, well, it’s just a shit show, you know? So, I haven’t updated anywhere in the last couple of days. I’m hoping tomorrow will be better and I can catch everything up then.
For the questions, etc. that I’ve missed…
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Thank you, Clothilde, for the lovely idea. I think sports banners from anywhere would be awesome, but the Biscuits in particular has my support.
Further, something from the Rangers or UT would probably make him delirious with joy. Thank you. -
I didn’t mean to skip it, but about the religion thing: we’ve both found our faith again more recently. Me more so than him and for longer, he’s turned his opinions around here at the end. Regardless, he’d be pleased with anything. Secular, religious, it doesn’t matter. But funny is GREAT.
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For those who are sending emails… he’s reading and appreciating them; he just hasn’t felt up to responding too much. I’m hoping when the ‘good stuff’ levels out and he’s not just doubled in knots, that’ll happen.
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For everyone on Caring Bridge, your comments are such daily boosters. Dear heavens, the man loves reading about himself.
It’s so good to see his waning self-confidence perk back up over the kind things folks are saying. More thanks indeed. -
The cards and letters, oh my! Those things have turned into their own form of drug for him. He looks forward to the mail run each day and whatever goodies it holds. The special people in his life right now is whoever comes bearing sweets, morphine or well wishes. He just lights up and will read them over and over and over again. Then he tells whoever he talks to on the phone or visits in person all about them and how cool they are.
I am so grateful. Very, very grateful. And you guys are an incredible lot. There’s original jokes and adorable kiddie crack ups. There’s stickers and great artwork. There’s been some letters that were so touching they made me cry and some writing so beautiful that I’ve shared them with anyone interested. He’s gotten a few gifts and some wonderful homemade items. It’s just been deliciously overwhelming to him and he’s loved every minute.
Which results in me saying this…
For every prayer said
For every good thought
For every card or note
For every offer of:
Calls, help, friendship,
Support, laughter, love,
Beauty and compassion…
I thank you all
From the depth of my heart
Beyond always.
I’ll never stop singing your praises. I love each of you. <3
PS. Honey I think I didn’t PM you his info, as I’m not seeing any record of it. However, if I did, please disregard what I’m about to resend now.
PSS. New stuff should be up on CB tomorrow, although with the weather being what it is, I have no idea if our wi-fi will be flooded. Thank you for your patience.
[Sorry for the multiple posts. Gotta lotta wonky going on tonight.]
digs, it won’t let me send you a PM. If you’d like, you can email me. My addy is in my profile.
And I’m also hoping to answer some PMs I haven’t gotten to yet… soon. Pinky swear.
Huh. Not sure why, but if that’s why I’ve never gotten a PM from [insert name of this month’s most annoying poster], then that’s ok.
I’ll email you some strength and wisdom and a double chocolate brownie.
And for heaven’s sake, no reply needed – keeping up with your pen pals is not a requirement right now.
Just another brief update:
They don’t feel Jaceson will last the week. He’s taken a really drastic turn for the worse since late Friday night and things are looking terribly grim. For those still reading along, please put as much positive energy as possible out in the universe so that he won’t suffer. Thank you.
I am so very sorry. Sending peaceful vibes your way~~
Oh, I’m so sorry.