The Pass Over MMP

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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Oh it just gets better and better
I’ve been talking to my niece and oh it just gets better and better.

The HFH keeps going on and on about her inheritance and she is positive my mother gave me the down payment for my truck (she didn’t) and she was bitching to mom about something else mom was buying and saying it had better not come out of her inheritance. I knew that was why they don’t want my mother buy a new car, they think it’s their money. Got news for her well maybe I’d better not tell her but mom has already said she is writing both of us out of the will and it all goes to the grand kids. Fine by me. She better do it quick though because, well maybe I am over dramatic, but I think it would be better for mom’s safety that the HFH don’t know what she is doing. The HFH also admitted to my niece the only reason they are staying here is because I am here and they are determined to drive me out. I knew it.
It may be petty or not, but I don’t give a shit if I inherit anything, I do give a shit if the HFH takes everything which is what I know they are trying to do.
My niece told my mom is furious with my sister and has been for sometime…she wants them out. It probably doesn’t help that I keep pointing out the ways they are trying to take over, and the lack of respect they have for her property.
Here I was this morning trying to figure out a way to disable the AC to make them miserable, I don’t have to do a damn thing now but sit back and watch the fireworks.
I told my niece that I know if I leave first they will have mom in a nursing home before the end of the year.
Maybe I’m wrong though. I don’t know, maybe they really aren’t that evil. Its so funny though, even my niece sees it, that they are the ones with all the money and they just want more and more.
Oh well, the gloves are coming off now.

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Never underestimate evil.

And don’t for a moment believe evil doesn’t try to hide itself.

Remember, even evil people consider themselves the heroes of their life’s story. Even that great 'ole German dictator we all know thought himself a savior, not a bastard.

If you think they are evil and would destroy anyone and everyone to get what they want, you are likely right.

I speak from hard earned experience.

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The female half is my sister, although I really don’t want to claim her as such. I’ve disowned her multiple times, once after finding out she tried to sleep with my boyfriend, another time after she called me on Thanksgiving morning and told me I wasn’t welcome in her house and not to come. Then she lied and told everybody I called her and said I didn’t want to come.

The male half is her husband.

I know she is petty and jealous and conniving, I don’t know if he is as bad as she is or if he is being manipulated as well. Then again she is worse since she married him so maybe he is the greedy one.

Sometimes I’d love to contact his ex-wife and hear what she has to say. Of course it would cause a huge uproar and I’m really not the type to go sticking my nose in where it doesn’t belong. I would love to hear her side of the story though.

I knew they were lying when they said they were coming her for 2-3 months. I know they are up to no good getting all the utilities in his name. I feel sorry for mom because I think she is really having to see just what my sister is. For a long time I was the one being blamed. It’s our different personalities, my sister is very manipulative and I am more open. I am the one who will blow up and tell people like it is, she is the one who pushes and pushes and then sits back and plays innocent.

I really wonder sometimes if she isn’t a sociopath.
I thought a lot of the things she did when we were kids was just normal kid stuff but one day my friends and I were talking and they were like there is something seriously wrong with her. The things I thought were normal, they don’t seem to think so.

I know once mom had said to me that she worried about my sister because she never seemed to understand that behavior leads to consequences. If she got punished for something she never understood that it was because she did something wrong, but rather just thought my parents were being mean to her. I know little kids think that way but she carried it much longer.

I know in her mind I was the favorite and got more than she did, but that is in her mind. I was the older one, of course I got things before she did. She blew her stack and carried on so badly that dad threatened to smack her and sent her to her room when I got my drivers license because it wasn’t fair. She really got mad that my parents didn’t make me wait 4 years until she was old enough. I mean she was mad, and crying, and begging them not to let me get my license.

I don’t know, I always put it down to kid stuff.

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I know
but I also try to think what role I play in this.
There are two sides to every story and they could probably write a book about me.
But damn I do think there is a screw loose in the HFH head.

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Oh I agree. You don’t need to be a player in the play, but don’t fool yourself. You know the score.

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Doggone, **sari **- what a mess! The way your sister treats her mother and her daughter just blows my mind! How sad that one (or 2) people can screw up so many lives for no logical reason…

Not to minimize your crazy life, but I’m really worried about my MIL. She just failed her eye test for renewing her license. She’ll be 83 in a couple of months and she has macular degeneration. When we were visiting at Christmas, she said unless it’s bright and sunny out, she has trouble seeing while she drives. BUT she refuses to give up her license. She got a form from the DMV (or whatever they call it in FL) to take to her eye doctor, and if he signs off on it, they’ll give her license back. :eek:

I understand not wanting to lose your independence - it scares me, too. But I’m also terrified at the thought that my reduced ability to operate a motor vehicle safely will harm or kill someone else. For some reason, she doesn’t think of that. All she knows is she needs to drive to the hair dresser and the doctor and the grocery store. I’m so afraid that her eye doc will sign the paper and she’ll end up having a really bad accident because she’s being pig-headed.

I’m hoping **FCD **will talk to her about it when he goes down there next week. Criminy, she has a son living with her, and while he does have a job, it’s only part time, and she can easily work her schedule around his. Or she could call a cab - that can’t run any more annually than paying for insurance and gas and maintenance. I’m just really worried. Please remind me of this in 20 years when I’m trying to hold on to my license…

On the plus side, I just threw 4 pots that will become faces or monsters, plus I made an ashtray to replace the one I killed. Everything else is out and drying - I should have a kiln load soon. Yay.

Rain is still on pause - part of the pavement is even dry. But from the look of the weather radar, more will be here soon. With the cold. Dammit.

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My dad has Macular Degenration and can no longer drive (though he sees well enough to move the car around the property and do all the chores he wants to). Mom does the driving.

