When the trust is gone it is time to end the relationship.
If you feel like he or she is cheating on you and you are contemplating hacking their email or going through their text messages to prove it just break up with them instead. In the end it doesn’t matter whether they are cheating on you or not because if you don’t trust them that means there is something wrong with the relationship. If you aren’t comfortable with him going out with the guys or with her staying late at work because you don’t know what they are really doing that is a signal that you aren’t comfortable with the relationship as a whole. Don’t stick around in a relationship that makes you crazy and paranoid. It isn’t fair to you or to the person you are with if you are constantly fearful that they aren’t capable of fidelity or rational adult behavior.
I think it’s inappropriate to take a phone call during a date unless it’s a real emergency. If someone calls, and your date starts a casual conversation with the caller for several minutes … yeah, rude.
However, I’m talking about the recent phenomenon of bailout calls and safety calls. I just started dating again this year, and I don’t think I’ve been on a first date where the woman I was with didn’t get a bailout or safety call, or call a friend after a while to “check in”.
Hard to quantify, uninihibited is the word that springs to mind, but doesn’t quite cover it: I guess it’s about not just liking varied sex, but not feeling guilty about liking it, no matter what form it takes. It’s a ride.
I’d dump anyone where I felt pressure to do anything on a timeframe I wasn’t up to. Sex, marriage, kids. But I’d also dump anyone who wasn’t moving the relationship along at a pace I need - i.e. I wouldn’t want to marry someone after two weeks because they wanted to…but I wouldn’t wait five years for a proposal. Its a quick compatibility check.
Two things:
[ol][li]Make sure you like someone *before you marry them.[/li][]My ex-wife used to say, “Don’t try to change your husband. The only person who will appreciate it is his next wife.” She was right.[/ol]
Um… I can’t believe that here of all places, I need to point out that correlation does not equal causation. Enjoying sex in all its variety and for its own sake is hardly a quality you can only find in crazy people.
For what it’s worth, the sex with the last crazy guy I dated was meh.
My rule: Just pay attention. People suck at being someone else, even when they truly believe that’s who they are. They will show you who they actually are in approximately 100 ways per hour, and you will see it if you just pay attention.
True, but in my experience a lot of women bring way too much to sex: they enjoy it just fine, but there is a lot of social baggage that comes with along with it and gets in the way. Crazy chicks do it how they like cos they like.
From what I’ve seen, way it works is this: if a person is crazy, naturally enough that seriously decreases their overall attractiveness to normal people, who will tend to avoid them and not have either sex or relationships with them.
Given that people end on average to hook up with folks of approximately equal attractiveness, this means that those willing to put up with the crazy to get sex can as it were go out with people more (on the surface at least) sexually attractive then they would otherwise be able to obtain. For them, the sex may be better because they are more turned on by having a more attractive partner.
Sigh, I’ve been through this a few times with girlfriends. “I don’t think he’s at the barber shop” (the fucker was so never getting a haircut) “I counted his condoms” etc etc. Girl, it doesn’t matter what he’s doing, he’s not doing YOU!!
Hell, I’m going to get this saga off my chest.
I’m saying to her “Do you need to see his dick going into someones pussy?”. She does. Anyway one night we’re at her house and she decides to call him, it’s really late. The light goes on in the neighbours house and we see his naked silhouette creeping across the living room to answer the phone. :smack:
From what I’ve seen in relationship advice books, the “three date rule” is that if someone you met is halfway decent, you should have three dates with them to see if “chemistry” emerges. I’ve never seen that in the real world; thus, “one and done” if sparks aren’t flying.