I’d appreciate input on a couple of recent “invite” situations we’ve recently encountered. My wife and I may be too uptight or formal, but something seems a little off to us.
First - my son is getting married next weekend. We are flying into town on Thanksgiving Day, and my son told us we were invited to his future in-laws for T-day dinner. That’s great - love to meet them. But the in-laws have never so much as sent us an e-mail or text to invite us themselves. OK, eventually, we ask our son and learned their names and address. But then our son asked my wife and me whether any other of our immediate and extended family who are traveling for the wedding intended to come for dinner. I really don’t feel it is appropriate for ME to invite someone to someone else’s home. I appreciate the intended hospitality, and am not going not this with my nose out of joint, but I just don’t feel comfortable playing this role, especially when I was not asked to do so by the hosts.
Second - when in town, one of our niece’s invited my wife and me to see her new house. We gladly accepted. The niece’s mother - my wife’s sister - asked us which of our adult children and their SOs would be joining us. Our response was to forward her our childrens’ contact info, so that she or her daughter could invite them. She said in doing so, we were making things too complicated. Similar to the first situation, I’d prefer not to extend and coordinate invites to someone else’s home.
Third - my sister who lives in the same town as me is having a few houseguests over x-mas. We thought we’d offer her a change of scenery, so we asked her if she and her houseguests would like to come over the Sunday before x-mas and we’d cook up chili and have beer and wine. My sister then sent an e-mail to other relatives, saying we were having an “open house” to which everyone was invited. Potentially doubling or tripling the number of people we had expected to host.
I just thought it odd that in the last week or 2 we encountered situations where invites seemed different than we thought they ought to go. Whaddya think? Are we completely off base by thinking that in just about every situation the invite to a person’s home ought to come from the homeowner?