Talking dirty during sex.

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I realize that the moment you say the word religion or sex in these forums ( not to mention both in the same sentence) your in for controversy. So let me be as succinct as possible and just lay it out there.

I was wondering, as I am want to do, if devoutly religious people talk dirty during sex? And if so does it count as a sin? Now I happen to believe in God and go to church on a semi-regular basis. The wifey and I are whiskeypalions…errr Episcoplian.(insert chuckle here). But we still like to utter those lust filled phrases during sex. To me it sorta rounds out the whole (no pun intended) event.

I live in the buckle of the bible belt and I know many a good christian here in my town. As a matter of fact, I watched the local Baptist minster one Sunday preach on local cable access. The thrust (damn those puns anyway) of his sermon was that a husband and wife had the duty to pleasure each other and have sex when needed. He did not elaborate further about what might or might not be allowed to be said during the act itself.

Now I can imagine [1]anyone* having sex, but I am having trouble imagining those deeply religious folks uttering phrases like, “Come on give it to me baby” and “How does that feel”?.. “Can you feel my balls?” Not to mention ( in extreme heights of ecstasy) “Who’s your daddy!” And that all time number one on the hit parade…“I’mm cumminnng.”

I realize these are private things not to be shared with anyone, but still I wondered if talking dirty during the sex act would count as a sin? Certainly if you said these things outside of a sexual context, I think they probably would be. So I suppose they might count as a sin during sex… or do they?

I think one has to figure in the over powering influences of the sex act itself…that is could it be considered a temporary form of insanity to scream out “Ooooh Jesus slam me!” during the moment of, “the little death” as the Italians so aptly refer to it.

I hope the Lord and those devoutly religious people who may be on this board will forgive me for wondering these questions and for asking them in an outright manner here on my favorite communication medium.

But I figure if you can’t tell your message board friends what your thinking who can you tell? Wait…that’s suppose to be your priest or minister or something I think… Anyway, I was always taught that God has a sense of humor.

Yep I know I need to get more of a life and I am trying, but in the meantime these are some of the things I wonder about.

FWIW Just as I was about to press the submit button on this topic the connection with my provider was broken…mmmmm.

Note to moderator…I don’t really see a great debate here so I put this in mpsims, hope you agree. :slight_smile:

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Yours truly,
aha

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aha,

I’ll take the risk of being stoned here.

When I first became a Christian, I had a lot of problems with some of the things The LION and I enjoy doing during sex.

I didn’t know if they were wrong or not. And I am very vocal in the bedroom.

The first part of this verse helped me alot.
the second half didn’t apply to the situation.

Hebrews 13:4 (K.J.V.)- Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled : but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

So I just do and or say whatever feels natural.

I may be wrong but to me the first part of this says that nothing a husband and wife do sexually (as long as both are willing) is wrong.

Please people, be gentle with me, I’m not preaching, just trying to answer a question.

“Ayesha, Who can bend minds with her spoon” WallyM7

Voted SDMB Biggest Flirt (Female) and Least Shy (No Mom, I have no idea why they think that)

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Ayesha: Check out your post count :slight_smile:

``You’re just an empty cage girl if you kill the bird.’’ – Tori Amos.

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aha, to answer you seriously, I am also a Christian, and I don’t think it is a sin, as long as both partners are in agreement. Nothing to forgive in my opinion. This sounds like a legitimate question. I do not personally say much during lovemaking, I was brought up rather puritanically, and am still trying to unlearn a lot of that.
I do not think it is wrong, just something I don’t have much practice at. My husband, however can get very vocal, and it doesn’t bother me.
I feel the need to add this though, I agree with Ayesha that nothing a husband and wife do sexually is wrong, but I must add, within the context of marriage. As to those who are not married, I would lean on the side of monogamous practices. Just my opinion on that, FWIW.

You are more than a human being, you are a human becoming.
Og Mandino

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purplebear:

Nothing?
It’s possible that I am not sure what you mean by “in the context of marriage.”
Would that include for instance sex toys, porno films,fantasizing about a third person being involved and other things??? etc etc

Don’t mean to pry just curious. :slight_smile:

I Don’t Know Whether To Kill Myself Or Go Bowling.
famous C&W song

Yours truly,
aha

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What is
talk dirty? Hmmm, is it like tv?
“I can’t find your ‘blank’” 'Can you put your blank in my blank?" 'What if we blank and later have kids?"

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Handy, it usually means letting your mouth overload your ass…for instance “ohhh baby I am gonna give you all 8 of these inches.”

I Don’t Know Whether To Kill Myself Or Go Bowling.
famous C&W song

Yours truly,
aha

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You are prying a bit, but it’s okay. I did post here. Again, as long as it is acceptable to both partners, it would be fine, IMHO. Now, am I going to tell you which of those choices if any my husband and I indulge in, no. That falls under nunya.

