I have a new girlfriend, who has a ten-year-old daughter. Last night was the second time I’ve hung out at their place while Daughter was still awake, so I’m just starting to get to know her. I’ve never had any kids.
While Daughter was eating her dinner, Girlfriend left the room for a moment. Daughter immediately jumped up and dumped her full glass of milk in the sink, then ran back and sat down as Girlfriend came back in the room. Daughter did this right in front of me, and knew I was watching. I chose not to say anything to Girlfriend at that time; I waited a few hours, until after Daughter had been put to bed.
It’s way too early in the relationship for me to have said anything directly to Daughter; that wouldn’t be my place. Hopefully things will go well enough that I’ll take on a parenting role, but that’s down the road, not now. I feel it’s important at this time to build a good relationship with Daughter, so I hate to tattle on her, and possibly start off with her resenting me or hating me. But she shouldn’t be allowed to get away with stuff like that, either.
The thought has also crossed my mind that this could have been a test by Daughter, to see what she might get away with with me. And that there’s probably more to come.
So, what’s a good way to deal with stuff like this?