I thought of putting this in IMHO, but given the subject matter it may be more appropriate for here. I’ll bow to the judgment of the Lords Moderator.
This is for Dopers who were once far less approving/accepting of gay relationships and gay rights than they are now. What do you think more than anything else most softened your views on gays or made you come to see them as a more valid alternative lifestyle? Was it a more intellectual or visceral transition? I’m curious whether religious arguments, appeals to logic, knowing openly gay people, depictions of gays in media, etc., had the most affect on the largest number of people.
I make absolutely no judgments of the views anybody used to hold so don’t be embarassed to admit if you were once very anti-gay. I was a homophobe growing up even though I recognized I was attracted to men from a very early age, but I honestly didn’t think of myself as gay because gays were those guys shown on Jerry Falwell (the freakiest contingents possible of the wildest gay pride marches possible) and when they weren’t putting on drag or mincing around a room they liked to molest little boys. I was embarassingly old (early 20s) before I finally realized "gays are nice/rotten/dull/exciting/brilliant/moronic/etc.- they’re just like everybody else except they prefer to do the NahNah with their own gender. I’m curious if that’s anybody else’s experience and also how it’s changed over the years. (I was born in Dec. 66 so my formative years were 70s/80s, whereas Dopers 20 years older or younger than I am whether gay or straight probably had different experiences.)
Anyway, please include some word about your age or religious/family background if you feel it’s relevant. And drive safely.