It’s irrelevant if someone agrees with me that I would like to be supreme ruler of the world, for example, but it would be nice if they did. Or if there was a question about their favorite super power, I wouldn’t care if they picked flying or x-ray vision or whatever, but if they picked invisibility it would awesome.
You guys could have hella games of Marco Polo.
I think you mean hide-n-seek. I can’t swim.
Ahh, then in those cases you should say that the question is “a little important.” 
You can’t do that on OkC if all the choices are acceptable. Incidentally, I just saw I have more questions marked as “a little important” than “irrelevant.”
Ha! Dear Ms. DateIHadTonight,
Goddamn those pictures are old. Also, you are not athletic and toned. Yes, you have muscular legs…they don’t have a choice. Oh yes, the pictures again. Yes, in those, you were indeed athletic and toned. I work very goddamn hard to be athletic and toned myself, I would appreciate it if you wouldn’t present yourself as such and waste my time.
Hugs and Kisses,
Me.
Srsly LOL here.
Sorry your date wasn’t honest. I don’t get that at all.
Could be creepy, could be obsessive, could just be the inherent energy you mentioned yourself or it could be that she’s worried about you forgetting about her. But maybe not give her your address until you’ve met her a few times lest those texts become “I’m driving by your house again!”
Glad someone got a kick out of that Yeah…what I was thinking today is how many guys are going to waste their time and money on her.
It was creepy, chick was weird after all. Oh, and a liar, see above!
So now I have an extra reservation to go take a tour of the renovations at the Kansas City Museum tomorrow, if anyone’s interested?
Brings up another point too…in our conversations before we met, I was super close to saying something along the lines of big boys and girls can pay their own way. It’s really how I feel, and I have had dates who would insist upon paying their own way, but I know that social convention currently doesn’t require it.
Honestly folks, I can’t afford to drop even $30 on dates that are wastes of time. I guess two ways around that are 1) screen better and 2) make it clear that it’s not on me. I have a feeling that #2 will turn some off, but I guess if they don’t like it the can piss off anyway.
I didn’t realize that that was the same person. There’s quite a few people that I’ve wanted to say "Umm, just because you play softball on a bar league or go jogging once a week, doesn’t mean you’re “athletic and toned”. I went out with one girl who, somewhere in her profile, added a line that said something to the extent of “Regarding my body type, I chose curvy because “athletic and soft” wasn’t an option”
IOW, she was very athletic, played plenty of sports…she just wasn’t athletic and toned.
What really killed me was the put several lines in her profile about how she wanted somebody who was in good shape and took care of their body, with the insinuation that she does as well.
Serendipity strikes again! So the woman I initially had plans with for today is the one I actually met early for a beer Friday night. Well, you see how that went.
I still had reservations for a tour today of the construction renovations at the Kansas City Museum. I thought there was an off chance I could find someone who take at the last minute, but no luck. Well, I’m not going to waste my money and miss it, so I went by myself.
And I wasn’t on the reservation list…but I had my printed ticket with me! And the date of March 18, 2012. I booked the tour next month. How awkward if I had actually had someone with me! Could have played it off ok, because the City Market is just down the road for an alternative, but whoooh.
So the good news…I have two reservations for next month 
It seems that the day after Valentine’s is not the best day for women to be looking. At least not in my case. I’ve gotten zero responses in the last week, a lot lower then I normally do.
I think I might try eHarmony just to see how it is. I’m not sure I can afford it, though I’ve seen a 20% off coupon. Are there any better deals out there that people have seen?
The major problem with E-Harmony, I’ve found, is that it’s geography-blind. I got hooked up with women from all the country. For all the adventures that gave me (finding a woman in Florida who turned out to be cat-crazy, finding another in El Paso who also turned out to be a different kind of nut-job), I was wasting a lot of time and money actually meeting these women, who if they lived closer to NYC, I would have gone on a date or two with and written them off as wholly unsuitable. That’s the really expensive part of E-H.
It’s not. Or it shouldn’t be. Some where in the settings you can set a “miles away” range and then mark it mandatory so they won’t even allow “flexible” matches that may be outside whatever range you pick.
Sorry she was a liar. I just don’t understand that. I know my profile had old and new pictures, but I made sure to put dates on all pictures (month/year) and even though I play tennis 2-3 times a week, I still am carrying around extra pounds, so I made sure to list myself as “few pounds extra” because I don’t want to waste anyone’s time. Hell, I don’t want to waste my time either. If someone isn’t attracted to women that aren’t petite, size 6 or under, then they will never be attracted to me, so what would be the point?
