- Stepping back sometimes can actually be a step forward.
- Fear is a 4 letter word
- You dont need to be able to see a friend to be able to be a friend.
- Life sucks. wear a helmet
I have learned…
I can love someone but not like them as a person.
Love, time, and attention are the three most important things I can give my child
Always think about what you are going to say before you actually say it.
To appreciate the ones I love while they are still here and not wait until after they are gone to realize how much they meant to me.
30 is not really old.
Being a grown up is not all it’s cracked up to be.
There is no such thing as a perfect life.
Love actually does find you when you least expect it.
I have learned:
To laugh as often as possible, by seeing the comical, poignant, ironic things in life.
to keep in mind that people are people - If I want others to cut me some slack 'cause I had a bad day or no sleep or whatever, I should be first in line to do the same for them.
That communication only works when the message I’m giving is the same as the one you recieve , so if you’ve misunderstood what I said or my intentions, it’s not a big deal to me to say “sorry” - and not get bugged by "I didn’t say anything wrong.
That to be “in the right” isn’t always what it’s cracked up to be. My car got totaled last year, but dammit, I was “in the right”…
and make sure you put the gas cap BACK on before you drive away!
hmm…
Think before you speak (or write).
You won’t melt in the rain. A walk in the rain can even be fun!
Beware the Evil Temptress that is credit card debt!
The grades you receive(d) in high school, or even college, mean nothing to anyone…except, perhaps, the Admissions office at another school you are trying to get into.
Taking a warm shower on a cold, rainy day is every bit as enjoyable and enjoyable as taking a cold shower on a really hot day.
Treat others with consideration and respect and more often than not, they will treat you the same way in return.
Love unconditionally.
Birds make excellent pets!
Life goes on without you. However, if anyone would actually be better off without you, you are doing something wrong.
Unrequited love sucks.
I’ve learned that . . .
If I tell the people who love me what I need, they’ll give it to me without hesitation.
The best antidote for stress is a long hug, a hot shower, a nap, and a purring cat.
What I have and what I can get has absolutely nothing to do with what I deserve for being a “good” or “bad” person. It’s all about what I decide to go and get for myself.
Decisions about romance and sex should be made with the mind, not the heart or the hormones.
The worst roadblocks in my path are the ones in my head.
Before anything else can happen, I must take good care of myself.
It’s the easiest thing in the world to give a person a genuine compliment. It’s one of the nicest things in the world to see them smile because of it.
Don’t argue with the weather. (That is, don’t waste time trying to change things you can’t. Deal with it, do what you can about the rest, and move on.)
Self-esteem is not the solution to my problems. It’s the reward for having dealt with them.
Learn to balance your checkbook, and realize that you do not have to get the cards just because they are offered.
[QUOTE}Unrequited love sucks.[/QUOTE]
Take the chance on love. Even if it is unrequited, it means that you are experiencing life-not just observing. It may hurt, but you will be a better person for it.
Your job is not your life. It will not matter when you are dead if you closed the big deal or made the big bucks. Get a life away from work. Friends are forever. Co-workers come and go.
Trust your instincts, and more important to me(I know there are those here who do not agree) trust God.
Write letters. E-mail is nice, but can be thoughtless, because it is easy. A real card or letter can mean a lot.
If the person you love ever hits you, leave then and there. Do not waste 3 more years, weeks, hours or seconds thinking about how you love them. They are not good enough for you.
-Lsura
-Lsura
Things I’ve learned:
It’s ok to say “I Don’t Know” when asked a question, instead of trying to make up a B.S. answer.
But it’s better to say “I Don’t Know, but I’ll look into it and get back to you.” Especially when talking to a) someone you work with, or b) someone you’re trying to teach.
Worrying about a problem usually doesn’t solve it. Talking about a problem usually makes it less of a problem.
The house is probably NOT going to burn down when I’m sleeping.
It’s hard to go wrong with a spouse/S.O. who laughs at the same stupid things you do.
Sometimes YOU have to be the one to make the hard decisions, and you just have to do the best you can.
