What am I supposed to make of this email I just got?
I got it through Match and it sounds like a scam to me. I’d call, but I don’t want to get a lot of crap calls back if it is.
Ok, one more time, and see if I didn’t screw something up as I almost said I want someone to ride. 
When I said “blows” I was definitely over exaggerating. It’s actually a very cool picture, it’s just not one that should be your first picture is all, because it’s not your whole face. I like the replaced one more only cause it’s a face shot, but (I’ll be honest) you look slimmer in the original. If you are slimmer IRL now, get some friends to take mug shots of you!
I like the changes. Definitely comes off a bit more smooth and positive.
Wow. Would you review mine as well?
Yeah, that’s a scam. If you want to mess around, see if you can get her to email ‘her’ pics to you first. Ten bucks says they’re either naked (or close to it) or ‘she’ sends you a link to a pay site.
Personally, I’d delete the email and keep moving. In fact, if you want more proof, wait a few days and check her profile, it’ll probably be gone.
Also, did she view your profile? If you get an email or wink from someone that didn’t view your profile, it’s usually a fake user.
Can’t you ask for her phone number and then make the call on your terms. I’m not familiar with your phone system but there should be some way you can block your number from being visible to the person you are calling (in the UK you prefixed the number you were calling with 141 for example).
In the US, you use *67, but he said he’s on Match. On Match you can use MatchTalk. I don’t know all the ins and outs of it, having never used it. But I believe you each agree to it. Match gives one person a number to use and they patch it over to the other person’s cell. That way no one has to know anyone’s number.
Seriously? Why?
ETA: I mean, why do they think that, not questioning your advice.
Someone else pointed it out to me, but as soon as he said it I realized it was true: any username that ends in “4u” (as in, GreatGuy4u or something), makes me roll my eyes.
Actually, ANY username which directly implies that you do not have an identity of your own outside of an attachment to some other person. If you’re a “great guy for me” then I expect you’re a great guy in general, so just stop and say “GreatGuy” or whatever. I mean, I’m extremely motivated to find a LTR; but my entire life and identity isn’t all wrapped up in that one thing. I even once got a message from a username “[name]'sGirl” along with an intro paragraph that went like “Well, no longer [name]'s girl, but were still friends AND YOU HAVE TO BE COOL WITH THAT BECAUSE I’M NOT GIVING HER UP JUST BECAUSE OF YOU! WE’RE JUST FRIENDS BUT SHE’S MY BEST FRIEND!” Whoa, issues.
So, you know, I prefer usernames which don’t do that. Being an independent individual should be the default, something you don’t even have to think about. Identifying yourself in relation to someone else, whether that person is currently in your life or not, implies a whole lotta baggage that I don’t want to deal with.
I try to steer clear of anyone who’s user name is ___'sGirl/Gal/Doll/Sweetie/etc for the same reasons.
I remember one person put in her profile a list of things that all girls want guys to know. It was the type of list you’d see in a men’s or women’s magazine. 1)We want to be told were pretty 2)We want you to like hanging out with our family 3)when you go out with friends, we want to be invited along, that kind of stuff. Then, at the very end it said, “I don’t care how long you’ve known her, I’ll never believe you’re just friends”
:eek:
Wow, that’s some serious jealously issues right there. I almost emailed her to tell her how awful that sounded and how she was basically telling people that in order to date her they must not now nor ever in the future have any female friends. But then I figured, if she really feels that way, she might as well just leave it in. I’m sure glad I knew right then and there not to message her rather then finding out 3 months into a relationship that I have to dump all my female friends.
I always have to tell myself, no matter how many hangups someone has, no matter how much of a bitch I think someone is etc etc etc, there’s someone out there for her, someone that has no problem with the things I that I thing are terrible personality traits. In the above example, there will be some guy out there that doesn’t have any female friends, and doesn’t have a problem not having any going forward. It’s not for me, but it’ll work for someone.
