Preach it, brother.
It’s been a quiet day in Bumbaland. rained off and on. Put the garbage and the yard debris trash cans out for tomorrow morning pickup. We should take the AC units out of the windows, but Wifey is out in her studio, and I like to have her around when I do it in case I need something while I’m holding on to a 50lb machine I don’t want to let go of.
See you all on the other side.
Stop! Stop!
Oye.
I have a question for fellow Mumpers who have dealt with aging parents.
My mom is still in her home, at 86, and luckily all three of us sisters are in town to do things for her. My sister the pharmacist oversees her meds and takes her to medical appointments. Other sis does more stuff in the house although we all help out, and I handle the checkbook. Mom has a right hand tremor that prevents her from righting easily.
But I think her stamina is waning. Every year she and I go to the silent movie held before Halloween at my church, this year she passed on going out. We did have a family funeral the next day, her BIL, but mom has always loved the movies and said she just didn’t have the energy this year. And I think she’s becoming more forgetful, not a lot, but I notice her short term memory is, well, shorter. She seems a little more emotionally fragile now, worries more about things that didn’t used to matter.
I want her to stay at home as long as she’s happy there, but I myself am starting to worry about her being alone at all. She does have a Lifeline but sometimes takes it off. She fell a while back without it on. We kind of got on her about it, but she said if the EMT’s had come they would have had to break the door out. We told her the door could be fixed, but it might be harder for HER to heal. She’s promised to keep the Lifeline on though.
What has to happen to show she may need more help? I’m considering hiring a housekeeping service. We can do some things, but Mom can afford the help, and it would be someone else there, maybe even if it’s every other week. Should I suggest this to her?
I just don’t know what to do sometimes. Just glad there are three of us to help.
Dinner was chili and it was very very good. As a go-with we made cornbread doctored up with several tablespoons of cooked bacon and just a tiny smidge of sugar. It may have been the best cornbread I ever had. Now am watching the Vikings and having some rye.
Bread?
I don’t have a clue, but of course I am concerned.
Baker, sounds like she still has her wits, and I concur about her living in her home as long as she can and all the sensible precautions you are taking, but I also think you and sisters need to be looking at long-term care, not a nursing home per se but one of the ‘assisted living’ places. But for now, I think having a housekeeping or visiting service might be a good idea. You and sisters are doing all you can, but there will come a time it won’t be enough. Been there with my dad (RIP 2000).
Soccer had a beautiful day (sunny, low 70’sF, a little breeze, but the soccer wasn’t so good, girls lost 5-1 and boys lost 4-1. Girls play again tomorrow and the boys on Tuesday, so maybe we’ll do better next time.
Went to Logan’s and stuffed myself on their meatloaf w/fries and a salad (and lots of sweet tea and water refills and four of their rolls with butter). May not be hungry again until Tuesday.
All y’all take care and I’ll catch you on the next MMP.
Not really; and not enough in the end. 
Baker - for us it was easy. With my mother my brother was the only possible voice; I’ve basically been shut out since Dad died. With Muvver the OW was an only child by then. We did what we could but so much was out of our hands. Best I can say is that if you think more needs done, if you think you can’t do it, you are probably right. Talk it over with the siblings; spend a day talking about it and coming up with some various Plan Bs all the way to Zs. Best to get some groundwork and ground rules down now before its a panic decision.
School buses are* not* amphibious.