So, after much careful consideration, I decided to move out of state at the end of January. It seemed to be perfect timing, my lease was up, my son was going away to college, and my latest project at work would be completed. I’ve been wanting to move from here for ages, but felt it would be best to stay until my son graduated high school, which he’ll do on the 21st, rather than uproot him with only one semester left.
I’ve no family and few friends here, so the only reasons I’ve had to stay have been my son and my work. I can work just about anywhere, so that’s not really a valid reason to stay here, and with my son leaving, my job was just not worth sacrificing my happiness for.
Anyway, going by the assumption that life would work out as planned, we moved out of our apartment and into a hotel, where we’ve been staying the past few weeks. I gave plenty of notice at work, and have been working to get everything organized for my replacement, and I’ve been sending out resumes.
Now, with just over two weeks to go until my planned moving date (Jan. 29th) everything has come crashing down. I feel so overwhelmed that I can’t think straight. My son’s high school misplaced his SAT scores, so that they didn’t get sent out until mid-December. I do have to place some of the blame for this on my son’s shoulders, as he should have been responsible for checking to see that everything had been received. Anyway, his guidance counselor assured me that there would still be plenty of time for them to be processed. Wrong! Well, sort of, anyway.His application to a very expensive private university was reviewed and he was notified of his acceptance today, but his application to the public university is still under review. If accepted, he’ll be moving into the dorm on the 22nd. I can’t afford the tuition at the private school, as it’s over twice that of the public one, and I did tell him that at the time he applied.
Even if he does get accepted to the public university, the restriction I’ve been trying to have lifted from my stocks since November so that I can sell some to pay tuition still hasn’t been lifted. Everything is processed except that the lawyer for the firm handling the stock transfer hasn’t signed the paperwork, and since the office is just outside La Conchita, it looks as if it may be awhile until it can be. There have been a series of misunderstandings, miscommunications, and lost paperwork between both the investment company and myself and the investment company and the lawyer, but if the stock isn’t sold this week, I won’t be able to pay tuition anywhere and I’m frustrated. It seems as if the fates are working against me here.
Next problem: I had surgery done a few months ago, and since then have been having some problems, which both my dr. and I believed were a result of my lifting too much too soon. He told me he felt I’d need a second, minor surgery to correct this problem, and I knew it would entail a short hospital stay and a recuperation period, but wouldn’t really hinder my plans too much. I’d planned on having the surgery the week before I left, then driving to PA and spending a bit of time recuperating at my aunt’s before finishing my move. Anyway, went back to the doctor and during his exam, he noticed that while there was a definite problem from the previous surgery, there was somethign else going on that looked suspicious and performed a biopsy. Long story short, I’ve got to have a major abdominal surgery in the very near future. At first, I’d thought I’d have it done once I moved, keeping my health insurance through COPRA. Today, I talked to our plan benefit coordinator who informed me that if I have the surgery out of network, I’ll be responsible for .20(total reasonable cost - 150) + anything above what they deem reasonable cost. If I have it done in network, my out of pocket is only $400, out of network, it could exceed 30k. :eek: Guess I’m going to have it here after all. Not really a big deal, except that here I am, sitting in a hotel room in the middle of nowhere with my son possibly going away to college on the 22nd, and possibly not, facing a surgery which will render me unable to drive for 4 weeks or longer.
Tonight, I tried talking to my son, telling him that perhaps it’s not the end of the world if he doesn’t go to college this term. I’d actually much prefer he start in the fall, when everyone is new and in the process of making friends, as he’s a bit shy and I’m more than a bit worried about him being off on his own. I mentioned that I could certainly use his help if it doesn’t work out that he can go now and that moving out of the area for a few months (March or April until September) and then coming back in the fall would be an adventure. While he does understand that getting the restriction lifted on the stocks is out of my control, as is getting accepted by the public university, he was furious that I’d make him move with me. I won’t MAKE him move with me, but I do think it would be a good experience for him to actually have a job, either here or where I’m moving to, just to see what it’s like in the real world, and of course I’d much prefer he live with me than on his own, not that any job he could get here would begin to pay rent and living expenses.
I feel like a terrible mother for having everything up in the air the way it is. When I’d decided to move, I thought everything was so well planned out, but it’s all fallen apart and I feel like I don’t have control of anything. 
would certianly help. Not being able to drive is going to be a serious setback, and you’ll need all the help you can get. So I would be setting things up to take care of that situation first.