Jack is nimble
Jack is quick
But Jill prefers
the candlestick.
[sub]I don’t know why that popped into my head.[/sub]
I miss being touched/hugs more than anything else, not so much the sex as it was regular when I was in a relationship, now I want companionship, sleeping in the same bed, all the non sex stuff. Most of the time I am not bothered by not having a sexual relationship, I guess I’m used to it and it will happen when its suposed to happen.
While in a relationship, I miss the cuddle time and hugs and human contact more than the sex. Unfortunately, my brain seems to pull a 180 on me when I’m single, and therefore I end up with a “must search for a good lay” mentality. At the moment I’m in a long distance relationship, and it’s week 3 or so since I’ve seen the boyfriend. With the both of us, that means that the next time we see each other, the first moment we have alone, we get busy, but after a couple of those sessions, we’re fine with or without sex for a week or so. It just works that way, and I’m kinda glad.
I don’t want to cuddle.
I want some now!! I am ready for a Demi/Ashton enccounter for me- me being the Demi- and some poor unsuspecting fool out there to be my Ashton.
I would like a sex toy without the batteries, please.
I only miss sex when I’m having sex that’s missable … know what I mean?
When I was single, and properly single, I would happily go without sex for quite a while. Once partnered, I couldn’t get enough. And when partnered, I masturbate far more than when single. I went through years of singlehood and LTRs without missing it much at all. Now that I’m married, I get antsy after a week or so.
catsix: surely you meant “masturbation, while free and fun, does not do the job”?
If so I agree entirely. It satisfies immediate urges but is really unfulfilling. If I want sex, only sex will do. Masturbation only passes the time.
To the OP: My wife goes nuts. I don’t.
She is really, really into sex. She would do it avery day. She would do it every way. She would do it in a house. She would do it … you get the idea.
I’ve never had a high sex drive to begin with, and after a major back injury a few years ago it is just plain painful.
I don’t get to have sex as much as I’d like, or as much as my bf (who lives with me) would like, because 1. We’re both training for a marathon and many nights we are both just too tired, and 2. he is on antidepressants, which make sex fun for him, but not Fun Enough, if yaknowwhatimean. If he’s been on them for a couple of months, things go back to normal, but if he misses a couple of pills he has to start all over.
It sucks for both of us, me because I feel bad about being the one having MOST of the fun, and him because he would much rather have Fun with me and not do it himself. When we were in an LDR (the first year and a half of our relationship) we only saw each other once a month or so, so in those couple of days we had a lot of sex. Then when we lived an hour apart, we would have sex on the weekends because that’s when we’d see each other. But since he went back on the Celexa, he just doesn’t have the drive or the ability to um, have a LOT of fun nearly as much as he did before. But I’d rather he be on the drugs and be a much happier person in general, than not on, with a high libido but a super low lust for life.
Luckily, we are both very touchy-feely people, and do lots of hugs, kisses, and cuddles regardless of the amount of sex we have, so I don’t feel so bad.
Since losing my virginity, the longest I’ve ever went without sex is two months, and that was because I was sick with female problems. I love sex, and I don’t see the point in trying to live without it. Whether I’m single or dating someone, I won’t be trying to stretch out the celibacy.
I know someone who prides herself on not having sex. I’m not sure why. It’s not like she’s a relationship only person or terribly unattractive. I think she just dislikes sex for whatever reason.
That’s kind of odd. Is it really that she prides herself on not having sex or is it that she’s proud of not needing it?
I’ve been known to go long periods without any and it really hasn’t been any big deal while I also have had friends go on and on about how they didn’t understand how I could cope. For me it really is all about the quality and not the quantity.
If it’s that the girl likes the idea of not having to have it, then maybe I can relate to her. I’m really happy I don’t feel like a slave to my sex drive like some of my friends claim to be. I have no idea what that’s like, but it must be a living hell at times.
“I think it’s good to have a break from it. You can concentrate more on other things.”
Like how much sex you’re not having? Feh. No thanks.
I’ve got a high sex drive and so does my wife. Go without for a couple of days and we’re all out of sorts. It isn’t just the physical release and sensation (fantastic though they are) - it is the emotional closeness and the bonding that goes on. Well, the bondage that goes on also helps.
To paraphrase the old saying, “I’ve been in relatioships with a little sex, and I’ve been in relationships with alot of sex. Alot of sex is better.”
She prides herself on not having it, and looks down her nose at those of us who do. She often reminds everyone that she’s a “sex camel” and can go years if need be.
