Yeah. Totally makes up for the green skin and purple trousers, though.
Psst! Think pencil.
Huh. How about that. I go 4 days without talking to her and SHE removes me from her Facebook friends. Guess she got the hint.
Guess again. More texts (although she’s gone from apologetic to bitchy). I sent her a message stating that we’ll deal with this when I get back from Seattle next month. I really shouldn’t have fed the troll, I know. But so far, no response either.
Seconded.
THIS is why you don’t stick your dick in the crazy. Because it NEVER goes away.
DUDE! There is no “we!” There’s YOU and there’s HER. And YOU should be staying the hell away from HER.
Allow me to ask you some questions- please answer them.
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What do you want from her?
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What could be the best possible (objectively speaking) outcome from continued interaction with her?
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On a scale of 1-10, how likely is she to do this again?
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Why go through all this if you’re not getting any ass?
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Even if you WERE tapping that, can you posit the existence of a woman who would also sleep with you but NOT act like a complete and utter big C?
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If the answer to 5 is “yes” or even “maybe,” would you consider it more advantageous to seek out that girl?
Are you checking her fuckin’ Facebook every hour?
Stop. Grind you phone under your heel. Deal with WHAT?
Allow me to paraphrase my favorite romance movie, War Games.
“The only winning move is not to play.”
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I thought that giving an answer to the point (and stating that I’m staying the hell away from you) and deferring this conversation would get her to leave me alone for a while. So far it looks like I was right.
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At this moment, nothing at all. I actually want her OUT of my head. I want the ABILITY for her to hurt me, either directly or in passive thought, to be taken away. Once that is gone, I’ll know better if there’s anything I still want from her.
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That this shit is behind us, and we’re cool. Anything’s possible…
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Depends on what you mean by THIS?
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Because our relationship was always about a lot more than just ass. We were best friends for close to 3 years, even if we only “dated” for 2 of them. Going from boyfriend to girlfriend BACK to best friends is nearly impossible for most people, especially immediately. If I didn’t enjoy her company as both a friend as well as a lover, then I would have no reason to go through any of this.
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Posit isn’t a word either. Oh, Firefox says it is. At least you know I’ve learned ONE thing from this thread. I’m not exactly sure what you’re asking. Are you saying I should find an ass to tap who isn’t gonna be a bitch to me? Of course I would prefer that. Right now I’m more ready than ever to move on to a decent person. Well, not immediately, but I’m finally open to the idea.
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Yeah, I’m ready for something new.
He’s saying it would probably be healthier for you to go dig up a corpse and tap THAT if you need something to tap.
And he’s right.
Yes, and in WI that is legal!
Just a passing hint. If I were you I wouldn’t marry a porn actress.
Man, everything was going great. I hadn’t communicated with her in a week. I’ve been loving it up in Seattle. Then all of a sudden I start getting weird (incomprehensible, but in her incomprehensible voice) voicemails on my phone, and then a text message just saying “die”. Totally ruined my birthday. Damn.
Change your phone number.
This.
You have achieved escape velocity from the nearly inexorable field of Planet EnSaan Sychob Itch IV. The Traveller’s Aid Society has declared this world a Red Zone. Accelerate at mark 12 toward the second star on the right and do not return.
Stranger
Well, this is not the turn I was expecting.
Whatever you do, don’t give her the satisfaction of knowing she’s getting to you. Do not communicate with her. Do your best to delete her messages and voicemails without reading or listening to them. If you must, change your phone number, but that would be a royal pain in the ass for me. People sometimes go crazy after the end of a relationship, even if they instigated it. In my opinion, the best thing to do would be to cease all communication for six months to let both you air out from the relationship. Honestly, from my seat, it’s probably best you don’t talk to her ever again, but I’m trying to give you a realistic goal.
Absolutely. Something that sticks out in my head from that book “The Gift of Fear” is that you do not, do not, do not allow someone to communicate with you if you want them to go away. If she calls 40 times, still nothing. If you call her back or answer on the 41st call all you’ve shown her is that it takes 41 calls to get to you and she’ll do it again.
She obviously wants your attention. Don’t give it to her.
Also, don’t die.
Just thought I’d throw that out there. Power of suggestion and all that.
She’s a needy, confused, messed-up drama-queen. You deserve better than that, don’t you?
Wow, and my whole theory was based on the idea that this guy was instigating all the making out. I was thinking he was marking his territory out of fear from fusoya’s presence. I was actually going to give the girl a pass as a spineless coward (not telling Jesse to ease off) but then the OP gets this…
…and now my whole theory is shot to hell. Damn. I wanted to be that poster that jumps off the bandwagon with some revolutionary take on the matter. I guess it’s back to the drawing board.
fusoya, I know from experience that you’re torn between feeding the troll by telling her how bad she is and cutting her off completely. The former makes you feel better, the latter actually ends up in a more favorable position. I suggest balancing the two by writing an old-fashioned letter and mailing it to her with no return address. That way, you get the satisfaction of knowing she got her comeuppance and you don’t have to hear from her. You get to talk for a million pages (instead of a 2 sentence text message) and you don’t have to hear from her ever again.