I’m not interested in female friends. Thanks for the advice though- hopefully anyone lurking in the thread will see it and keep it in mind.
Never *officially *searching. 
ETA: No female friends? Interesting. You don’t have any? Or you’re just not interested in finding any more online?
Actually for clarification on my post, I’m not interested in him. The last conversation kind of fizzled and I just thought it was a little strange that he keeps viewing my profile and wanted to see what the Dopers thought.
It tries a little too hard, do you think?
Also, god I have got to get a better photo than ThickNeck DogPuncher. :smack:
Oh god, now I need to remember to look when I get home!
P.S. You need to change your forum name, now.
“Did you ever feel like the world was a tuxedo, and you were a pair of brown shoes?”
Tell you what, I’ll make a Dwarf Warrior with the name DogPuncher. 
Acceptable second choice.
I have a single female friend. If I were attracted to her we’d likely be dating. I’m from backwards town where emotional adolescents such as myself are mostly incapable of having platonic relationships with the opposite sex and get uncomfortable if their SOs have close male friends who aren’t gay or hideously unattractive.
OkCupid used to make you pick three adjectives that would appear under your photo. That system as been done away with and you now have those adjectives floating at the bottom of your self-summary. I’d recommend getting rid of them as they seem kind of random.
Thanks for that, I haven’t gone back to revise for a couple months now.
I took a look at your profile Bosstone. I thought you came across as fun loving and witty. I thought the tone was good and not “Mr Tries Too Hard” at all. “Brilliant beyond ken, and modest” cracked me up. I liked that you worked your interests into your answers in different ways. Like, how fixing your motorcycle is something you think about.
I think a profile should be honest, but I don’t think it needs to express too much too soon. For example, talking about the fact that you haven’t been in a strong relationship yet. As you get to know someone that fact will come out. I don’t think you need to jump out and say “I’m on a dating site. Want to be my first non crazy girlfriend!?”
I would also remove the bit about your Mom being your friend as much as anyone else. It turned a nice comment about you being close to your family into something somewhat awkward. It’s not that there is anything wrong with your Mom being a close friend. It just doesn’t fit into a dating profile very well.
That’s how I see it as a guy. So, take my advice with a penis shaped grain of salt.
Oh. You use the word girl once or twice in your profile. It’s probably on my mind because I just read that other thread. But, I did notice it. Of course, OKCupid uses it as well. So, maybe it’s not a biggie.
ETA:
Ahh. So the and modest was put in by OkCupid. I thought it was geek humor. Sorry about that. It still cracked me up.
Well, that was from when OKC had people enter three adjectives about myself, so those were chosen by me.
I appreciate the advice, and I plan to revisit the profile when I get home tonight.
Ick. So sorry to hear. A lot of my best friends are male–can’t imagine not being able to hang out with them because an SO might get paranoid.
Ditto to this. Everything else looks good!
I blame the saturation of adultery in American culture for my paranoia. 
It’s a curse.
Get over it?
Easier said than done. I don’t prohibit my girlfriends from interacting with guys and I don’t tell them how paranoid it makes me.
I suffer on the inside. :rolleyes:
Here’s a part about online dating I hate.
Someone on the site writes me or I write them. We have fun emails back and forth until we are comfortable enough to meet up. We meet up and have an awesome time. Hang out for a couple of hours and hug each other good night. (We’re not to the part I hate, yet.) The next day I email and tell her I had a great time and would love to meet up again. So. Yeah. The waiting for a response I hate. And, when there is a lack of response I hate that even more. I wish more people wrote not interested emails. I guess some guys write back indignantly to not interested emails, so women are better off letting things fizzle with no words. I understand it; I hate it, too. Oh well. It is good patience practice. If I wait long enough either an email will arrive, or I’ll forget about the whole thing.
Don’t be so sure that they really know what the reason is, or even that they bother to wonder why you stopped communicating. I don’t. Guys flake out sometime. No biggie.
Which is to say that I think you’re doing a very good thing here. Because even if they do think about that stuff, with your approach, they can still chalk it up to “the guy flaked out” rather than “he saw my picture and disappeared.” It’s a kindness.
Okay, so my divorce was finalized yesterday, and I want to update my match.com headline to reflect that. I’m hoping that some of the people that may have seen “currently separated” and kept going might stop and take another look? I had “Currently Separated…not anymore!” and “Currently separated…check again!” but those both almost sound like I got married or got back together. I’m also trying to avoid something along the lines of “The divorce is final, time to start a new life” because I’d be worried that anyone who saw something about a divorce and trying to start over would think rebound and not want anything to do with that either.
Everything I come up with has the word ‘divorced’ in it. I’m not sure if that should be part of my headline, but I need something that either comes out and says it, or very strongly implies it. Of course, anyone that sees my headline in the match.com search results also sees the first sentence or so of my profile, I guess I could just write something there.
Newly Single?
Personally, I’d just put “single,” but you say you need the implication.