On Facebook just now, noticed someone I have an outstanding “friend” request “liked” a status. Curiousity piqued (and a little masochistic), I checked her profile. Current profile pic is with her fiance (she’s someone I would’ve DEFINITELY pursued). Now I don’t care that she hasn’t “friended” me.
How do you know her in real life? *Do *you know her IRL? If you do know her, why didn’t you pursue her in the real world when you had the chance? If you don’t actually know her, well, then I think I know exactly why she didn’t accept your friend request.
Either you waited too long and lost your chance, or you never really had a chance to start with. Either way, it’s too late now, so move on.
And now I have *Loser *stuck in my head. Goddamn, it’s like high school all over again. :mad:
Some (many?) people have their profiles set to allow “followers.” Those are people that you’re not friends with, but “public” activites will show up on your newsfeed. So, when they allow “followers,” when you send a friend request, unless they or you delete you from “following”, their public activities will show up in your newsfeed (like “liking” a public posting).
And if you are going to take it so seriously, I’d recommend blocking people you masochistically check up on. When I was a wee lad of 21 (when I signed up for FB), I did that with all my exes, so even if I wanted to look them up, I couldn’t. I still do it, since I regress in age and emotional maturity when I’m drunk. It’s a safety mechanism.
Okay, I’m Facebook friends with a bunch of people from high school, and it’s vaguely interesting to see what they’re all doing with themselves now. But that’s it - I’m just satisfying my curiosity, not looking to form new lasting relationships.
I would not be particularly receptive to some guy from HS hitting on me over Facebook, especially if it was apparent that he only sent a friend request with the intent to ‘get some’, as Ambivalid so eloquently put it. I would also think it was weird if anyone from high school felt that strongly about us becoming Facebook friends. Seriously dude, I’m the same age as you, and HS was half a lifetime ago. Time to let go.