And, by ‘in the context of marriage’ I mean that to go outside of your relationship for sex, either alone, or together, is a sin acoording to the Bible. We will all have to answer for our actions one day, one way or another. Again, IMHO.
Does that answer your questions any better?

You are more than a human being, you are a human becoming.
Og Mandino

That’s my name, not a description. I am neither purple nor a bear. Okay, so I’m purple.<a true Wally original!>

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Okay, Aha, to give my answer to your earlier question and then your later ones.

As I guess anyone who has spent much time in the GD area knows, I am a very devout and vocal Christian. I am also very Southern Baptist. My father is a Southern Baptist minister and has been for most of my life.

Now, to answer the questions.

I do not believe that talking dirty to your spouse is a sin. I would leave off the taking the Lord’s name in vain, but everything else is pretty much okay. Now you do not even mention using any “dirty” words like fk or p*y or anything thing of the like. But those words are only naugthy because of the way society views them. In the context of your marriage (as long as the kids don’t hear) then they are just words and if they help you guys get in the mood and add some spice to your love life then great.

As to the questions about marital aids. What is a marital aid? Anything that aids in the marriage. Something that helps in the sex and intimacy department would seem to be okay. If both partners were in agreement to use a vibrator or even an adult film there really is no problem. They problem would arise if one were to start seeking satisfaction outside of marriage. That is an affair, a prostitute, any situation that is not just the two who are married.

I think even involving someone else even if both partners are in agreement is still wrong. But using an adult toy or two, I do not see a problem.

Jeffery

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I once posted a link that showed Scripturally that things such as anal and even oral sex were not cool, even within marriage.

However, even the Pounders at the LBMB seemed to think this was extreme. A bunch of people weren’t too keen on anal sex, but claimed that was a personal chioce not based on anything in the Bible, and that if a married couple both enjoyed a little back-door action, mutually, that was okay.

I am still waiting to hear someone say that these things are bad even within marriage because outside of this one website, I have yet to find anyone who thinks like that.

Yer pal,
Satan

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I’m also a Southern Baptist, and mom of two boys that I’ve always been very frank and open with both of them about sex.

God is the Creator and Inventor of it, and when He made everything, He pronounced it as ‘VERY Good’. Between a husband and wife, the Bible not only specifies that one shouldn’t turn down the other partner (if only ** my /b] husband read THIS message board!) but that men are told again and again to ‘enjoy their wives’.

No, vibrators and sex toys/pornos ( those would be a personal no-no for me, but only because I’m in forced abstinence, and they would only aggravate my dilemma) aren’t mentioned as good or bad. But the marriage bed is seen as ‘holy’, those are God’s words.

And yeah, there are a number of ‘religious people’ who would be quick to tell you what NOT to do, but it comes from their OWN inhibitions NOT from the Bible, and when you don’t know, go read for yourself. * The Truth shall set you free! *

Judy

“Muck should replace ‘suck’. For ‘muck’ is yucky, while ‘suck’ feels very lucky. So, don’t stay stuck on suck, switch to MUCK, today.”

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Wow… This Bible stuff is cooler than I thought…

Yer pal,
Satan

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I only talked dirty during sex one time, when I got a leg cramp.

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Wally, you are a true romantic.

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I dated a lesbian once [Yes, she is married now & has a wife], and she would just love it if you talked dirty during sex but it had to be at just the right time or get the opposite effect.

But, you know aha, deaf people talk with their hands, so they usually can’t talk much during sex cause deaf people do it with their hands. sorry if I don’t make sense today :slight_smile:

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So k handy you never do anyway…

Juuuussk kiddin! :slight_smile:

I Don’t Know Whether To Kill Myself Or Go Bowling.
famous C&W song

Yours truly,
aha

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Well, I’m not Christian, so I don’t know if my answer will count, but here’s all I have to say about talking dirty in bed…

I’d consider it a sin if you were in bed with me and you didn’t talk dirty to me!

That’s all. Carry on with your more spiritual discussion. :smiley:

“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.” - Anne Frank

“Mom, he’s a neo Nazi! He’s a doctor also? Well…” - WallyM7

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Satan says:

See, Brian, that is what we have been trying to tell you.

Best as I can figure, about the only things it says is that marriage is between two people and should last for a life time. And that sex is not only just for procreation.

So, have at it Aha. Talk dirty, use toys, videos, etc. And if you one day burn in Hell, then you will know that you should have not listened to me. :wink:

Jeffery

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StrTrkr77:

Ok StrTrkr77 see you in hell. I will be the one with the KY in one hand and a porno video in the other.

I Don’t Know Whether To Kill Myself Or Go Bowling.
famous C&W song

Yours truly,
aha

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KY is alright, but at the suggestion of I believe OpalCat, I think I like AstroGlide better.

I think the tape will melt in Hell, but maybe not.

Jeffery