So the typical and traditional model of a male/female relationship/marriage is usually that the man is the provider, the breadwinner, the one who will secure the woman financially and take care of her because he usually earns more, has higher status or position in society/career, etc and the woman won’t amount to much if she doesn’t get married to a good-standing husband.
This was also seen as a romantic picture. The man rescuing or saving the woman who needs saving. The man being strong, full of character, and bravery and the woman being so beautiful, innocent, and tender who needs protection and love.
But as you know, roles have been changing. Women today are heralded as equals to men. Women’s right have helped them to earn as much or even more than men now. Women are able to excel in their own careers, education, and have positions of power and status. Women no longer need to depend on a man to save her. She can provide for herself and actually in most cases now, she could provide for the family and her husband.
So this leads me to my question. If this is the direction we are in, why is it that I don’t hear about women looking for a man she can provide for, save, rescue and be his protector? There are lots of men who don’t have good jobs, don’t have money, don’t have bright future prospects and therefore may never get married and have a family / children. He’ll be a lost, forgotten, failure of a person to go anywhere in life except to live with his parents in the basement working a minimum wage job at a retail store of flipping burgers.
Where are the women who are so strong and powerful with money and careers, to come and marry these men and save them, love them, provide for them? How come this doesn’t really exist when it should now that women have become equals or greater than men in many situations. Or the other question I should ask is, do women actually find men who earn less than them, have lower positions/status than them attractive? Do women actually seek out a man nowadays who they can provide for and tell the man that he can stay at home, raise the kids, take care of the house while she brings in the money and secures his and the family’s financial future? Is that even something women dream about doing nowadays because if times are changing, then shouldn’t this be a growing demographic of women?
If not, then isn’t there a problem here? So women are now so independent and capable to provide for themselves, does that mean they would only find attractive other men who are even stronger and higher than them? I don’t see many women seeking men who are at a much lower status in life than them as attractive / appealing and pursuing these kinds of men.
I like the scene in the movie of “What Women Want” with Mel Gibson where at the end of the movie he was the one who needed saving and the woman (Helen Hunt) was the knight in shining armor to save him. That’s a pretty old movie too. So where are all these women if this is true? It still seems like to me women prefer men who are “above” them so-to-speak because it’s still romantic for the man to be able to provide and protect her. But what about the men who need saving?