I have learned -
Shopping with your mom isn’t all that bad.
Family stories told late at night are the best.
American cats respond to French.
Waking up to birds singing is a free pleasure to be enjoyed.
Writer’s block sucks, but eventually it will be broken.
Always carry writing utensils with you. Either you’ll need them or someone else around you will.
Moms know where “lost” things are.
Friends are always your greatest supporters when you’re going through times of trouble.
Fairy tales don’t always come true, but it’s fun to try.
Every now and then, your ego needs to be deflated.
Or batteries not included.
You know, both Shayna and Ruffian commented how quiet I was at the LA doper meeting. Also, no one has ever accused me of being power hungry.
Make of that what you will.
Problem is, I’ve often found that Erika’s statement is equally true when you substitute “The serial killer” for “The most powerful person”. :eek:
When I was a little kid (okay, I’m only 14, so I’m still kind of a kid… but this was when I was around 7 years old), my parents told me “The 3 rules of life.” I still remember them. They really work:
1) Life’s not fair. (aka, “Shit happens,” “Life’s a bitch and then you die.”)
If you go through life expecting people to get what they deserve, you will be disappointed.
2) Nothing is free (aka, “There’s no such thing as a free lunch.”)
This one’s pretty self-explanatory; no matter what, SOMEBODY SOMEWHERE worked on something, even if it’s mass-produced. Just because you didn’t pay for it doesn’t make it free.
3) Nothing (or almost nothing) is fast, cheap, and good at the same time.
This usually spawns an image of a fast-food restaurant, but it can be applied to anything. Sometimes you will find something that fits 1 or 2 of those rules, but almost never will you really find something that’s fast, cheap, and good.
Things that I have learned personally:
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There are a lot of jerks, assholes, and morons out there. And there’s nothing I can do about it.
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Don’t ever ask “Why?” ask “Why not?”
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Enemies can quickly become friends, and vice versa.
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Despite some obvious differences, men and women are basically the same.
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Exercise. It’ll make you healthy, & feel better.
(you’d be surprised how long it took me to get this one.)
Being popular is not the most important thing in life.
Adversity is not always bad - it pushes you in directions you would never have tried,
T’ain’t what you do it’s the way that you do it - that song has more than a few truths.
If someone is too shy or lazy or uncommitted to fight for their rights then don’t do it for them (union rep head on here)
Pets are good for children, they teach one of the most important lessons there is - how to cope with bereavement and understand their own mortality.
Onions make you fart.
The image you bought your car for is irrelevant, everybody is too stuck up their own asses to notice you.
Don’t drink on your own.
Stay quiet and hit the one with the big mouth first.
Pain is temporary and as long as it does hurt you’re alive.
There is no such thing as too much chocolate.
If you want something then save up, you might have changed your mind by then and if you still want it then you probably needed it.
Don’t try to make your kids grow up too fast - they become jaded at an early age and don’t have the life experience to understand.
If you look pissed all the time no-one will want to know you - smile .
When you give money to a beggar don’t question what it will be used for, they have the dignity of that decision even if it’s wrong.
Read the ‘Peter Principle’ book
Venomous snakebite hurts.
The used car salesman is not your friend. He is, after all, on commission.
An infidel is a Muslim in NY and a Christian in Constantinople (Ambrose Bierce).
If it looks too good to be true, it is.
There is indeed such a thing as a free lunch, but the place has a cover charge.
I do not have to love my enemies.
Loyalty is more important than friendship.
Don’t mess with people that are strange to you (Jim Croce).
Paying your dues does not mean you get to run the club.
You can go fast, but NEVER get in a hurry.
And so forth.
This one is definitely true! Great post! (Oh… I enjoyed your homepage Ruffian) Congratulations on your engagement!
-it’s not the meaning of life… it’s the feeling of life
-if you lend someone $200 and you never see that person again, it was probably worth it
-the more I learn, the more I learn I don’t know
-there is no end to creativity
-no guy is worth your tears except the one that will never make you cry.