I have never seen this before. I imagine they probably just make a profile to take tests or spy on their friends or something and want to discourage random guys from messaging them, but I doubt it’s much of a deterrent for the type of person who will message strangers for sex requests.
While about 90% of girls seem to claim that they get along better with guys, I do draw the line at having only guy friends, or whining about how they “don’t know how to be friends with girls.” Complete deal breakers, and my best friend is even of the opposite gender.
I’ve only seen one or two where there’s a guys name listed. Normally it’s something along the lines of DadsGirl or MomsLittleDarling. Eitherway, it can be a bit offputting. I’ve been talking to someone lately that says in her profile that she’s a Daddy’s Girl. On the one hand, that could just mean that her and her father have a great relationship*, OTOH, it could mean that she does everything her Dad tells her to do and he controls her life. It could mean that years into a relationship my opinion will mean jackshit if it differs from his. “I think we should put some money in a savings account for the little one to go to college” “Oh, my dad said we should invest in Artificial Christmas Tree futures, so I already gave it all to him” An exaggeration, buy my ex was like that. I mean, her parents were a bit more logical then that, but even after 11 years of being together, if my opinion differed from her parents, I lost. Every. Time.
*This is entirely possible. Her mom ran off when she was pretty young and it was her and her dad for most of her life, so it’s possible they’re just very close. It’s still makes me a but nervous. Also, I’m thinking she might still live with her dad. I’ve been trying to find the right question to ask to get that answer.
Some complaints/frustrations…
Women:
If you have pictures of you with short hair and long hair, tell us which one is current. Actually, that goes for any major physical differences from one picture to another. Hair style, piercings, weight etc… There have been a few times where I’ve been tempted to message someone, but when they have long hair in one picture (I prefer long hair) and buzzed in another, I’d like to know which one I’m going to meet.
If you leave the Smoking box empty, I’ll assume it’s a yes. I have no problem with that, but others might.
NEVER leave the “Have Kids” section blank. Yes, I know there can be some gray areas. You’ve given a kid up for adoption, you’re pregnant, you have kids, but only see them a few times a year etc. But, in general, either you’ve given birth or you haven’t. If it’s a bit more complicated than that, and you want to leave it blank, you really should explain it in your profile.
If you’re not interested (romantically) in a guy, don’t message him or (IMHO worse) reply to his message with anything other than a no thank you. Now, don’t get me wrong, I understand you may be interested in someone only to later not be interested in them for any one of a number of reasons, but I can’t stand it when I write to a girl, she sends a nice reply and then I never hear from her again. If they are still online regularly, I have to assume they haven’t met someone else yet and then I’m sitting here wondering if they weren’t interested in the first place or if it was something I said. If they weren’t interested in the first place, I’d prefer they just ignored the message.
Anyone have anything else to add on?
Any women have complaints about guy’s profiles?
Unless you’re into the peace-corps granola-crunching type, I wouldn’t say “Africa”. Obviously, YMMV.
When I hear “Africa”, I hear “Nigeria, Zimbabwe, AIDS”. I do not instantly think of South Africa or Egypt, which are two countries I look forward to visiting.
Of course! I’ve got a few days off of work with nothing important to do. Post the links!
Sooooo, only the nice, white parts of Africa are acceptable tourist destinations? :dubious:
Oh I’m sorry, do you routinely visit Somalia? Or other failed states? One of my BFF’s is going to work in a friggin’ AIDS clinic in a few weeks. I think she’s a nutter. YMMV.
I’m not the one who’s equating an entire continent with its worst problems. YMMV.
If you regularly vacation to Uganda, bully for you. But if you don’t, shut the fuck up.
This isn’t about nice white parts as you said - most people don’t f’ing vacation in the slums of Bombay, do they? All I was saying is don’t conjure up an image of something most people (rightfully) don’t associate with positive feelings.
Moving on…
Woah, sorry for my language SFG. I really thought this was the winter mini-rant thread :smack:. Dangit.