We were brought together over a birthday lunch when someone else brought up reality shows. We both connected on The Mole and Big Brother. I’d send her updates from the BB2 live feeds, and sound clips as well. She work in another division, across the street from where I work, but I often go across for lunch to chat with her. In any case, she’s my email ho. We go back and forth with our respective boy problems, and give each other advice. We even email each other at home on the weekends.
Even though I’m out at work, I only confide my feelings with this lovely woman. She is a goddess among goddesses.
I thought this was a thread about loving and appreciating your thread about your work fag-hag, so I was going to post:
“If the scott evil’s thread about his work fag-hag was so great, why haven’t I seen it?”
Then I was going to ask you when you started refering to yourself as the scott evil.
But never mind…
stv
WTF? I am totally at a loss, here. No worries, though.
She totally came through for me this weekend, and will no doubt continue to do so. She’s the voice of reason, and I’m her’s, when it comes to her boy troubles.
She’s fantastic. I’ve never had a work colleague with whom I could share such intimate thoughts and problems. She keeps me from doing stupid things…
If I were str8, and a bit less screwed-up, I’d marry her. She is astounding.
Frankly, Scott, I hope there is more to you than just being gay. I would love to read
more about things about your life without having to see that label
God, is this going to turn into another GD or Pit thread?
I AM GAY. In my own experience, it’s been a part of just about everything I do, feel, and think. It’s hard to put into words, really. matt_mcl kind of summed it up: we are gay 24 hours a day. I’m not just gay when I sleep with another guy. I’m gay all the time: at work, at home, walking down the street… You get the picture (I hope). It’s more than just the fact that I’m attracted to males rather than females. It’s who I am. It’s a culture and a community.
Now can we get back to appreciating my work fag-hag?
Just wanted to comment that for many people, being gay is a gigantic part of their lives that affects everything they say and do, so we hear about it all the time. Their names become almost synonymous with “gay”.
There are also people whose sexuality has little bearing on their lives outside the bedroom, and there is little or no automatic connection between their regular daily lives and their sexual orientation.
Some people here are in group 1. Some are in group 2. While I find people with more variety in their posts (not-so-subtle jab) more interesting, there is nothing wrong with either group and we shouldn’t expect people to post on topics they don’t really want to.
[end of brief comment and hopefully end of unneccesary hijack]
Scott, it’s nice to know that we fag hags are appreciated. Often we end up feeling like the sock left behind in the dryer, because while you are gay, she isn’t. Sharing intimate thoughts and feelings with someone of the opposite sex can lead to wanting more from the relationship, even when you really, really, really know that can’t happen.
Whew! When I started typing I didn’t know that was what I was going to say. I’m glad you’ve found such a great friend.
Don’t worry, handy. I had a spirited discourse with Scott over in the Pit that had everything to do with his work and nothing to do with his sexuality.
First of all, I’ve learned to ignore mostly everything handy says. I suggest everyone else do the same. You’ll save a lot of time and energy.
Secondly, as a fag hag myself, congrats on finding a good one. I have great female friends, don’t get me wrong. But personally, I enjoy the company of men, on the whole, more then women. However, Harry was right. Sex DOES always get in the way. Even if you’re not having it, the possibility that one of you is thinking about it spoils things. But with gay men, you have all the benefits of men, no sex to worry about, and a snappy dresser to boot! I also have a theory about how I am an extremely introspective person, and the act of coming out is a very introspective process, so I’ve found that people who have come out tend to know themselves better. I like that.
It’s an interesting phenomenon, but one I’m glad of. I enjoy the company of women, this one in particular. If I were str8, our friendship would be completely different, whether or not I were attracted to her, and even if not, made that clear to her.
She knows she can email me asking for advice on her boy problems (and she’s having them right now) and get my take on things, without any tension or personal bias on my part. Idem for me. I put her through so much of my own crap a few months ago when a relationship I was in went bad, then ended. The day after it ended, she split from her group, I split from mine, and we had a long lunch, just the two of us, to talk about things. She’s my voice of reason, and I’m hers. Strange, because we always give each other the same advice, but both of us have trouble following it…
Anyway, I’m grateful. I work in a mostly str8 male environment, and it’s great to have found someone like her.
Well, well, scott, t’was a real gay fellow in the 70s who actually told me that comment. We used
to talk about him being gay & then one day he said ‘there is more to me than being gay.’
So we talked about other stuff, like him being a human being.
Fancy that, Im actually quoting to you what another gay
man said to me & you don’t like it?
Believe it or not, all gay men do not agree about everything.
Besides, “There is more to me than being gay” and “You should not be surprised when I bring up gay topics in conversation” are not incompatible statements.
You should not expect everything I do to be informed by my gayness, but you should not expect anything I do not to be informed by my gayness either.
I am volunteering at our cities AIDS task force and the other vol’s are gay men.
Its so nice cause I don’t have to wear a bra!
Its nice sometimes to just be able to talk with a guy and not have to worry about being so friendly he thinks your coming on to him.
I don’t take sides in the infighting either (there is some).
They are all nice guys.
