I have changed my sign in name from Rhino’sHoney to Honeydew… as of this Saturday, I broke up with my bf (the said Rhino) so the old name was inappropriate (and sad too).
I have written a lot about him here and said how much I love him etc - that hasn’t changed, I do love him still. But events during this past week (the week from hell and officially the 2nd worst week of my life) made me think hard about what was going on. And the outcome wasn’t pleasant. I won’t go into details but suffice it to say we wanted different things from life and were headed in different directions. I think it started to change from Christmas on - I rationalised it for a long time (and they were very winning arguments I have to say)… but ultimatley, we were going nowhere fast.
There were other problems too that I honestly thought we could work out and, but again, last week showed me the plain truth - that some barriers are insurmountable. I still believe wholeheartedly in long distance relationships and I know that they can work (some of my friends are living success stories) and it wasn’t so much the distance or the online aspect of our relationship that led to this - so my posts in “Is Love really worth it” etc, I think are still valid.
Ultimately we were wrong together - we were right for a long time but we grew apart - I didn’t really sit down to examine it all until last week. I still love him (at the moment I don’t like him much I have to say) and I do wish we could be together, but its not to be.
Things are getting better - the periods of time where I’m not bawling are getting longer … my friends have been angels to me and have understood and accepted my decision totally. I want to say a huge thanks to Branwen and Davebear for their understanding, care, time and love. My other friends outside this board (my very most special friend - M you know who you are - joined on Saturday!!! yayyyyy!!!)… have been totally brilliant and it’s quite a shock to see how loved I am. Thank you guys and a million kisses and hugs.
Well, thats me - changed name, but still the same person (just a bit red eyed lol)… I’ll go off and stop boring the tits off y’all now
Honeydew, please don’t bore the tits off of me, I haven’t got enough to spare!
Somehow, even when you realize break up was inevitable, is for the best, etc. etc., it still hurts a lot. Unfortunately, the only cure is time. It will take time to get past this. While you are getting past it, though, be good to yourself. Nurture and nourish yourself. Ask your friends for whatever it is you need. You’ll come through this OK!
Anyone else thinking there’ll be a LOT of guys checking into this thread, now that one of the hottest babes on the board has announced she no longer has a boyfriend?
You seem to be taking it fairly in stride. Good for you. Sometimes, it just isn’t meant to happen. A great man once said: “Sometimes, there just isn’t a love connection”. He also said “We’ll be back in two-and-two” and “Hi, I’m Chuck Woolery”
Well, that will certainly teach me not to skip down and read the first response before I’m done reading the OP.
At least, not while eating Fritos.
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Anyone else thinking there’ll be a LOT of guys checking into this thread, now that one of the hottest babes on the board has announced she no longer has a boyfriend?
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((((((Honeydew))))))) Sorry you had such a rough week. I got two shoulders and a box a tissues if you need them… as for the tits comment… I got more than enough to spare losing some
Sorry to hear about the rough times - I’m a pretty accomplished lurker (as I’ve already mentioned to Davebear) and while you don’t know me I’ve seen a few of your posts and you’ve always seemed like a nice gal.
I can only say that it’s for the best to end things when you realise you have to - having done the whole ‘long distance relationship’ thing myself I know how hard it can be.
Thanks Dave for the laugh