As for point two, I don’t know of an easy way for that, but it’s also one of the reasons I prefer a coffee/tea type ‘date’ for a first meeting. I always offer to pay, but even if it’s not accepted worst the guy is out is $3-5 bucks. You could move on to dinner after if the meeting is going well, or just call it at the coffee stage.
Personally, I would consider a bit of a red flag if the woman doesn’t at least make a sincere offer to pay her share for that first date/meeting.
Just had a woman I work with find me on POF and message me. She also is listed as ‘athletic’, and there is nothing athletic about her. I was kind of creeped out by her in the first place, now that has doubled…
I like your approach. I started putting dates on my pictures as well. I also have flipped flopped as to my physical description…I have, in the past gone from ‘average’, to ‘a few extra pounds’, to ‘slender’ to ‘athletic and toned’…as a progression, not schizoprenically.
I almost always just do coffee or something along those lines…but I wanted to go out for a beer anyway, so…still, 4 drinks if they’re wine or good beers will be 5-6 bucks apiece more or less. And yeah, she didn’t even make the token gesture toward her purse. I know I could have bailed after one, but I was still in benefit-of-the-doubt mode.
Any more dates this month (looking likely), you can bet your ass they’ll be coffee…$10 I can do Of course my favorite date is just a hike, which is free!
Ok, how does this eHarmony thing work? I must be getting to that age where stuff doesn’t make sense anymore. I sent someone a message and I got an email back about they accepted my message. What the hell does that mean? It now says to send her a message, but I already have! Do I send another one or wait for her to respond?
I also sent another message to someone and she declined the message, but it sent me back to “Stage 1”, I’m not sure if that means she’s interested but doesn’t want to message or isn’t interested at all.
I know the point, at least a bit, isn’t to message right away, but I had a specific question for each of them based on their photo/profile. I think I need a drink.
I got confused with that as well when I did the same thing. I think what happens is that if you send someone a message the have the option of accepting the message of saying (in other words) “No, lets just stick with the questions”. When the same thing happened to me and she never responded, about a week later I sent her the same message again but prefaced it with something along the lines of “I’m not sure if you got my first message or if you just allowed me to send messages, but if not, here’s what I sent you”…
Sometimes I think about going back to EH just for a change of scenery, but then I remember how much I hated it. So few matches, most of them inactive and it’s soooo slow. I think it’s better for new people that are still too nervous to write a message and would rather just wink back and forth a bunch of times (which is how I was at the beginning), but now I’d rather just start talking.
Ok, so I mentioned above that someone from work found me on POF. She’s being freaking creepy. My feeling on finding someone you work with on a dating site is about the same as seeing another Baptist in the liquor store: Pretend you didn’t see each other and go to opposite aisles.
But, here is the ‘conversation’ so far:
Her:/19/2012 3:02:53 PM
How have you done with this fishing thing? I wasn’t expecting to see you here but I did enjoy your pics and profile.
Her:2/19/2012 3:03:00 PM
How have you done with this fishing thing? I wasn’t expecting to see you here but I did enjoy your pics and profile.
Her:2/19/2012 4:38:46 PM
Oh yeah sorry forgot to add the would you like to chat generic corny line … LOL
Me:2/19/2012 7:36:00 PM
Doing really well, actually.
Her:2/19/2012 7:52:23 PM
That’s cool. It’s been hit and miss for me. Guess I need to change up my profile or pics or something …so you do recognize me I’m guessing?
Me:2/19/2012 9:21:22 PM
yep
Her:2/19/2012 10:18:07 PM
And you have very short answers…point taken
Her:2/20/2012 7:30:32 PM
Just out of curiosity is it me my profile or that we work together?
Her:2/20/2012 8:12:02 PM
Oh and fyi any of those or combo of wont offend me. I’m a grown up and can handle rejection just looking for honesty
Notice how she says halfway through ‘point taken’…when obviously it’s freakin’ not. Well, have to see this chick in about 12 hours, what should I do?
I assume that’s just a cut and paste, but maybe have a mod edit her user name out.
I wouldn’t call it creepy. I would just write back something like “It’s just the co-worker thing, that’s all how’s it been going for you” and then don’t write back when she answers. It’ll be like the conversation sort of tapered off.
I just glanced at both of your profiles…you’re really tall, she’s only looking to date people over 6 feet. I’m guessing she was really happy to find someone tall.