My roommate’s a guy. He leaves the toilet seat up all the time, and I leave it down all the time. I could bitch at him for leaving it up, just as he could bitch at me about leaving it down. But it’s never been a problem, and we’ve never had to talk about it. It was simply an unspoken agreement that when you go to the bathroom, you put the toilet seat however way you need it. Leave it however you want it.
Now, I have fallen into the toilet before, and while I can’t say it was fun, or that it didn’t make me annoyed with the person who left it up, I can say that it taught me to look before I peed. I can also say that I didn’t blame it on someone else. This wasn’t my roommate’s fault, after all; I was the one who stumbled in and sat down without looking.
Whenever I go out and use a bathroom that’s not my own, I look at the seat and make sure it’s fit for sitting upon. In my experience most women do, too. Why does this stop simply because you’re in your own home? If you live with someone else, things like the toilet seat being left how you don’t want it will happen. You’re just going to have to learn to adjust.
Women who do this (and men too, for that matter) just strike me as lazy and selfish when they complain about this. The attitude seems to be: I want you to leave it the way I need it to be. I don’t want to have to touch it myself. Come on. It isn’t hard to get into the habit of putting the seat down before you sit down. It doesn’t take much effort, either. You can grab a wad of toilet paper or Kleenex if you don’t want to touch the seat. Not making an issue out of it preserves domestic tranquility. What’s the problem?