Nope on all counts. We were dating casually, but nowhere near being in love. It was a hell of a good way to pass the time.
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- At the time, did you believe you were in love with that first bedmate? No
- At the time, did you believe that person was in love with you? No
- In retrospect, do you still believe you were in love with that first bedmate? No
- In retrospect, do you still believe that person was in love with you? No
It was - oh, good lord, nearly 25 years ago.
I was a college freshman who just wanted to get it over with and he was a couple of years older, so I figured he probably knew what he was doing.
Voluntary in that after five hours of being plied with alcohol and pressure, I stopped resisting.
No to all four questions.
I was fifteen and had never met the guy, he worked with my brother and they planned the evening between them, waiting for a night our parents were away. My brother bought the booze and brought the guy home then left.
Just a bit of a joke for both of them.
They guy went on to use the same method on several other girls in the neighbourhood - all of them fifteen or younger. I don’t know if they had brothers who assisted him.
Yes, yes, I think so, and probably not. Um … twenty-four years ago, I think? (Geez. Am I really old enough that I could have lost my virginity twenty-four years ago without somebody going to jail?)
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PMed.
See above.
I was in junior high and believed I looked at the world differently (and looked different to the world) once Robert and I muddled through that incredibly lame encounter. I didn’t have decent sex until my 20s and didn’t have excellent sex until my 30s.
Yep, we were in love. Still are, near as I can tell, sixteen years later.
- Yes
- Yes
- No, I do not think I was mature enough at the time to know what love is.
- No, I do not think he was mature enough at the time to know what love is.
We weren’t in love oh no far from it
We weren’t searching for some pie in the sky summit
We were just young and restless and bored
Living by the sword
And we’d steal away every chance we could
To the backroom, the alley, the trusty woods
I used her she used me
But neither one cared
We were getting our share
Workin’ on our night moves
Trying to lose the awkward teenage blues
Yes, hoped so, yes, yes.
36 years ago. Yikes.
To all that answered yes, to all 4 questions AND are still with the same person…
I am in awe… (And quite frankly, somewhat envious.)
With that out of the way. 
NO, to all 4 questions. And since no one else has, yet…
What’s LOVE, got to do with it?!
With apologies to Ms. Tina Turner.
- At the time, did you believe you were in love with that first bedmate?
Yes - At the time, did you believe that person was in love with you?
Wasn’t sure - In retrospect, do you still believe you were in love with that first bedmate?
Yes - In retrospect, do you still believe that person was in love with you?
Still not sure
Yes, yes, yes, yes…we had nothing in common but lust and being nice people - there were compatibility problems. He still numbers among my friends.
Yes X4 I was married to him for 10 years. His second wife was too jealous for us to actively remain friends, but we would have if not for her. I hear from him every few years.
No X 4.
At 18, I just wanted to get it over with. The guy who I lost my virginity to was ten years older that I knew as a customer in the restaurant where I worked. I’ve run into him a couple of times over the years. No illusions for either of us. That was 30 years ago.
I thought I was in love, and I thought he loved me, but I was 17, so what did I know? I eventually married him, but we split a few years later after I found out he was cheating. That was almost 19 years ago… yikes.
No, no, no, no. This happened 38 years ago and all I could tell you about her at this late date was that she had brown hair, pale skin, and large breasts. I don’t usually focus in on breast size, but these were the largest I had seen in my young life and I guess they made an impression on me.
I was not in love with her. Pretty sure she was not in love me, but maybe a bit infatuated. She was a couple of years older than I was.
This was nearly 30 years ago.
Now, the second time…
Yes to all, but we have since separated. Seperated? Oh dear.