-talk shows are a waste of time
-the best things in life are free
-you don’t have to have money or a nice car to be rich
-you get what you deserve
-disputes should be settled through mediators, not a judge
-physical fighting doesn’t solve the problem
-ACTIONS speak louder than words
-credit cards are trouble
-rainy days can be fun
-always be confident - it shows
-stay true to your own values - people can be bad news, don’t let them influence you
-don’t forget about the little things in life
I’ve learned that a positive attitude and a smile will get me farther with people and in life than no-holds-barred aggressive determination.
I’ve learned if I do not know how to bend, I will break.
I’ve learned as bad as things seems, they could always be worse.
I’ve learned that if I’m searching the house for something and can’t find it, I should stop and look for something else. The first item I was looking for will then inevitably turn up.
I’ve learned the importance of regularly telling those close to me that I love them.
I’ve learned a true friend offers his help before the other friend needs to ask for it.
The thought I keep repeating to my new and improved positive self:
If you spend your life looking for the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, you are missing out on the beauty that is the rainbow itself.
-You have more control over yourself than those around you.
-If you can’t laugh at yourself, someone else will for you.
-Exercise is good.
-Life will get better, even if it’s crappy today.
-You can’t do a single thing about someone else’s self esteem.
-Never date anyone from work.
-Cook barbeque slowly, it’s tastier and more tender.
-Racial/Cultural predjudice is stupid, and will always exist as long as people can see differences between each other. This is sad.
-Listen to your breathing and your heartbeat when you are stressed over stuff. It helps me filter out all the noise and concentrate on the trouble.
-When someone insults you and it’s false- who cares, it’s just a word. If they are right, the problem is not theirs.
-People will do a lot of silly things if you watch long enough.
-You can learn some things about people by listening to the questions they ask you. Sometimes stuff they normally would not tell you.
-If you run, you will be chased; if you chase, they will run.
-Salad is good.
-Laughing quietly at stupid people is better than getting upset over their actions.
-Sometimes it’s important to call out sick and to go to the beach.
-When you’ve been left in the dark for too long, the light can hurt your eyes.
-Try something new at least once a week. It keeps life interesting.
-Not arguing with people who are arguing with you either pisses them off or confuses them.
-An occasional luxury is nice.
-Sometimes doing the thing you least want to do is the best thing for you.
-Internal conflicts are worse than external ones.
-Fashon is defined by the masses, style is defined by yourself.
-Wanting something does not make it a good idea.
-Think first, Do second.
-Sometimes doing something the long way is more fun.
-Wanting something is sometimes better than having it, it is not logical, but it -is- true. (stolen from Mr. Spock)
-Ignoring the phone is sometimes a good idea, even if I never seem to remember to do so.
-Telemarketers can be fun to play with.
-Being nice works better than being nasty.
-Explaining something calmly is more effective than being hysterical.
-Having respect for different cultures does not mean the end of yours.
-When a phone jockey refuses to let you talk to his/her manager, asking them in a calm, non-threatening voice to pretend that you are hysterical and <irate> is the best way to get a manager. It’s wrong, but it works; and you don’t have to verbally abuse anyone.
-Be nice until it is more effective to not be- some people won’t do anything until you are rude. It’s a shame, but true.
-Just because it is nice, does not mean it is true.
-The universe is an unreliable place to experience life.
-Drink a lot of water.
-There isn’t anything that you own that you “can’t live without”
-Rainy days can be wonderful if spent in bed with the one you love
-When you get scratched by a rambunctious kitten, don’t get mad. The little fella doesn’t realize you’re not covered in fur like he is.
-Sometimes a problem is only as big as you make it. Calm down, think rationally, and watch that mountain shrink back into a mole hill.
-Take an hour everyday to do something just for you. Take a relaxing bath, curl up with a book, or whatever catches your fancy. It is a wonderful way to relieve stress.
-There’s nothing like having to move to show you how much junk you own.
-hugs can do wonders.
Just because a relationship has ended does not mean you do not still love the person. Your feelings are not always affected by your circumstances. Always learn and remember the love you had for someone, even if you can’t stand them now.
-Richie