If / when she is done they plan to hire a helper 1 day a week to go on a chore & grocery run, or sign up for county services. They live in the country but would still be able to receive some help.

Eventually, if needed, they are lined up to go to an adult retirement village (where my uncle already is and another aunt & uncle may move to soon).

It can all be worked out. Yes it’s hard to lose the independence. What works is to show how really she won’t lose the independence. Check out senior transport opportunities where she is. Most places have it.

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**tugig **- they live in Ocala - the whole city is a gigantic retirement area. I’m certain there are all sorts of services available. I’m also certain my MIL is going to fight this the whole way. She’s a very sweet lady, but she’s also stubborn in so many ways. That’s what scares me. It’s not like us, living in the rural boonies where even getting a cab would be a challenge. Nope, it’s just one determined little old lady. And I’m pretty sure my FIL won’t push it because he’s 84 and while his eyes aren’t as bad as hers, his reaction time is not what it used to be. But denial is a powerful emotion…

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Doctors are professional and all that stuff, so I feel certain that he will give her an eye test and respond accordingly.

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Sari your Mom asked you to do what you can to help? I’m sure she was talking about the niece, but maybe you could talk to your local sheriff about evicting the HFH team? It’s easier to get forgiveness than permission, and she sounds like it would be something that she’d go along with after today’s events.

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You’re not minimizing anything** FCM**
I’m just sorry I dump here sometimes.

It makes me torn because I want to get out, I need to but I am afraid to if I go first she will never get them out. My poor niece is upset, they are talking about her taking the two oldest boys and going to live their father and his gf and he current bf will take the two youngest boys and go live with is grandmother.
Granted they got themselves into this mess, although some of it is out of their control. His mother kind of made a mess of things before she died.

Anyway, I’m sorry about your MIL and yeah sometimes it’s time to hang up the car keys. I have turned older people in to the MVA not because I want to be mean but because they really shouldn’t be driving. How would she feel if she hit a kid because she didn’t see them?
However nobody wants to admit they are getting older.

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Howdy from da cave! I’m here finishin’ up some paperirk stuff. I took advantage of a break in the weather and left the orifice. I can do what I’m finishin’ up just as well from here as there. ‘Tis 56 freakin’ degrees Amurrkin out. We are most definitely not amused.

Sari ummm… just daaaaaayuuuuuum! Here’s hopin’ your mom really has been pushed over the top by the HFH’s this time.

Know what… screw it. No more irk today. I don’t wanna. So There! :stuck_out_tongue:

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And that’s why valid Florida drivers licenses are a trope on Dave Barry’s Blog (along with people creating new drive-throughs at businesses).

{{{sari}}}

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She said she may come home tomorrow and that may be the day she takes the stand and tells them to get out. They have a rental, they can live there. The excuse is that they don’t want to have to run up and down the stairs to put the dogs out. Mom wants to bring her bedroom back upstairs so she doesn’t have to keep going up and down the steps. She has been living in the basement for the last 25 years and she wants to move back upstairs, into her old bedroom.
I don’t know, she keeps bitching to me and I told her I’m trying to get out. Honestly though I don’t think she really wants me to leave. She told me to take my time.
I know she is just mad because she has done so much for my nieces and my sister doesn’t do shit for them. My sister and her husband are paying $400/month rent and that includes utilities and they can’t even help my niece by food? My niece sent me a copy of the text my sister sent her telling her to go get welfare and section 8, that they are not going to help her.
When my sister was married the first time my parents rented a house to them at $100/month under market value (a lot of money 30 years ago). They helped her husband buy a work truck, they babysat for free, they helped her out anyway they could. My mother gave each of my nieces $5000 towards their first cars. She is giving her current car to my younger niece now (really selling it to her but at the price you may as well say she is giving it) Both of my nieces have lived here off and on. My sister kicked the oldest one out when she got pregnant at 18, told her if she got an abortion she could come back home. My niece lived here. My older niece lived her with her daughter after she and the father broke up. My sister kicked the younger one out when she was 15 or 16 because she didn’t get along with her new husband. At one point she let her husband change the locks on the doors and wouldn’t give my nieces a key because he was a cop and had a gun in the house and he didn’t want them to have any friends over.
My mother has done more for my nieces than my sister ever has.

I’m sorry I just shouldn’t be dumping.

I think my mother is just mad that my sister isn’t doing for her kids the way my parents did for her. Maybe it feels like a slap in the face to her, or maybe she feels like my sister isn’t helping because she knows the rest of us will.

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Jesus Christ.
I am so glad that I paid money to not have children.

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TAXES HAVE BEEN MAILED!!
Another headache gone

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I think the cold front has gotten here. It started raining again, then a little breeze blew thru the window and I checked again to make sure it wasn’t snow falling! :eek: Doggone, it got cold fast! So the house is closed up again, probably for the rest of the week. Freeze warning posted for tonight.

We’ve decided that supper will be whatever. Maybe I’ll have a yogurt. Or PB&J. Something quick and easy.

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Sari, if your mom does throw out the HFH make sure the next thing y’all do is change the locks. It might help to put a few booby traps in the yard as well.

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Plus we have some Mumpers who have access to or are workin’ on a shark catapault of some sort.

Dindin is et. I toasted cheese sammiches and they were sooooo good with the veggie soup! It’s cool enough out to qualify as soup weather as well. I made an executive decision that tomorrow night’s dindin shall be salmon patties, smashed n.o.t., English peas, and bizkits. A comfort food dindin in these parts.

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Sari, isn’t karma wonderful?
It’s great when a plan comes together, even if you aren’t moving the pieces into place.
Enjoy the popcorn while watching the disaster epic!