Got stood up recently. Didn’t like it. Sent a message immediately, asking for an explanation. Sent another one, 24 hours later, a little more P.O.'d, asking if the reason was an emergency, a change of heart or a better offer. Got a contrite message back, explaining the reason. Get this:
It was an emergency. My sweetie’s ex-boyfriend had gone suicidal over their breakup, and she’d been spending all her time over there trying to get him not to kill himself. So of course she couldn’t call me from there, as that might push him over the edge. And this little episode ruined her taste for new relationships, so, between that and babysitting her ex, I wouldn’t be dating her anytime soon. But she still wants to be friends.
Can anybody beat that as a reason for getting stood up???
And, is there any lamer way to get your girlfriend to stay with you??? Not that that was necessarily his plan.
This reminds me of a situation I came across over the last few weeks.
My friend’s sister (we’ll call her Sally) dumped her boyfriend of x years to have a wild and passionate fling with a new guy. That burned itself out within two weeks, and so Sally decided to crawl back to her ex (we’ll call him Harry) - only problem was, he didn’t want her back. In the fortnight Sally had been gone, Harry heard all about how much his friends hated her, and how bad she was for him, and he’d already begun taking an interest in another girl. Well, Sally was none too pleased to find her man making eyes at another woman, and refusing to take notice of her, so she went home and took every paracetemol tablet in the house (all 18 of them), and called Harry to let him know. Being the knight in shining armour that he is, Harry dashed to her rescue, and took her to the hosiptal where they unromantically pumped her stomach. When she was finally released from hospital, Harry took her back to his house, and she spent the night in his bed - while he slept on the couch. She went home the following day, but decided she liked Harry’s house better so she called him and told him that unless he let her stay another night, she’d take another overdose, as she had some more pills. Poor old Harry spent another night on his sofa.
I have no idea what she did to drive Harry’s new girl away, but I saw Sally last week looking tired, black circles under her eyes. Asked what was wrong, and it seems she’d been up all night keeping an eye on Harry, as he’d tried to slit his wrists. She’s no longer suicidal, now he is instead.
Ain’t love grand!
I feel sorry for her. She is falling for the dumbest trick in the book. (hey I fell for that) Have you ever seen Blazing Saddles? In the movie a new sherrif comes to town. Problem is he is black. The town is ready to lynch him so he pulls his gun and holds it to his head and takes himself hostage. The towns people don’t dare run up to lynch him because he may shoot himself.
Her ex has basically taken himself hostage. “If you don’t come back to me I’ll kill myself.”
Actually, I would say that she is lying to you. She just didn’t want to go out with you. Easier to blame it on her ex than to look you in the eye and say the truth. And the friends part is, well, uh, HELLO! Wake up and smell the coffee…she’s not interested.
I dunno… From her response, she may have been tellling the truth or not. It’s hard to say. Regardless, she’s kinda taken herself out of the equation anyhow, so it’s a moot point.
Oh, I think she was telling the truth. Otherwise, she wouldn’t have even bothered to get back to me and explain herself. She sent me not one, but two consecutive messages asking if we could stay in touch. I think she wants to know at least one guy who’s not suicidal or “damaged goods.”
Also, it was her who first approached me. I ain’t repulsive.
Yeah! She did the same thing to me! Plus, I also–oh, sorry. Just had a little flashback there.
A few years ago, I asked a girl from my neighborhood to go to my homecoming dance with me. She went to a different school. I knew she had a boyfriend, be he seemed like a jerk, so I asked her anyway. She accepted, and we had a great time together. Her boyfriend found out and threatened to kill himself if she didn’t go back to him and promise never to see me again. She made the promise with no intention of keeping it. The boyfriend actually showed up at my house one day while I was in the middle of band practice to have it out with me. How brave! It was like jumping into the other team’s dugout, fists bared, as I had my whole band behind me. Nothing happened. I yelled at the guy, told him to stay away from me, and that was it. The girl decided we’d be better off being just friends, an assessment I agreed with, given all the trouble we’d stirred up trying to date. Maybe I was wrong, asking out a girl with a boyfriend, but it seemed like the thing to do at the time. Plus I was young and stupid…doesn’t that make it all right?
I see I’ve gone off on a tangent. Sorry about that.
People may disagree with me, but I don’t think it’s necessarily “wrong” to ask out someone who’s already seeing someone. If she turns you down, she’s serious about the boyfriend. If she accepts, she’s not. Fine either way.
It only might be “wrong” if the boyfriend is also a friend of yours, or at least an acquaintance whom you respect. In the case you described, it sounds like neither one was true. You were doing the lady a favor by giving her an excuse to dump someone she didn’t really want to be with.
Hey, since when did people become the property of others??? If she’s not engaged and not married, technically she’s free. People take this girlfriend/boyfriend business too seriously anyway. Like I was saying in another thread, these days it’s like you’re marrying someone if you go out with them.
Besides…ALL girls have boyfriends. It’s, like, a law or something. If you wait for one to be single, you’ll miss a lot of opportunities. Strike while the iron is hot, my friend!
Nope, but I girl I tried to meet up with gave me an excuse similar to the story above, except that it was her friend she was trying to save, not an ex. She wasn’t lying either.
I ain’t repulsive.