I see what you mean about not “needing” it or going nuts if you don’t have it. I don’t feel I’m a slave to my sexual urges, but that I happen to have a higher sex drive than a lot of people I know. I think as long as you have a healthy outlook about sex, you can have it and be happy or not have it and be happy depending on your personal preference.
That still sounds really weird. Maybe you’re mistaking her pride for defensiveness? Maybe she feels peer pressure to have sex and feels a need to proclaim that she’s alright. Or is she hardcore religious or something?
I have friends that have thought me a prude just because they can’t relate to my lack of need or interest in casual pickups. It’s just not right for me, but it really doesn’t phase me much that they like it. I say good for them.
Not sure. She’s certainly not religious. It’s as if she believes herself to be too pristine for men. No guy is good enough, etc. All of that is fine until she acts so prissy towards those of us who get laid. Hey, if you don’t want to do it, great, but I don’t think it’s cool to act like everyone else is immoral or something. Know what I mean?
Crazy! She actually says you guys are immoral and stuff?
Well, the baby is almost six months old now so that means it has been nearly 15 months for me. That is, by far, the longest I’ve gone since I became sexually active in my teens.
For me, the first few months are the hardest because you still have some of that “body memory” and get those chills and tingles reminding you of what you’re missing. But then the memories fade and become less tangible. A life with regular sex comes to seem almost like a dream you dreamed in some other life. And never, ever, under any circumstances would I masturbate unless I had reasonable access to the real thing. I’d rather poke a sleeping lion with a big pointy stick.
She doesn’t actually say it, but there’s certainly a tone. Eh, she’s weird anyways.
I’m a 33yr old male and I’ve never been more horny.
I could have sex and then go to the grocey store and think about sex while I’m shopping.
And I don’t remember as a teenager finding older women (30s) especially attractive, but now…wow. I hope I feel this way about women my age when i’m a wrinkled up old man. Of course my eyesight won’t be as good. That will help.
Add me to the list of 31-year-old women who have a sex drive 
Masturbation is fine, and a “handy” release, but sex has become an increasingly BIG DEAL for me… Like others have said, it isn’t necessarily the physical aspect, but the connection. And I’m not afraid to admit it; I really, really, really enjoy sex. I find that regular sex keeps me on an even keel, and allows me to focus more fully on other aspects of my life.
Mr. Armadillo and I are like Gorgon Heap and his missus… that is to say, I am one great big horn-ball, and Mr. Armadillo is not, so much. My preferance would be every day, at least. If I don’t instigate, he seems to prefer a twice a week sort of pattern, maybe more on the weekends*.
We were in a long distance relationship for a while, on opposite sides of the country and would see each other a few times a year. I’d always get the “wow, how do you do it?” speil, and that always seems really dumb to me. I mean, he and my relationship with him mean far more than any random sex, so while going without for five months at a time certainly was not the happiest thing in the world, I missed him much more than I missed the sex.
If we don’t have sex for three or four days in a row, I start to get on a physical hair-trigger, where I’m hyper sensitive to any physical touch. I also start thinking about sex roughly 80923489235823520834235 times a day, heh.
On the other hand, before I was in a relationship with him, I thought about sex all the time but never felt the urge to go out and get me some, as it were. When we were apart for several months at a time, I never felt any urge to go out and get some, either. Now, I practically jump his bones the minute he walks in the door.
~mixie
*I already have the libido of a seventeen year old male, I hate to even consider what it’s going to be like when I hit my mid-thirties. I may spontaneously combust.
Well maybe if she’s not actually saying that stuff it’s possible you’re misinterpreting her? But either way, if you’re happy with your sexuality then I can’t really see how you could let her attitudes bother you.
I just found the whole thing kind of funny that there’s somebody out there who’s snobbish about not having sex and doesn’t have much reason for it, like religion. But what struck me is it reminds me of an argument I get into with a cousin a lot. She’d probably say the same things about me that you say about your friend but the funny thing is I really don’t concern myself with other people’s habits unless it’s somebody that I’m actually sleeping with. I have sex frequently when in a relationship, but when I’m not I can go indefinitely and it doesn’t bother me much. But she thinks this makes me a mutant. She on the other hand will go out for the main purpose of getting laid and almost freaks if she thinks she might go home empty handed. But I say more power to her if that’s what she wants to do, you know? I actually think its cool that we women are able to get away with that more so now than in our mothers and grandmothers days.