I’m Anina, by the way. In case people get tired of ‘catsix’.
Anyways, I have a pretty fair degree of difficulty with social type things. I recognized that failure in myself long enough ago to realize that I was not cut out for my chosen field of study. The technical ability was there, but I could never have been a doctor.
I think my social IQ is around 70, in all seriousness. I have difficulty communicating to people what I mean, I seem unable to clarify it without fucking things up further, and I get frustrated at that and then things degrade.
It also takes me a while to go away, decompress, and admit the mistakes I made. I have made mistakes, and I have been less cordial than I could be. I envy the people who have always found it easy to communicate with people. Facts can be learned, books can be read, formulas memorized, mathematics applied. To learn how to be a person is much harder.
Well, however much you may think your “social IQ” is low, your last few posts have MORE than made up for it by droves. I’m kinda glad the air got cleared here. I think both you AND jarbabyj deserve kudos for such a constructive “meltdown”.
I have said that I will, absolutely, without question, kill a person I believe to be an immediate threat to my life, so I’m a bad, bad evil person who wants to 'shoot anyone who looks at [me] funny.'
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They say this catsix is one bad mutha hush yo’ mouth!
Just talkin bout’ cat!
I have nothing to add. I just thought this thread needed some Shaft.
Which, upon preview, sounds dirty, but that wasn’t my intention …
Ouch dammit. I have a cold, don’t make me laugh! Maybe it’s the cold, maybe it’s the late hour, maybe it’s that I was too lazy to find my reading glasses and if I don’t squint just right, the letters double up.
I’m OK for a couple of hours at a time in a place I’ve been before and when I know things won’t stretch on for too long.
That was at the PittDopeDinner, which went on for not that long, I had some relaxation aids (aka beer) and did alright for it. I recovered by being in my room alone the entire next day.
I’m not like, Rainman level of socially inept, but I have been dragged to parties where everyone wondered why the hell that retarded chick didn’t talk to anyone. It was me and the goth guy sitting in a corner not speaking to each other. (And for all you perverts, no we weren’t doing any of that either.)
Thank you. I changed it a few years ago because I didn’t like what my mom called me. I think it might have been due to the accent of the Mon Valley with which it was pronounced, but anyway I didn’t like it much so I picked a new one.
I thought about it a lot while I was finishing up my work and while I was driving home. I learned today that things that don’t sound so bad in my head come out all wrong, so I’m going to try harder now.
I could take a picture of my pasty white self with some shades on holding my pistol if you want to Photoshop in those words and use it as a humor postcard or something.
I agree with you, Daniel. I find catsix to be logical to a fault, perhaps too judgmental, a trifle rigid in her opinions, but I do not see any ranting or anger in her posts. Perhaps her unrelenting logic and her superior writing skills are perceived as scorn by others, but, personally, I don’t see her as unfeeling.
I didn’t see her description of date rape as one-upmanship, there was something very real and painful about that brief tale.
Though I see myself as something of a feminist, and though I approve that work-places should make certain allowances for parents, and though I may not agree totally with her opinions regarding rape, I believe she is worthy of respect.
Not for mine. I found this thread quite profound. Though I would be suggesting that some people get themselves checked for Asperger’s Syndrome. No names, protecting the innocent, y’know.
Too tired, too tired to read this whole thread now. Will complete it later.
I just wanted to pop in and comment on the many times I’ve seen a thread on a topic that, well, I wouldn’t have expected much controversy or dissent. I’m figuring, it’ll drop like a stone because most rational people will see eye-to-eye on it.
And sometimes, these threads seem to go on . . . and on . . . for pages and pages and I’m thinking, WHAT? What is going on here? Things were going so well with the thread at the start, why are they still discussing this?
Then I check the thread, and I see. Oh. Catsix. She started saying something completely over the top and the shit hit the fan.
You know, it isn’t like I never have agreed with a point she made (well, with perhaps 10% of the intensity), because there have been a few times when I have. It’s just that she cranks it up to #11. All the time. It is exhausting.
I guess catsix and I will just have to agree to disagree on almost every subject under the sun and that’s how the peace will be kept amongst us.
I in no way am advocating a ‘nicey nice’ method of life, as I am not particularly sold on it myself…but just a consideration of OTHER’S life experience.
As always in these threads I start, I have turned out to be the ass I guess. But perhaps all of us learned something.
I’m not sure that this is at all relevant to this thread or why you felt it necessary to interject it.
I’m really surprised that you think so.
Having observed a number of truly nasty train wrecks (does anyone remember the poster that specialized in oral sex or the one who’s name reflected her propensity for naughty boys), I think that this has turned out to be rather civil.
Ooops, didn’t see this before I hit reply.
With that said however, I hardly think you’ve proven to be an ass.
Not that you need or want my approval, but I actually think you ended up handling yourself very nicely and I’m impressed.
Well, there are two general ways these threads turn out.
(1) the person being called out ignores the thread or comes in and flames in response.
(2) the person being called out explains or apologizes (with varying degrees of sincerity and graciousness).
What happened here leaned more to the latter.
And except for the trainwreck thrill of an outright flame war, isn’t that the desired outcome? Isn’t that why people pit others? Partly to express their anger, and to allow everyone else to chew the ass of the pittee, but isn’t it also in the hopes that the person will express some contrition?
That outcome doesn’t necessarily make the person who started the thread an ass. Some people will always look down on a Doper who pits another (no matter how the thread goes), but that’s not news to you and if you cared much about them you wouldn’t have started the thread.
Look, jarbabyj, I have been following your adventures on the Internet because I think you are a very interesting person on a lot of levels. Your writing is not my cup of tea, but it is so filled with exuberence and wit that I recognize your talent.
But you have a real tendency to play behavior cop. You arrange public confrontations with people who piss you off. You attempt to rally others to your cause. And it seems that often your goal is not to make your target aware of these real or imagined transgressions. Your aim is not to inspire him or her to try to be a better person. Instead, your goal is simply to lay bare the deficencies of your enemy. To embarrass. To arrange a sort of high-tech shunning. It’s the behavior of a bully.
I was just struck by this line:
Instead of refering to yourself as “an ass,” you call yourself “the ass.” As if there has to be an ass, but common consent decrees catsix not to be the ass, so, hey, it must be you. It’s not you. It’s just that sometimes there is no ass.
well, thanks I guess. I disagree that we should let people continue poor behavior and not alert them to it, but as people have been trying to tell me for years, I guess I have no say in how or whether people change.
I disagree too, at least in theory. But what I find is that if I try to gently correct people, usually all I do is piss them off and remind me of how short of perfect I am. I would not have posted the above to you had you not indicated so many times before that you are trying to grow as a person.
